How to pray for someone with an addiction

How can you frame your prayers for someone who is struggling with addiction? We offer some suggestions here. Then, we invite your questions, comments, or experiences about praying for someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol at the end.

An addict makes her own choices

Many times, when we have a loved one who is addicted, the best thing we can do is stand back and let them make their own choices. It can be upsetting to watch them make unhealthy and self-harming decisions, but that doesn’t mean that we are completely helpless when it comes to recovery.

Q: What can you do about it?
A: Pray

“Son, my father told me recently, the only true weapon that had any effect on me…was to pray. There were even times I could feel the prayers and many days they gave me a new courage to take a step.”  

My father struggled with alcoholism for many years, and until he was ready to make the change, we were unable to save him from his choices. However, what we could do was pray.

6 things to pray for

Here are six things you can pray for regarding an addict:

1. Pray for acknowledgement.

Pray that your loved one will realize they have an addiction and that they are hurting themselves and others around them.

2. Pray that they move past self-pity and loathing.

After my father had gained awareness about his disease, he had to move past the hate, shame and guilt he put on himself after years of addiction. Pray that they will understand how valuable their lives are that that their experiences could one day be used to help heal others.

3. Pray for desire to heal.

After my father moved from self-loathing and pity, he was finally ready to seek healing. However, he had to find a reason to heal that was stronger than his desire to drink. Pray that the addict in your life finds the reason they want to quit, and it will help them move past their substance abuse.

4. Pray for properly trained support.

Addicts needs support that is not only physical but spiritual. They need help figuring out their triggers, turning points, and what gives them the courage to get through the day. Pray that the addict in your life not only finds support from family and friends, but also finds strong accountability.

5. Pray that God gives them the strength.

Addicts have to make the choice NOT TO USE DRUGS OR ALCOHOL each and every day. They have to choose to go against their desire and choose the healthiest path. Pray that God helps your loved one to choose the path and keeps them whole.

6. Pray for forgiveness.

Breaking the cycle of addiction is not easy. The addict in your life may take a couple steps forward, and a couple steps back. Pray that you can offer the forgiveness they need when they make mistakes. Moreover, be willing to forgive many times as they walk this difficult path toward recovery.

Our prayers have value

My father has worked incredibly hard to work past his addiction to become a healthy person. I am so proud of him and the work he did to become the wonderful man he is today. It was only through applying God’s principles to his personal journey that he was able to overcome obstacles and create a life of peace.

No matter what, our prayers have value, and they can help those who are struggling with addiction to move forward toward healing and rehabilitation.

In your Service,
Stephen Scoggins

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Three Methods:Helping Them Find TreatmentLending Support During Their RecoveryProtecting Yourself if They Won’t Seek TreatmentCommunity Q&A

Helping someone struggling with addiction, no matter what the root problem is (drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, internet usage, or something else), takes care and commitment. The number-one priority typically is to connect the person with a treatment program, but this can take some convincing depending on the stage of their addiction. A person with an addiction will also need continued emotional support during recovery, which you can provide by holding them accountable, pitching in with day-to-day needs, and just lending a friendly ear. However, you also need to make sure you protect your own health and well-being — which can sometimes mean contacting the authorities or ending the relationship.

Method 1 Helping Them Find Treatment

  1. how to pray for someone with an addiction Determine what stage their addiction is at.

    Whether or not the person recognizes their addiction and is willing to get help depends on the stage of addiction. At certain stages, the person may be unwilling to undergo treatment, but in other stages, treatment may be more effective.

    • Pre-contemplative stage: They may not acknowledge their problem, its consequences, or the impact it has on others. It is best to provide information about the negative consequences of their addiction and talk to them about how it is holding them back from their goals. Even if they are forced into treatment, treatment may not be effective.
    • Contemplative stage: They may start realizing how their addiction affects them. They may still hesitate to admit their addiction. You can start gently encouraging them to get treatment. An intervention with loved ones may be effective.
    • Preparation and action: They may be ready to make changes in their life. They may want to end their addiction, but they may still be struggling. At this stage, they need encouragement and support.
    • Maintenance: They have made changes to end their addiction or they may have ended the behavior. To prevent a relapse, they need encouragement and support.
  2. how to pray for someone with an addiction Talk about how treatment programs are safe and have a solid success rate.

    The success rates for various addiction treatment programs are hard to pin down, and it’s easy to find critical views that say they “don’t work” or are “useless” in battling addiction. But, you can point out that the general success rate is in line with those for chronic medical conditions like diabetes, asthma, and high blood pressure.

    • If they’re scared because their addiction involves some kind of illegal activity, remind them that there are laws (in the U.S. and elsewhere) that protect people seeking treatment.
  3. how to pray for someone with an addiction Convince them to see a doctor.

    A person suffering from addiction might resist or be scared of going to a rehab center, especially if they are in denial. If so, tell them to see a doctor instead, just as a health check. Remind them that things they discuss with a doctor are confidential, so they can be honest without fear.

    • A doctor can provide mental health resources as well as prescriptions to manage withdrawal symptoms and cravings.
    • Even if physical changes aren’t immediately apparent, substance abuse does have a physical effect on a person’s health.
  4. how to pray for someone with an addiction Ease their fears about detox.

    Some addicts might fear the physical and mental effects of detox, which can be intense. If so, remind them there are medications and professionals to help them, if they go to a treatment center.

  5. how to pray for someone with an addiction Discuss ways to take care of treatment costs.

    Encourage the person to talk to treatment centers about payment options. In some cases, health insurance will cover addiction treatment. Many states and charitable organizations also help foot the bill. If they are willing to seek treatment, there’s probably a way to pay for it.

    • You can do some of the research for them. Contact treatment centers in your area. Call their insurer (if you know who it is) and ask about their general policies regarding addiction treatment. Look up government and charitable programs in your area.
    • You can search online for U.S. treatment centers at
  6. how to pray for someone with an addiction Suggest therapy if they don’t want to go to rehab. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

    (CBT) and motivational interviewing are two kinds of talk therapies that can help combat addictions.

    Contingency management is another type of therapeutic program (offering incentives to stay off drugs).

    • These types of therapy programs should always be done under the guidance of a licensed mental health professional. The person’s doctor can provide a referral to a therapist.
  7. how to pray for someone with an addiction Do the research on addiction centers for your friend.

    Just deciding to seek treatment in the first place can be hard enough for an addict. Help them by finding out whatever you can about treatment centers by visiting, calling, or searching their websites. Find out:

    • Where is the facility located? Is it a convenient or preferable location?
    • What is the center’s approach? Is it medical, therapeutic, or some combination? Does it offer any spiritual guidance?
    • Does the center’s approach incorporate a 12-step or similar support program?
    • How does the center operate (inpatient or outpatient)?
    • Is its program tailored to each individual?
    • Does the center adapt treatment as the addict’s needs change?
    • How long does the program last? There is no single correct answer here, but longer is nearly always better when it comes to addiction treatment programs.
    • What is aftercare like? Try to find a program that offers outpatient care after the person has left.
  8. how to pray for someone with an addiction Stage an intervention only if you are fully prepared. Holding an intervention

    is a stereotypical way to help an addict. However, experts now believe that it is much more helpful to offer incentives and focus on well-being than to “shock” them into seeking treatment. Some believe that interventions can do more harm than good. If you do want to try an intervention:

    • Consult a professional addiction counselor first.
    • Make sure friends and family are on board with the idea.
    • Wait until the person is not under the influence to hold the intervention.
    • Stay calm and be nonjudgmental.
    • Avoid using the term “addict.”
    • List specific incidents and examples of issues caused by the addiction.
    • Use “I” rather than “you” statements (“I am concerned for your well-being” rather than “You are ruining your life”).
    • Be prepared for the person to push back against your claims.
    • Be ready to suggest concrete means of support, such as treatment centers and counselors.

Method 2 Lending Support During Their Recovery

  1. how to pray for someone with an addiction Talk to their treatment program or therapist about ways you can help.

    A person with an addiction may need your help during treatment, not just before it. Ask the treatment center if it would be helpful for you to visit the person with the addiction during treatment, for instance. Or, ask their therapist for ideas about how you can continue to support the person moving forward (making sure they go to group therapy meetings, for instance).

    • Remember that the treatment center or therapist cannot release any information about your loved one unless they have written permission from the patient. You can ask general questions like “do you encourage people to visit your patients?” or “how do you recommend family to support people with addictions?”
  2. how to pray for someone with an addiction Help out with the little things during recovery.

    The addict’s main focus during recovery will be on themselves. Make sure that their daily lives run as smoothly as possible by taking care of things like chores, grocery runs, babysitting, etc.

  3. how to pray for someone with an addiction Ask how they are feeling.

    Recovery can be a long, hard road with lots of hurdles along the way. Stopping to ask the person how they are feeling gives them a chance to decompress, and lets them know that you are someone who cares about them and wants them to do well. This little gesture can mean a lot.

  4. how to pray for someone with an addiction Work through relapses.

    Recovery doesn’t always move in a straight line. If the person you are trying to help slips up and falls back on old behaviors (willingly or not), this doesn’t mean it’s time to give up on them. Continue supporting them by focusing on the future and celebrating their successes.

    • Talk about “when” they’ll get back on treatment, rather than “if” they will.
    • For instance: “When you get back to finish your treatment program, we’ll finally be able to take that road trip to Yellowstone!”
  5. how to pray for someone with an addiction Take care of yourself during recovery.

    Being a caretaker can be mentally and physically draining. Make sure that you’re getting enough rest and

    practicing good self care

    . If you start to feel unwell, see a doctor, counselor, or spiritual mentor so that you can get the help you need in order to help the person.

Method 3 Protecting Yourself if They Won’t Seek Treatment

  1. how to pray for someone with an addiction Establish boundaries with the person.

    As much as you may love this person, remember that it is not your responsibility to fix them. You can encourage them to get treatment, but if they refuse to help themselves, do not take on their burdens for them. You should allow them face the consequences of their actions. Create distance between you if necessary.

    • If this person is a family member or close friend, remember that you will need to commit to them for the long haul if you want to help them. Determine ahead of time what you are and are not willing to do for them.
    • If this person is an acquaintance, coworker, or distant friend, you may want to create stronger boundaries. Tell them what you have noticed about their addiction and behavior, but do not interfere too much.
  2. how to pray for someone with an addiction Don’t take foolish risks to “help” them.

    Don’t cover up for someone with an addiction, hide or throw out drugs, or excuse their dangerous behavior. You’re encouraging their addiction and hindering their recovery by “helping” in these kinds of ways. And, if you get in trouble for doing something illegal (e.g., stashing their drugs), you won’t be able to help the person either.

  3. how to pray for someone with an addiction Avoid self-blame.

    You are not the “cause” of their addiction, no matter what they say or how you sometimes feel. Let the person with the addiction take responsibility for their problem. This is an important step in recovery.

    • If they blame you (“I started drinking because of how you ignored me!”), be compassionate but firm: “I’m sorry I haven’t always been there for you, but you chose to go down this path, and now I’m choosing to help you the best I can.”
  4. how to pray for someone with an addiction Cut ties if the situation becomes out of control.

    Someone with an addiction must ultimately accept responsibility for their own recovery. If you try and try to help a person with an addiction but they refuse treatment, make sure your own health and safety are protected. You may have to separate yourself from them if they become violent or dangerous, or put you in risky situations.

    • If, for instance, they physically threaten you or you feel at risk of physical harm, call the police.
    • Or, if they simply refuse to seek help despite your repeated efforts, you may have to say “I’m sorry, but I just can’t handle watching you destroy yourself any longer, so we’re going to have to go our separate ways.”

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How can you frame your prayers for someone who is struggling with addiction? We offer some suggestions here. Then, we invite your questions, comments, or experiences about praying for

someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol

 at the end.

An Addict Makes Her Own Choices Many times, when we have a loved one who is addicted, the best thing we can do is stand back and let them make their own choices. It can be upsetting to watch them make unhealthy and self-harming decisions, but that doesn’t mean that we are completely helpless when it comes to recovery.

Q:  What can you do about it?

A:  Pray

“Son, my father told me recently, the only true weapon that had any effect on me…was to pray. There were even times I could feel the prayers and many days they gave me a new courage to take a step.”  

My father struggled with 

alcoholism

 for many years, and until he was ready to make the change, we were unable to save him from his choices. However, what we could do was pray.

6 Things To Pray For Here are six things you can pray for regarding an addict:

1. Pray for acknowledgement.Pray that your loved one will realize they have an addiction and that they are hurting themselves and others around them.

2. Pray that they move past self-pity and loathing.

After my father had gained awareness about his disease, he had to move past the hate, shame and 

guilt he put on himself after years of addiction

. Pray that they will understand how valuable their lives are that that their experiences could one day be used to help heal others.

3. Pray for desire to heal.

After my father moved from self-loathing and pity, he was finally ready to seek healing. However, he had to find a reason to heal that was stronger than his desire to drink. Pray that the addict in your life finds the reason they want to quit, and it will help them move past their substance abuse.

4. Pray for properly trained support.

Addicts needs support that is not only physical but spiritual. They need help figuring out their triggers, turning points, and what gives them the courage to get through the day. Pray that the addict in your life not only finds support from family and friends, but also finds strong accountability.

5. Pray that God gives them the strength.

Addicts have to make 

the choice NOT TO USE DRUGS OR ALCOHOL

 each and every day. They have to choose to go against their desire and choose the healthiest path. Pray that God helps your loved one to choose the path and keeps them whole.

6. Pray for forgiveness.

Breaking the cycle of addiction is not easy. The addict in your life may take a couple steps forward, and a couple steps back. Pray that you can offer the forgiveness they need when they make mistakes. Moreover, be willing to forgive many times as they walk this difficult path toward recovery.

Our Prayers Have Value My father has worked incredibly hard to work past his addiction to become a healthy person. I am so proud of him and the work he did to become the wonderful man he is today. It was only through applying God’s principles to his personal journey that he was able to overcome obstacles and create a life of peace.

No matter what, our prayers have value, and they can help those who are struggling with addiction to move forward toward healing and rehabilitation.

In your Service,

Stephen Scoggins

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God will Heal the Sick. Pain and suffering are, unfortunately, a reality of life. At some point in our lives we will hurt, or someone around us will hurt. There will be a life changing accident or soul crushing diagnosis that will shake us to our souls. It can be worse to see a loved one (family member or friend) in pain. Many a mother has said, “I would take on my child’s pain if I could!” Seeing a loved one in pain can leave us feeling helpless, hopeless, and angry. We ask God, “Why did You let this happen, Lord?” and feel that “There’s nothing I can do!” There is something we can do – we can always pray! But does really everybody know how to pray for healing for someone else?

Here’s how to pray for healing for someone else

Few tips for how to pray for healing for someone else:

  1. Listen! You need to understand the requirement.
  2. Bring your loved one’s prayer requests to God. God hears our prayers!
  3. Ask others to stand in prayer with you. Corporate prayer is powerful!
  4. Ask church leaders to come and lay hands on her and pray.
  5. Be an encourager!

1. Listen with compassion

When someone is going through a hard time it can make a world of difference when loving friends asks, “How can I pray for you?” without judgement. Understanding what another person is saying requires paying close attention to what they are expressing. This is an important key in discerning how to pray for healing for someone else.

Here are a few examples:

A friend who is not feeling well has a lot of things on her mind. If she is nervous about an appointment, tell her, “I will pray that you will have peace during your appointment and that your doctor(s) will have insight into how to treat your illness. I am praying for your healing!”

A coworker is struggling with a new medication. He is frustrated because he just wants to pain to stop! You can tell him: “I understand that you are frustrated about your different medications. I will pray that your body will respond to medication and that you will heal. I’ll also pray that your doctor(s) will help you find the right combinations to deal with your pain”.

A gentle reminder – do not use prayer requests as an excuse to share your friend’s personal business. Respect her privacy! Don’t share anything unless she has given you permission to do so! Prayer requests are not to be treated as gossip!

2. Bring your prayer requests to God

When I think about how God allows us to enter into His throne room and bring our requests to Him. This is not something we should take lightly especially in learning how to pray for healing for someone else. God hears our prayers!

The Bible is full of promises about God’s faithfulness. Bring your loved one’s prayer requests to God during your quiet time. Include Bible verses about healing in your prayers like Jeremiah 17:14, Isaiah 40:29, and Psalms 30:2.

Using the same example as your friend who is nervous about an appointment, here is how you can pray for her:

“Dear Lord, I want to bring my friend to you right now. I know that she is not feeling well and worry is taking a lot of her emotional energy. I pray that You will give her special peace in the midst of her crisis; draw close to her. Give her confidence that healing will come. I pray that that You will give her doctor special insight and wisdom during this upcoming appointment. Show them how to treat her to relieve the pain and bring healing. I remember the portion of Isaiah 53:3 that says, ‘…by his wounds we are healed’. I believe you, God will heal the sick! Thank-you in advance for what You will do! Amen”.

Take a minute to send a text message to your friend and say, “I just said a prayer for you!”

3. Ask others to stand in prayer with you

The Christian Church is a community that we rely on for support and community. When it comes to praying, corporate (or prayer within a group of Christians) is powerful. Remember Matthew 18:20: “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them”.

Here’s how you can implement corporate prayer:

  • If your loved ones gives you permission, share her prayer request with a trusted group of Christians from your church of Bible study.
  • Ask your Bible study to agree with you in prayer for healing.
  • Ask your friends if they have any words of knowledge to share or if they have similar stories of healing.
  • When you loved one experiences an answer to prayer, share it with your Bible study.
  • Give praise to God.

4. Laying on of hands and Anointing of the Sick Sacrament

In the book of James (5:14-15), Christians from the early church were instructed to call the elders to pray for and anoint the sick. They would come together in agreement for healing.

If your loved one feels comfortable with it, ask church leaders to come and lay hands on her and pray. You can gather at a church or in a home.  Many Christians use anointing oil when they pray. A special reminder – anointing oil is symbolic of dedication to and trust in God; the oil does not have any power in and of itself. Talk with your pastor about the process of laying on of hands.

Catholic Church has Anointing of the Sick Sacrament, which is intended to strengthen those who are being tried by illness. This sacrament is administered by a priest, who lays hands on the sick and pray over him, then anoints patient’s forehead and hands with blessed oil. The first grace of this Sacrament is one of strengthening, peace, and courage to overcome the difficulties that go with the condition of serious illness. By Anointing of the sick Sacrament, all Church is invited to pray for their brother in Christ, not leaving him alone to fight with illness and pain. Intercession of God and Church would be a great help for him.

5. Be an encourager

Imagine what you need when you’re not feeling well. Someone to sit quietly with you and keep you company? Someone who is cheerful and reassuring? Thinking through this can help develop empathy for others who are suffering.

Spending time with a friend who is suffering because of health can be very discouraging. It is easy to fall into the trap of focusing on all the negatives. While it’s important to be realistic about any situation, you can support your friend by focusing on being an encourager. Be prepared with some Scriptures to share, some positive news, or a song that touched you.

Even if your loved one isn’t feeling well, your words will be heard and your thought will be appreciated.

Pain is an unavoidable part of life, but it is an opportunity for us to experience God’s presence and faithfulness in a real way. He is there to listen to our prayers and heal us. We learn how to pray for healing for someone else through the Scriptures, asking other Christians to pray with us, and by being encouragers. God will heal the sick!

Also read: INTERCESSORY PRAYER – we pray for others

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