Heavenly Father, I thank You for Your grace which You so generously, and continuously, bless us with. You are worthy of all praise and all glory.
I lift my hands in humble worship and adoration. Bless and empower my words and thoughts today, O Lord that they may be pleasing to you, my Rock and my Redeemer.
Romans 12:9-10 Don’t just pretend that You love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Stand on the side of the good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.
1 Peter 4:8 Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.
Guide and direct our relationship
I pray that You continue to guide our footsteps and our lives as we walk in agreement, according to Your will.
I trust that our new relationship is a blessing from You, O Lord and I pray that You guide us and show us what we need to know.
Open the eyes of my heart, Father God, and reveal anything that is not of You. May I not go into this relationship love-blind but rather spirit-wise.
Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.
Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
Draw us closer
Bless our relationship and draw us both even closer to You and to your will for our lives. May I never be unequally yoked.
Lord, teach and guide us that we will always seek You first in everything we do. May our love be fill with genuine affection and may we honor each other at all times.
1 Peter 3:7 In the same way, You husbands must give honor to Your wives. Treat her with understanding as You live together. She may be weaker than You are, but she is Your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. If You don’t treat her as You should, Your prayers will not be heard.
Proverbs 31:10,11 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
Bond us together
Bless our lives in our journey together and fill us with Your Glory. May we be bonded together, Lord, in the type of love Your Son Jesus showed on the cross.
Let our lives be a wonderful reflection of Your grace, as we abide in it forever. In Jesus’ name, I humbly pray, Amen.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
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When two people get into a relationship, they look towards a happy future together. But what happens if they break up? Sadness, anger, bitterness, stress, and heartache. Learning to let go is necessary because life will go on with or without your partner. Moving on is not easy, but it is possible.This article provides a number of steps to help you move forward and successfully get over a relationship.
Part 1 Mourning the Relationship
- Understand your own feelings.
Denial doesn’t solve anything. Ignored emotions will only make you calloused and afraid.
- If you need to cry, do so. Crying clears your mind and helps you vent your emotions. Repression never helps anyone, so be honest about your ever-changing feelings.
- If you don’t feel like crying, maybe head to the gym and find an available punching bag or go for a long, hard run. Vent your anger and hurt with someone close to you. Try to avoid doing something you would regret; just remember the person you are venting to is just trying to help.
- Cut off contact.
Don’t try to be friends, at least not during the early stages of the breakup. Avoid cyberbullying and do not keep harassing your ex with texts or calls.“Out of sight” doesn’t necessarily mean “out of mind.” Nevertheless, creating intentional space will make getting over an ex easier.
- The easiest and healthiest way to get over someone is to initiate clear boundaries. Don’t text or call him/her. Unfriend him/her on Facebook, unfollow him/her on Twitter. Consider changing your own relationship status online too!
- Get rid of reminders.
Get rid of anything that belonged to him/her and anything that reminds you of the relationship, like photographs or mementos. Let yourself mourn and start fresh, with no lingering reminders or memory triggers of what once was.
- You don’t necessarily have to throw out his/her old stuff or your mementos. The most important thing is that the items remain out of your view so as not to hinder your recovery. However, if you do choose to keep them, lock them away and only look at them after you are over the relationship and can reflect on the past without hurt, bitterness, or anger.
- Write in a journal.
Writing is very therapeutic and is often recommended by therapists as a way to cope with grief.
- Write your ex a not-to-be-sent letter. Doing this will help you process your emotions. Reread your words and try to identify what is really bothering you – and what you need from a relationship going forward. What, in your mind, was the reason for the failure?
- Write also to yourself. Tell yourself in words why the relationship wouldn’t have worked, regardless of who ended it. Be honest about the good and the bad times. Writing it down forces you to be more cognizant and reflective about what happened since you need to find the proper words to articulate your experience.
Accept. Accept the facts. Accept that your relationship has ended. It is not only about accepting the negatives sides of the relationship but also about the positives. Understand that Everything happens for our own good. This is one of those magical formulas that would help in the process of acceptance. Once you accept and realize the true facets, things would become easier.
Part 2 Finding a Support System
- Talk it out.
Ask a friend who is a good listener to let you freely discuss the breakup. Confide in your friend and let this be an opportunity for you to “get it all out there.”
- Sometimes saying the words out loud and to someone else can help with the recovery process. UCLA researchers have found that even if you don’t uncover any new insights, simply naming and verbalizing feelings can mitigate sadness and anger.
- Spend time with family and friends.
Try not to spend too much time alone until you’re either over it or you’ve sorted it out; the immediate aftermath of a breakup is when you’re most likely to think about the situation too deeply and being with friends/family can help take your mind off it.
- Use the end of your relationship as a way to figure out what was missing from your inner circle. Catch up on much-needed time with the people who know you best: your family and close friends.
- If there is a dance, club or any other activity you enjoy, go with your friends. It’s good to get out and remind yourself that there is a whole big world out there. Although you may think that you need to be alone, it’s important not to isolate yourself when you’re emotionally fragile.
- Consult a therapist.
If you feel completely overwhelmed with the emotions associated with the breakup and unable to engage in productive recovery strategies, consider seeing a therapist or counselor.
- You should seek external help if your emotions are interfering with your ability to complete daily activities or if you are suffering from conditions exacerbated or attributable to the breakup, such as depression or post-traumatic stress.
Part 3 Refocusing Your Attention
- Distract yourself.
Go to an arcade or a movie, go shopping, do anything that will get your mind off of things for a little while. Just make sure you don’t go anywhere or do anything that will remind you of your ex.
- Distract yourself by focusing on and helping others. Studies show that the happiest people are ones who give the most to others. When you’re depressed, anxious or stressed, there is a high degree of focus on the self. Focusing on other people literally shifts your thinking and your mood from victimhood to empowerment.
- Get active.
Clear your head with physical activity. It has been proven that staying active and indulging in physical activity releases endorphins – the happy hormones.
A strong body can lead to a strong mind.
- Join a gym, running group, or intramural team. Take up a physical activity you’ve always wanted to try but never got around to doing, like spinning, rock climbing, or yoga.
- Try to go for walks in the evening or take your dog out. A little fresh air can go a long way when your brain is taxed and your heart is weary.
Get a new hobby. Take advantage of the extra time and freedom you now have. Find out what you love doing besides your regular job. Plant trees, learn music or take a cooking class. Learning something new boosts your confidence and can be rejuvenating.
- Take a trip.
Get away from your current environment, whether that means taking a day trip to the beach or going for a hike, or going to Europe or South America for a few weeks. You might not feel better immediately, but being in a different space will give you a different frame of mind.
- Research has shown that just being outside your home can improve your health, since environmental factors are reliably related to depression, anxiety, and anger.
- Set your own goals.
You might have had goals for yourselves as a couple; instead, now you can set your own goals for yourself and your life. Thinking about goals is a productive part of reconfiguring your life without that other person.
- These goals might be in terms of your education, job, social or family life, or hobbies or activities. You can make a list, which will help give you direction and much-needed forward momentum in your life (and less time to dwell on the past!).
- See the end of the relationship not necessarily as an end, but as the chance for a fresh start for YOU. Get organized. Figure out what (and maybe who!) you want in life and go after it!
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- The most important thing to know is that you will recover. Getting over someone is hard, but it is definitely not impossible.
- Even if you’ve done everything on this list, understand that getting over someone can take a long time. Give yourself all the time you need to grieve and heal. Let yourself off the hook when you have a bad day or cry for no apparent reason. Be generous with yourself. You don’t need to rush; you will recover when the time comes.
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