Do you pray for your husband?
My answer to this was always, “Of course!”
I did pray for my husband, but not on a regular basis.
It was usually when he had something going on or asked for prayer.
I was rarely proactive in covering him in prayer.
However the further I got in my walk with God, the more I understood how powerful and important prayer was concerning my husband. After years of trying to change him and trying to be his “Holy Spirit Jr.”, I realized that prayer was the key–not my advice or complaints.
As much as I love praying for my husband, I don’t always remember to do it.
I can get sidetracked with the thousands of other responsibilities life throws at me.
In order to place it in the forefront of my mind, I put it on my calendar. Before you go thinking this is weird and impersonal….he knows I do this and actually appreciates it. I have an alert on my phone that goes off each morning at 7am that says “Pray for Hubby and Kids”.
It has been the best thing I’ve done for my marriage. Seriously, you need to try it.
Not only do I put it in my calendar, but I have a few set topics and prayers handy that help guide my prayers.
I don’t want to pray just for the sake of praying, I want to see real change and power made available to him.
When I’m praying, I’m believing!
It’s warfare time and I’m there to defend, protect and claim–not in my power, but in the name of Jesus!
Declaring the scriptures over him will actually help him to become the man God’s called him to be.
When you first begin saying these things you may think, I’m saying this but none of it’s true.
Don’t let that stop you!
Your words have power. The more you speak them, the more you will see them come to pass.
Tell other people these things about him. It honors him and he will feel supported and loved by you.
Here are a few of the prayers and declarations that I’m praying for my husband.
**As a side note: Just because I pray for him in these areas does not mean he is not doing well in them. I pray over the areas he is proficient in as well. Why? Because I want him to continue to do well in them. There is no area that the enemy won’t try to come in. I want to make sure I’m on the offense, not just the defense!
My husband works with all his heart as unto the Lord. He glorifies God with his talents. (based on Colossians 3:23)
The favor of God rests on my husband. God establishes the work of his hands and provides the business he needs. (based on Psalm 90:17)
Father, thank you for my husband’s job. Lord, help him to see it as a gift from You. Father, I pray that you continue to bless him in this area. Give him insight into his field. Continue to show him creative ways to make money and expand his presence in his industry. Lord, help him to see his job as a blessing, even in the times where it’s rough. Guard his heart and mind from discouragement when things don’t go the way he anticipates. Let him work with all his heart to bring You glory. I pray Your favor would cover him and that he would prosper in his work. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
My husband leads me with gentleness and walks in understanding with me. (based on 1 Peter 3:7)
My husband is an encouraging father. He leads our children in the way of the Lord. (based on Ephesians 6:4)
Lord, protect my husbands time at home. Father, help him to govern our house in wisdom and fear of You. Teach him Your ways, that He may be an example to our children. Give him insight into how to raise our family. Help him to balance his time between work and home life. Help him to understand how to love me better as his wife and help me learn to be respectful. Teach him to be gentle and kind with our family, while teaching us to be submissive. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
The wise will surround my husband and he will become wiser. (based on Proverbs 13:20)
My husband speaks what is edifying to those around him. He builds others up and uses his words to glorify God. (based on Ephesians 4:29)
My husband is an example to others in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. (based on 1 Timothy 4:12)
Father thank you for my husband’s godly relationships. Lord continue to surround him with men that reflect Your heart. Help him to be slow to speak and quick to listen with his friends. Guard his mouth from speaking anything other than what edifies the hearer and glorifies You. Give him divine connections throughout his day. Let him be a beacon of light to those around him. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
My husband will be in good health and prosper, even as his soul prospers. (based on 3 John 1:2)
My husband is disciplined in his eating and exercising habits. He maintains control over all cravings. (based on 1 Corinthians 9:27)
Lord I thank you for my husband’s health. Father I pray that you would preserve him. Help him to make good food choices each day. Let him crave those things that are good for him. Protect each cell in his body, that nothing harmful can prosper against him. Give him energy at the end of the day to work out. Show him a plan for working out. Send others to encourage him and even a buddy to work out with that will keep him accountable. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
My husband grows in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ daily. (based on 2 Peter 3:18)
The faith my husband has will move mountains and nothing will be impossible for him! (based on Matthew 17:20)
God I thank you that my husband is growing in wisdom, stature and favor with You and man. Continue to expand his knowledge of You, Lord. I thank you for the men you have placed in his life to help him along the way. Lord, continue to increase his faith as he reads Your Word. Preserve his time with you, Lord. Speak to him throughout the day and guide his decisions. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
How do you pray for your husband? Do you have a routine or a specific method for praying for him? I’d love for you to share it! We can help each other grow in our efforts to pray for our spouses. The more we pray, declare and seek God on behalf of our men, the more we will see them grow in the image of God.
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1. That he would totally submit himself to the Lordship of Jesus Christ.
2. That he would love the Lord with all of his heart, soul, and strength.
3. That he would be a man of wisdom, viewing himself, me as his wife, our children, others, and circumstances the way God does.
4. That he would grow in brokenness of spirit and humility, longing for God to reveal areas of needed growth.
5. That his heart would hunger and thirst for a closer, intimate relationship with God.
6. That he would understand that though he is a husband and father, he is a man under authority, respecting his authorities, as he desires his family to honour him.
7. That he would give first priority to spending time with the Lord every day in Bible reading, mediation, and prayer, and that it would be a source of encouragement and strength to him.
8. That he would realise his position of victory and power in Jesus Christ, casting down imaginations, and bringing every thought into captivity.
9. That he would experience God’s perfect sacrificial love for him and because of that knowledge, love and cherish me, his wife, so that our marriage would clearly typify Christ’s love for the Church.
10. That he would be committed to and experience moral freedom, making a covenant to not look upon strange women to lust after them, and setting nothing immoral before his eyes.
11. That he would fully accept the way God has made him and me, understanding our differences as male and female, and enabling us to reach out to each other unselfishly.
12. That he would continue to grow in the skill of intimate, honest communication, reaching out to me in sensitive understanding, allowing a greater oneness of spirit between us.
13. That he would be committed to making his marriage a priority, delighting in me as a woman, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
14. That he would be filled with wisdom to be the loving, wise, sensitive spiritual leader of our home.
15. That he would (continue to) make it a priority to lead our family in a regular devotional time.
16. That he would be a wise protector, shielding his family from the onslaughts of Satan and the world.
17. That he would value and understand each of our children’s needs and strengths, being and doing all he can for their spiritual and emotional growth.
18. That he would know how to express his love and acceptance to each of our children, alert for opportunities to praise and affirm them, and be enabled to meaningfully communicate with them.
19. That he would make it a priority to spend quantity and quality time with our children.
20. That he would be a loving, consistent disciplinarian of our children, not provoking them to anger.
21. That he would grow in meekness, not given to anger, but when failing be given the grace to humbly ask to be forgiven.
22. That he would trust the Lord for the spacing and number of children in our family.
23. That he would make wise financial decisions, being committed to tithing our income, and remembering that God is the ultimate Provider for our family.
24. That God would protect and guard him from spiritual, emotional, and physical danger.
25. That he would be blessed with good health and strength.
26. That he would have a life purpose bigger than his occupation, keeping the vision of service and missions before his eyes.
27. That he would use his job to encourage and share his faith in a dynamic way with others.
28. That he would not compare himself with others, being concerned of God’s evaluation of him.
29. That he would view the irritations of family life, occupation, and all of life’s trials as God’s best tools to build and refine his character, and be given the grace to delight in the Lord when the stresses of life increases.
30. That he would experience purpose in life and enjoy God’s smile of approval as he lays down his life for his family and others.
Spiritual warfare is real and can be devastating to our lives. Marriage is where I have personally endured spiritual warfare many times. Especially when it came to feeling defeated spiritually and mentally as a wife.
What once seemed like just a silly thought would suddenly bombard my mind with full force of negativity, which eventually damaged my self confidence and burdened relationships surrounding around me; especially my marriage.
I had to learn how to fight and rise from the habit of falling to the battles.
Through spiritual warfare, Prayer is one of the most spiritual deadliest weapons to breakthrough and conquer the battle against the enemy. Prayer brings out the authority you have in the Lord as you speak against what the devil is trying to kill. The first part of John 10:10 tells us:
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy…
In marriage we can sometimes become overwhelmed with the thoughts of; “Am I a good enough wife? Am I being the wife God called me to be? Could I be prettier or more adventurous for my husband?” These and many more questions can overwhelm us. It can turn from one thought to many thoughts and if we do not get a ahold of it and stop it, these doubtful little thoughts becomes more aggressive overtime – to the point that we no longer question the wife we are, but we don’t even believe we are a godly wife.
That my friend, is what the enemy wants to do to you. The thief wants to steal and destroy your joy and confidence as a wife. It first starts the battle with a negative reflection on ourselves then the war is completed by us no longer finding our confidence in God.
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When we allow doubtful thoughts of ourselves as a wife to enter into our minds over and over it then turns into a habit. A habit then turns to a lifestyle, and a lifestyle can overtake you if the lifestyle is not representing everything that is pure, honest, and noble before God. The last part of John 10:10 restores our hope by Jesus Christ reminding us:
I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
To break these thoughts we must use the power of prayer and confidence in knowing that Christ gives our marriage life. Pray to the Lord about your doubts, fears, and insecurities. Ask Him to reveal to you why you are being attacked as a godly wife. Most likely He will respond with; ‘Because the enemy hates a marriage that is serving the Lord. It makes your marriage powerful’.
Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.
Your marriage is powerful in the Lord because two are better than one. You can lift each other up when one feels weak (Ecclesiastes 4:10). The Lord is upon you when the two of you pray together (Matthew 18:20).
As a wife your spiritual discernment and strength is vital to your marriage. When you discern an attack with negative thoughts, cease it with the strength you receive from the Lord. Remember these scriptures to gain hope and trust in why God created you to become one with your husband:
- An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. Her husband finds full confidence in her and lacks nothing. Proverbs 31:10-11
- Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
- “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31
- He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22
- House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14
A wise women desires peace for her home. She builds her home upon the word of God. By consistently reading your word, speaking scripture over your life and the life of your marriage, you can restore, deliver, and even prevent what the enemy wants to steal from you. I encourage you to be proactive with the word of God for your marriage and for the well being of your husbands spiritual walk.
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