by Claudia (Texas)
Dear Lord I pray again to you today.
To heal my marriage in your way.
To give me strength to stay the course.
Lord I don’t want my marriage to end in divorce.
I want the kids to have both of us.
To know you as the person to trust.
Help us both to see.
That this is something you meant to be.
What you have joined together let no one put asunder.
Break the bondage that Satan has put us under.
I believe in you word and trust what it says.
Lord I cry out to you, I lift up my hands.
Lord start the change in me.
Let my husband see You and your love through me.
Help us to forgive and move past all the pain.
Help us to love each other again.
He is flesh of my flesh, and bone of my bone.
Dear Lord help my husband come back.. Take away anyone and anything that would inspire temptation for my husband.
I know through you is the only way.
Lord I pray this again today.
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by Tamara (California)
Please renew, restore, and bring a miracle of reconciliation to my marriage. Remove all the anger, hate, resentment, complications and thoughts of divorce from my husband’s mind about me. Instead soften his heart and feel it with the love he once felt for me. Lord reveal to my husband his sins and block all others or paths that are leading him away from me. I know you do not believe in divorce and you do not make mistakes on who you choose for us to marry. I ask for my husband’s salvation, that he realize I am not the enemy but his wife who God selected as his mate and loves him with all my heart. Teach my husband and I both how to respect, appreciate, listen to each other and realize one another’s worth in our marriage. Lord guide my husband to you, our marriage, church, and surround him with Christian men. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
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Prayer can involve so much more than you think, as people may turn to it for personal guidance during a difficult time. If you are in need of help or strength to prevent a divorce, it might be time that you develop your own prayer.
With couples around the world turning to God during the most difficult times in their lives, it is easy to understand how you can feel comfort, resolve, and reassurance by reaching out to a higher power.
Whether you are looking to stop a divorce from happening or want to deeply examine yourself and your relationship, this guide can help you learn how to stop divorce with the help of prayer.
The first thing you are going to need to do is determine what the problem is in your life and your relationship. Is divorce being threatened because of personality conflicts? Or did one person betray the trust of another?
By taking the time to identify what the underlying issues are, you could have a clearer idea of what you need to ask God to help with. Targeted prayer is only going to work if you know what you are looking for.
It is time to reflect and figure out what it is that you want out of your marriage. Is it something as simple as stopping the divorce before the proceedings actually start, or are you searching for something more?
To determine whether you should be praying for yourself or your loved one, you are going to need to reflect on the issues that you have within your marriage.
If you ask yourself what you can do to help make your relationship stronger, it could give you the right foundation for correcting any wrongs and building a stronger marriage.
You know what you are looking for and what you want out of your marriage. Now it is time to develop the prayer.
Make sure that you include all of the things you are seeking help with. For example, you could let God know that you need strength to become more understanding about your spouse’s concerns.
If you have been pushing all of the blame onto your significant other, you could ask for forgiveness regarding your own sins. At the end of the day, your spouse may be seeking divorce because of something you have done.
Also be sure to ask for guidance and support for your loved one, as they will also be going through a difficult time and will need to rely on the help of God.
Reciting the prayer could be the most important part of the process, as it can help remind you of positive affirmations to keep you motivated towards repairing your marriage.
Do you find yourself dealing with a difficult day, or are you reflecting on issues that you encountered in the past? Either way, you could try ensuring that you recite the prayer as often as possible.
You might even find that if you ask your spouse to pray with you at the beginning and end of every day, it can help strengthen your bond—not only with each other, but with your faith as well.
Prayers courtesy of Prayer Closet Ministries.
1. “Father, I pray that You will deliver myself and my husband/wife from self-centeredness. Grant that I and my husband/wife will have a servant’s heart” (Ephesians 2:3; 2 Timothy 3:2; Matthew 20:28; Philippians 2:5-11).
2. “Father, in the name of Jesus, I pray that You would bind the work of Satan from this marriage. He would love nothing more than to destroy our marriage. I ask You to stop His work in our lives and destroy his attacks against this marriage” (John 8:44; Genesis 3:11-13).
3. “Father, I plead that we will speak the truth to one another in love. Cause us to honestly share our feelings without being arrogant or spiteful. Through love and honesty, enable us to work through our differences” (Ephesians 4:25; 1 John 4:7, 11).
4. “Father, I plead that You would bring us into a more intimate relationship with Yourself. Cause us to long for You as the deer longs for water. Grant us a hunger in their soul for You. Create within us a spirit of prayer, especially for each other” (Psalm 42:1-2, 63:1; John 17:3; Colossians 4:2).
Divorce can be an incredibly difficult, traumatic experience, especially for couples that entered their marriage with the thought of being together forever. You might think that the threat of divorce means that marriage is finite, but it does not have to be. By working together through the help of prayer, you can strengthen the bond between spouses and work towards repairing your relationship.
In the middle of the verses pertaining to divorce, Allāh the Most High says:
- 1 حَافِظُوا عَلَى الصَّلَوَاتِ وَالصَّلَاةِ الْوُسْطَى وَقُومُوا لِلَّهِ قَانِتِينَ
- 2 وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ
- 3 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَأْكُلُوا الرِّبَا أَضْعَافًا مُضَاعَفَةً
- 4 وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا
- 5 اهْبِطُوا بَعْضُكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ عَدُوٌّ
- 6 فَخَلَفَ مِنْ بَعْدِهِمْ خَلْفٌ أَضَاعُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَاتَّبَعُوا الشَّهَوَاتِ
- 7 وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ
حَافِظُوا عَلَى الصَّلَوَاتِ وَالصَّلَاةِ الْوُسْطَى وَقُومُوا لِلَّهِ قَانِتِينَ
Take care to do your prayers, especially the middle prayer, and stand before Allāh in devotion. (2:238)
I think that we have an indication here that there is a key connection between being careless with our prayers, and divorce.
That’s because the placement of verses in a sūrah is something set by Allāh and has not been left to human choice. Furthermore, the presence of a verse covering a certain subject A amongst other verses covering another subject B, indicates the importance of the specific subject A in the general context of things.
An example of this is His statement:
وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ
(O Prophet) If My servants ask you about Me, I am near. I respond to those who call Me. (2:186)
This verse comes right in the middle of the verses pertaining to fasting. Its indication? The recommendation to make du‘ā and that du‘ā is more likely to be accepted during fasting, or in the month of fasting. This is something many people are careless about when they fast.
Likewise, the prohibiting of interest in the statement of the Most High:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَأْكُلُوا الرِّبَا أَضْعَافًا مُضَاعَفَةً
O you who believe, do not consume interest, doubled and redoubled. (3:130)
This appears in the middle of the verses pertaining to Jihād in Sūrat Āle-‘Imrān. Its indication? That it is an absolute must that one stays away from interest if one truly wants victory. Reflect on the subtlety of this point and how our own individual financial affairs affect the wider picture.
As you can see, this placing of a verse amongst others covering a different subject, is a Qur’ānic principle that one should always be aware of when reflecting upon the Book of Allāh.
And so, with respect to the prayer, Allāh jalla wa ‘alā commanded His Prophet (ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam):
وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا
Order your people to pray, and pray steadfastly yourself. (20:132)
This command occurs after Allāh ‘azza wa jall mentioned how the disbelievers have been given everything in this dunya to enjoy themselves with and how it’s actually a fitnah for them – a test and a trial. Yet the prayer assists the slave to stave off the fitnah of this dunya and its associated trials. Reflect on the fact that the “dunya” and such matters are the cause of much marital discord between partners.
Allāh jalla wa ‘alā also told us that the prayer helps shun outrageous and unacceptable behavior (al-faḥshā’ and al-munkar), again two key common reasons for marital arguments.
Notice how the prayer purifies our nafs (best understood here as our inner-self or ego), and how the nafs then rises to the heavenly realm as a result of prayer. And then notice how outrageous behavior or al-fawāḥish dirties our nafs and brings it down. Indeed, every time our nafs ascends to the higher realm, we become closer to one another, in love and unity. And when our nafs falls, our differences only increase. Just as Allāh the Most High says:
اهْبِطُوا بَعْضُكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ عَدُوٌّ
“Get out, all of you! You are each other’s enemy.” (2:36)
See how Allāh compared the falling down and getting thrown out of Heaven (the hubūṭ, from the command اهْبِطُوا) to enmity? All this enmity originally came from the inner-self failing and indeed falling, due to sin: the sin of Iblīs was to not prostrate which is an action of the prayer, and the sin of Ādam (‘alayhis-salām) was to eat from the Tree, which is effectively succumbing to one’s desires, something which the prayer is special treatment for, as Allāh the Most High says:
فَخَلَفَ مِنْ بَعْدِهِمْ خَلْفٌ أَضَاعُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَاتَّبَعُوا الشَّهَوَاتِ
But there came after them generations who neglected prayer and were driven by their own desires. (19:59)
So Allāh made the neglecting of prayer a reason to follow one’s base desires, or put another way: you will become enslaved to your own desires if you neglect the prayer.
Finally, when Allāh jalla wa ‘alā explained how the believing men and women support one another – “support” here including love and unity with one another – He again mentioned the prayer. This clearly indicates that when one protects and takes great care over their prayer, it will lead to love between the believers:
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ
The believers, both men and women, support each other; they order what is right and forbid what is wrong; they keep up the prayer. (9:71)
In summary, establishing the prayer properly will bring people closer to Allāh. It will stave off outrageous actions and unacceptable behavior, and so you will not hurt your partner. It will create discipline and strengthen your resolve against your base desires so that you will not succumb to that which so many marriages fall prey to. It will allow their inner-selves to rise, and become closer to one another, making Shayṭan weak who encourages division and enmity. This divine protection through the prayer will eventually increase the love and harmony between husband and wife, and the need for divorce will hopefully diminish by the Will of Allāh jalla wa ‘alā.
And Allāh knows best.