pray over (something)
To utter prayers to God or some other deity in order to receive guidance or solace about some issue. I’ve spent many nights praying over this, but I just can’t find it in my heart to forgive you. If ever I’m in doubt about what to do, I find a quiet, peaceful place and pray over it.
pray over something
1. to say grace over a meal. Do you pray over your meals? We prayed over dinner just after we sat down to eat.
2. to seek divine guidance about something through prayer. I will have to think about it and pray over it awhile. I’ll have an answer next week. She prayed over the problem for a while and felt she had a solution.
Whether you saw it coming or not, a break up is never easy. In fact, more times than not, a break up can cause you to question everything in your life. You may find yourself questioning whether you’re good enough within other aspects of your life that you normally would be confident in. If you allow it, rejected feelings endured from a break up can send you into a state of depression. Even though everyone around you is telling you that it’s going to be okay, your heart is uttering something different. However the reality, even though it may not feel like it, is that one day you will be able to put the pieces back together and feel whole again.
While you’re mourning your relationship, turn to prayer to move on after a break up. You’ll discover a newfound view on relationships; moreover, you’ll discover a closer bond with your relationship with your Lord and Savior as well. Psalm 34:18 represents the Lord’s love for you as His child. The scripture says, “The Lord is near to those who are discouraged; He saves those who have lost all hope.” More than ever, the Lord is listening to your words and striving for you to see that. You may be asking yourself, “Why is God allowing me to hurt?” As a child of Jesus Christ, it’s imperative that you understand every instance in your life has a meaning – ultimately, there is a lesson to be learned. God’s plan is reiterated in Jeremiah 29:11, “I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for.” Everything will eventually make sense and that moment of awe is right around the corner.
The worst thing that you can do, while going through a break up, is to allow yourself an indefinite period of self-pity. It’s understandable to be heart broken and sad; however, it is inexcusable to allow the sorrow to take over your life. Without pain, you would never truly appreciate the glories of life and the feeling of true love. Try this prayer – you’ll find that the wise words cover the array of feelings and emotions you’re experiencing.
Lord, thank You for being You and for Your willingness to be here with me during this time. It’s been difficult lately with this break up. You know that. You’ve been here watching me and watching us together. I know in my heart that if it was meant to be it would have happened, but that thought doesn’t always mesh with how I feel. I’m angry. I’m sad. I’m disappointed.
You are the one I know I can turn to for comfort, Lord. Provide me with reassurance that this was the right thing for me in my life, as it is right now. Lord, show me that there are so many great things in my future, and offer me solace in the thought that You have plans for me and that one day I will find the person that fits with those plans. Assure me that You have my best intentions in mind, and while I don’t know what all of those intentions are, this wasn’t a part of them. That one day you’ll reveal someone new that will make my heart sing. Allow me the time to get to that point of acceptance.
Lord, I just ask for Your continued love and guidance during this difficult time, and I pray for the patience of others as I work through my feelings. Every time I think of the happy times, it hurts. When I think of the sad times, well, that hurts, too. Help those around me understand that I need this time to heal and work through that pain. Help me understand that this, too, shall pass for me. That one day the pain will become less, and remind me that You’ll be there right with me the whole time. Though I may have difficulty letting go, I pray that You surround me with people that help me through and lift me up in prayer, in love, and in support.
Thank You, Lord, for being more than just my God in this moment. Thank You for being my Father. My friend. My confidante, and my support. In your Name, Amen.
Break ups are the furthest thing from easy. Use this time to reevaluate who you are what you want to be as an individual. Assess things from a different lens, by identifying where you are in life and where you want to be. Most times, when you’re in a relationship, an individual makes decisions around their partner. While this understandable, it’s’ important to identify what you really need and want out of life – make sure you’re striving to achieve happiness for you and not someone else. As odd as it may sound, learn to embrace this difficult time and look for ways you can cultivate a stronger bond with your Lord and Savior through prayer.
Accept that you will need to be patient and learn that time will heal all wounds.
A tried and true and much used method of getting over a man, is to fall in love with another. There are a few drawbacks to this strategy, however. First, there seems to be a chronic shortage of men around with whom one is likely to fall in love. Also, even assuming a plentiful supply of easily lovable men, it’s not everyone who can fall in love on demand. Most importantly, more times than not, if you are able to transfer your love right away from man #1 to man #2, the relationship with man #2 is probably nothing more than a rebound relationship and doomed to fail. The rebound with man #2 might not even last long enough to get you over man #1. The rebound might even backfire, and, instead of getting you over man #1, make man #1 look better than ever by comparison.
A different, more promising, approach to getting over a lost love was suggested to me twice last month by two different friends. One friend had just broken up with her guy and was living out her advice to me in real time. The other friend has been waiting , alternately with and without much hope, for years and years to be noticed by the man she loves. She has great familiarity with the “how to get over him” process. Their advice: pray about it. Ask God to help you to get over him. Ask for help in letting go of someone whom God has already said no about for you. This is a very sound strategy. The only trouble with this strategy is that, in actual practice, it turns out that praying such a prayer, and believing God to do it, is quite difficult. Believing God to help us to yield to His will and to stop loving, when the Spirit that lives inside of us is Love Itself, is not only quite difficult, but, now that I think of it, quite possibly irrational.
As good as it might be to fall in love with another man, that can only happen when it happens. As right as it might be to pray to get over loving the one our heart loves, I haven’t, personally, been able to wholeheartedly pray that prayer yet. When it comes to my feelings for WB, my head prays to be over him, but my heart loves on. And this is how it is:
Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything .
Love never fails .
1 Corinthians 13:7-8 (AMP)
I am inclined to believe that, though there is room in my heart for me to love others, there will never be a time when my heart does not love WB. I have loved him, I do love him, I will love him. Resistance is futile and I surrender. That is my strategy. The only problem with this strategy is that it requires learning how to experience and to express an irrepressible love in ways that are healthy. Like, instead of thoughts of him leading to obsession over him, thinking of him might lead to praying for him (and not “Me and Him”!). For me, love has to stop being an internalized, self-focused, perplexing and frustrating place. Love has to be free to be loving, even and especially towards the one whose love I am denied. This is God’s way of loving us, no?