New beginning, fresh start, reinvention, or do-over are all terms that we tend to equate with major life changes. The beginning (or end) of a marriage, a move across the country, a new home, birth of a child or starting a new job.
What I’d like you to consider today is the ability you have to considerably broaden that concept by simply exercising the power you have to choose.
You can choose to create a fresh start in a relationship by forgiving someone (or yourself), changing your attitude, letting go of the past, creating a new habit or banishing an unwanted one.
You can choose to do the work to redeem yourself for hurting someone, failing to fulfill a promise or behaving badly.
You can choose to stop using “but it’s hard” as an excuse to avoid reaching beyond what’s comfortable to change or leave an unacceptable situation or to do the work to achieve your dreams and goals.
And you can choose to face your fears of uncertainty and change to embrace all the opportunities within a future that is different from the one you originally planned.
Reflections on Creating New Beginnings
The greatest power you possess is your understanding that life gives you a fresh start any moment you choose. ~Guy Finley
Sometimes life takes unexpected turns. Sometimes we hide the very core of our existence because we fear the judgment of others. Sometimes the universe shifts and we are provided with a brief moment to begin anew. These moments allow us to become fearless and let our perfectly created souls shine. ~Cori Garrison
Redemption just means you make a change in your life and you try to do it right this time. ~Ice T
Your dignity can be mocked, abused, compromised, toyed with, lowered and even badmouthed, but it can never be taken from you. You have the power today to reset your boundaries, restore your image, start fresh with renewed values and rebuild what has happened to you in the past. ~Shannon L. Alder
You can start anew at any given moment. Life is just the passage of time and it’s up to you to pass it as you please. ~Charlotte Eriksson
Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. When there’s a big disappointment, we don’t know if that’s the end of the story or not. It may just be the beginning of a great adventure. Life is like that. We don’t know anything. We call something bad; we call it good. But really we just don’t know. ~Pema Chödrön
I’ve learned that sometimes you need to let go of everything you’re clinging to and start over, whether because you’ve outgrown it or because it’s not working anymore, or because it was wrong for you in the first place. ~Kelly Cutrone
Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday. Every day is a fresh start. Each day is a new beginning. every morning we wake up is the first day of our new life. ~Author Unknown
Live your life, don’t let it live you. If you’re not happy right now, just know that it’s never too late to start over. ~Author Unknown
So what do we do? Anything. Something. So long as we just don’t sit there. If we screw it up, start over. Try something else. If we wait until we’ve satisfied all the uncertainties, it may be too late. ~Lee Iacocca
Instead of saying, ‘I’m damaged, I’m broken, I have trust issues’ say ‘I’m healing, I’m rediscovering myself, and I’m starting over.’ ~Horacio Jones
Starting over can be the scariest thing in the entire world, whether it’s leaving a lover, a school, a team, a friend or anything else that feels like a core part of our identity but when your gut is telling you that something here isn’t right or feels unsafe, you really need to listen and trust in that voice. ~Jennifer Elisabeth
What you leave behind says as much about you as what you bring along. ~Jacquelyn Middleton
It’s amazing, really, how in one instant a wall can be torn down or climbed over. Misconceptions can be shattered, illusions dashed, dreams irrevocably ruined. Given the right frame of mind, within a heartbeat, people can begin the business of starting over. ~Tamara Thiel
Never underestimate the power you have to take your life in a new direction. ~Germany Kent
This is life. Things get taken away. You will learn to start over many times — or you will be useless. ~Mitch Albom
At the end of the day, your life is just a story. If you don’t like the direction it’s going, change it. Rewrite it. When you rewrite a sentence, you erase it and start over until you get it right. Yes, it’s a little more complicated with a life, but the principle is the same. And don’t ever let anyone tell you that your revisions are not the truth. ~Tyler Jones
Birthing is never easy or without pain, be it a universe, a child, or a fresh start in life. Contraction precedes expansion. Darkness comes before dawn. Joy follows pain. This is the way of things. ~John Mark Green
Failure hurts because we wanted a different outcome, but then we make it hurt even worse by creating a narrative around what happened. So, instead of creating that debilitating narrative, I think we’re better served realizing that now we have an opportunity to pivot – to take our life in a different direction. ~Chris Hill
It’s good to start over. It will be scary but you will see what you’re really made of; it’s the best opportunity to achieve what you never thought you could. ~Jennifer Coletta
You may not see it today or tomorrow, but you will look back in a few years and be absolutely perplexed and awed by how every little thing added up and brought you somewhere wonderful – or where you always wanted to be. You will be grateful that things didn’t work out the way you once wanted them to. ~Author Unknown
Whatever change you long for, whatever dream or goal you aspire to achieve … begin by choosing to embrace the power of you have to create new beginnings.
Will you be the driver or the passenger on your life journey? About Marquita A. Herald
Marquita is an author, resilience coach and the chief evangelist at Emotionally Resilient Living. She’s also an unapologetic workaholic who loves red wine, rock n’ roll, road trips (and car dancing!), peanut butter cookies and (especially) a dog named Lucy.
She’s saddened and frustrated by excuses and cruelty and believes authentic compassion is the most powerful force in the world.
To learn more about Marquita and the mission of Emotionally Resilient Living click “here“.
Seven months ago I embarked upon a journey to follow a calling from within. I packed up my life in backpack and a few boxes, and left to explore the world. I was excited about the unknown and what was to come from there. Ready to live every experience I felt a freedom I have never felt before.
Following my gut I made my way through the Atlantic provinces of Canada and eventually to the other side of the ocean. Every step seemed like a fresh start. From the foot of the Pyrenees in France, I started walking, meeting incredible people, and opening up to the world. My days on the Camino to Santiago were some of the most treasured moments of my life. I felt, both, an unrest and source of peace within. I wanted to continue on this path, to find ways to serve, and be among those also seeking something deeper in life. I found myself in unfamiliar equilibrium.
Ask any peregrino and they will tell you that magical things happen on the Camino de Santiago. The pilgrimage has blessed me with all it’s bounty: good friends, valuable lessons, and life that I am about to set foot in – I am leaving the bachelor life to marry a wonderful partner to share my life adventures with.
Our story begins by walking the final 300 kilometers of our journey to Santiago, together. I could not have asked for a better love story or a better life partner. Following our days on the Camino, Maria encouraged to continue to travel whilst she returned home in Romania. After hopping back and forth between Africa and Europe, many emails and Skype calls, I finally flew to her in Timisoara, Romania. Several months and many journeys later we have decided to tie the knot this Saturday in Karachi, Pakistan. On Monday we are starting a new project to provide education and empowerment to children living in some of the poorest communities in the world with The Lotus Project.
I sit here today, a day before my fiancee arrives in Karachi, I reflect upon the past year. I am filled with with gratitude. I am thinking about myself a year ago when I was planning for this year. If I could send a message to myself in the past, this is what I would say:
“You can not plan life, you can only live it.“
About The Author
Travel writer + photographer, designer, community builder, a happy father, and loving every bit of my journey around the world!