Praying for my estranged daughter Ashley to Honor her mother. She’s been a very disrespectful child to me since around the age of 12. Now that she’s grown NOTHING has changed. In fact it’s gotten worse. Praying for God to soften her heart as it is hardened towards me, her mother. Praying that God allows his angels to come into her dreams and chase her until her soul surrenders to God’s will. Praying that her family members and her friends who encourage her to be disrespectful to me and who laugh with her when she’s saying disrespectful things to me, that God would start to remove them out of her life. Praying that she will come to terms with asking me for forgiveness and have a mind to want to reconcile. Praying that God breaks all the strongholds that cover her mind, body, and soul…in Jesus name! Amen
Praying for this young lady. Any encouraging words or advice for her?
Prayer for those who don’t get along with their parents; Prayer for estranged family members
Good morning friends. I read this post earlier this morning: “What should I get mother”? It talks about a woman’s journey in her strained relationship with her mom. I am so thankful and happy her story has a happy ending, or shall I say a happy new beginning? She calls what happened a “redefining moment“.
I read through some of the comments on that post, and it was so disheartening to see how many people experience difficult relationships with their parents – even in their old age! Yes, I have heard of many other sad situations in the past. I guess I will unfortunately still hear of more sad situations in the future – where parents, children, and other family members just seem to have such painful, tumultuous relationships. I remember the other day a woman in her 60’s was talking about how she still has so many serious problems with her mom, who is now in her 80’s!
Some people have told me stories of thankfulness tinged with regret, how they had difficult relationships with a parent until the very end, maybe a few months or days before this parent passed away. They experienced such joy and gratitude when these relationships were restored, but their gratitude was tinged with some regret, because they wished they could have experienced this restoration years and years ago.
Other people have shared with me stories of pure regret, where they wish they had made more of an effort with their parents before they passed away. They wish they could turn back the hands of time.
This morning, I am praying for everyone who has a difficult relationship with a parent. I am praying for those who experience stress, pain, and frustrations from dealing with their parent(s) on a regular basis. I am praying for those who are barely hanging on, for those who have almost given up, and for those who have completely given up on a relationship with their parents.
This morning, I am praying for everyone who has an estranged family member – be it an estranged mother, father, daughter, son, sister, brother, cousin, uncle, aunt, husband, wife, or child. I am praying for you all today. As you read, I pray that God will use this post as a point of contact. As you read, let us together go before the throne of grace!
I pray that by God’s grace and in Jesus name, you will find your “redefining moment“. I pray that God will turn things around and that in the ways that truly matter, you will find new beginnings in your relationship with each other. I pray that God will grant you patience, wisdom, and understanding. I pray that God will guide you and teach you and help you to know what to do, what to say, and what not to say. I pray that God will heal you, comfort you, restore you and strengthen you. I pray that God will help you to let go of the past and look ahead to the beautiful future He has in store for you!
Dear Friend, I pray that you will always remember that even though you can’t control other people’s actions, you can always control your own behavior. I pray that you will never underestimate God’s mighty power. I pray that even when it seems like it is taking so long, you will keep doing your best with God’s help, and you will keep on trusting God for the best. I pray that through it all, you will continue fixing your eyes on God.
I pray that you will find your redefining moment, to the glory of God! I pray that your stories and your lives will be testimonies of God’s goodness, of God’s mercy, and of God’s grace! I pray that you will experience peace that passes all understanding. I pray that the enemy will be ashamed on our account, and God will be glorified! In Jesus’ mighty name I pray, Amen.
Romans 14:19, NIV Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.
Isaiah 26:3-4, NLT You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you! Trust in the LORD always, for the LORD God is the eternal Rock. (Amen)
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Making Peace ; Moving On ; & Never Giving Up.
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Have a wonderfully blessed, stress-free, productive, and joyful day!
Much Love & Blessings,
Bomi Jolly ~ JollyNotes.com
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Relationships can be difficult, but when it comes to family they can be heartbreaking if things go astray. Having an estranged family member, whether it be a sibling, child, parent or someone in your extended family, comes with stress and frustration. God wants us to look past these negative feelings and turn to him in our time of need. It does not matter whose fault the broken relationship is, what stage of grief you are in, or if you plan to reconnect with the family member. God wants us to be open and communicate our feelings and anxiety with him – God will listen! God has a plan in motion for the future relationship for you and your estranged loved one. Trusting in God will help you get through the difficult times, such as the holidays. Here are six prayers to help you get through the pain of having an estranged family member.
Prayer of Safety: Lord, I miss my family member dearly and I worry about their safety, happiness and health daily. I don’t know the simplest of things, like if their basic necessities are being met. Lord please watch over them! Please provide them with the tools they need to live and lead a successful, peaceful and joyful life. I want nothing more than for them to be safe, despite all of my grief and anger. My personal anguish shall not triumph what your Son taught us – to love all. I love my family member no matter what, and I pray for their safety during this time. Please continue to push me in the correct direction and put my own ideals and selfishness aside as I move forward. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Prayer for Reconciliation: Heavenly Father, I do not know where to begin to start rebuilding a relationship with my estranged family member. I miss them dearly, but I know the damage of the past bears down on them and our relationship. I fear being able to reach out to them and fear rejection. I pray for guidance to say the right things and courage to take the high road. Father, I know you want our family to be together and to show each other love, support and positivity. I know I have failed you in the past. Today I begin to take the steps forward to fix this broken relationship and I only ask that you help wrap your loving arms around me during this time. Amen.
Prayer for Forgiveness: Our Holy Father, I have made mistakes in this relationship and I ask for forgiveness and repentance of my sins. I have disobeyed you and broken the trust you had in me. I have left a family member out of my life and have not shown them the love and kindness all of your children deserve. I know that they have made mistakes too, and I pray for continued forgiveness of their sins. I work hard to forgive them daily as you would want me to do. At the end of the day I shall always love them for being a part of the beautiful family You have provided me with. No matter the mistakes, negative feelings, and evil that comes into my heart I will forgive my family member and ask for forgiveness with you. Please continue to guide me during this time. Amen.
Prayer for Peace: Lord, I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that my family member will no longer be a part of my life and it is something I have to accept. While I do not wish to lose someone near and dear to me, I will work towards moving forward and providing those in my life with the love and blessings they still deserve. I will not show anger, fear or frustrations to others. I pray you help me remain positive and peaceful. During this difficult time when things all look bleak, I ask that you wrap your arms around me and support my broken heart. I love my family members and only wish the best for them. Guide me to the path they are supposed to take in life. Grant me the peace, strength and serenity to get through this time. Amen.
Prayer for Shrinking the Distance: Heavenly Father, The distance between me and my estranged family member is almost too much to bear anymore. I don’t want to live a life of grief and despair. I have realized my faults and want to shrink the distance between us, but I do not know how or where to begin. Please grant me the knowledge and skills to learn! I want to reach out to them and show them the love and care they deserve. The love and care that I should have already been granting towards them. I apologize for my failure and cause in this situation. Please bring them back closer to me – please let them see how I want to help slowly build a bridge back to a strong and positive relationship. Amen.
Prayer of Thanks: Lord Above, I thank you for my family member, even if they are not with me now. The time we had together holds many memories that I will keep in my heart forever. I know they have made this choice without me, but I forgive them and will wait patiently for their return if they choose to do so. During this time of waiting, I will appreciate what we had together and thank YOU for blessing me with their presence. Please bless me with peace and serenity during the times of darkness and sadness. Amen.
Losing a loved one due to an estrangement can be difficult for all those involved. Praying to the Lord for guidance, knowledge and strength will help you get through the most difficult of times. When feeling lost or confused, remember Proverbs 3:5 which states “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding”.
Parenting sometimes involves enduring times when the relationship with a child is strained and even severed for extended periods. Christian parents are not immune to family conflict, but they do have the comfort of knowing that God cares for them and their child, no matter the circumstances. Parents can communicate with God with heartfelt prayers of intercession and petition.
If you are in the midst of an estrangement from your son, you probably feel discouraged and sad. Ask God daily for comfort. He can give you peace of mind and heart even more than well-meaning friends and family can because He cares for your son even more than you do. Isaiah 66:13 tells us, “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you.”
When you are uncertain about what you should do during the estrangement, ask God to guide you with His wisdom. You might tell God that you don’t know what to ask or say. According to scripture, the Holy Spirit communicates this to Him. Romans 8:26 says, “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.” Pray for direction each day. God will reveal to you the steps, if any, you should take regarding your son.
If your son is estranged because of his choice to live an ungodly lifestyle, pray that he will come under the conviction of the Holy Spirit, feel remorse and repent. Psalms 25:8 assures us that “He instructs sinners in his ways.” If your son is not a Christian, pray that the Holy Spirit would draw him and cause him to realize his need for God. It may take years of “fervent, effectual prayer” as described by the apostle James, but God promises that these type prayers are powerful and can produce wonderful results.
Reconciliation is usually the most hoped-for outcome after an estrangement, although some extreme circumstances won’t make that possible. Hopefully, you and your son’s relationship can be restored. Ask God to give you and your son a heart of forgiveness and love and the ability to let the past go. As His word tells us throughout the Bible, God will forgive our sins when we repent and “remember them no more.” Pray that you can follow that example.