Many Christians see nothing wrong with divorce. But the Bible clearly states that marriage is sacred. It is discouraging to look at divorce rates today. According to Business Insider, the countries with the highest divorce rates included Spain and the Czech Republic at over 60%. These numbers are discouraging because they show that fewer and fewer people value the commitment of marriage. And here prayer to save marriage from divorce can help. God can help to stop crisis and restore marriage.
Bible Verses about Marriage and Divorce
Marriage matters to God! It is the first relationship that He created when He took a rib from Adam to form Eve (Genesis 2:22-24, Matthew 19:4-6). The bond of marriage is a covenant between man and woman that God uses to demonstrate the sacred relationship between God and mankind (Ephesians 5:22-33). The promise the two people enter into is not something to be taken lightly! It is not God’s plan for a man and wife to separate after making a sacred promise to one another and to God (1 Corinthians 7:10).
If you want to use prayer to help you be successful in relationships, including marriage, mediate on 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and reflect on the traits listed there: patient, kind, not jealous or conceited, not rude or selfish. How many of those characteristics do you have? Which of those do you want to develop? Ask God to grow those traits in you. It will take time, but it will be worth it!
Marriage, like other meaningful relationships in our lives, should be bathed in prayer. Here are two things I know:
- God wants marriage relationships to be successful.
- He hears our prayers when we ask to stop crisis and restore marriage.
Christians can use prayer to save marriage from divorce. That being said, here are a few ways to pray for your marriage:
- Prayer for Wisdom
- Prayer for Love
- Prayer for Patience
- Prayer for Tenacity
Prayer to save marriage from divorce and for wisdom
Wisdom is knowledge and understanding about how to approach relationships, problems, or confusing situations in life. Marriage requires us to go against our human nature, which means putting another person’s needs before your own. Asking for wisdom in a prayer to save marriage from divorce and stop crisis can open doors for God to guide your words and actions.
Dear Lord, I thank you for my spouse and for our relationship. I know that you value marriage relationships because it is a covenant with you. Knowledge and understanding come from you (Proverbs 2:6). You give wisdom to those who ask. I ask you to give me wisdom in how I handle the challenges of marriage and stop crisis in which we are. Give me wisdom in the way I speak to my spouse and how to understand his needs. I commit this relationship to you! Amen.
Prayer for Love which can restore your marriage
Love is the key message and theme of the Bible. When Jesus died on the cross, He demonstrated the ultimate sacrifice of Love. Marriage is the model of love that God has for the church: selfish and sacrificial (Ephesians 5:25-33). In order to function in marriage, you must be prepared to love your spouse more than you love yourself. And even if something wrong happens, you should ask God to give you love which can restore your marriage.
Dear Lord, when I entered into this marriage I promised to love my spouse. This is difficult and I need your help knowing how love my spouse the way that you do. Putting the needs of another person in front of my own is difficult. Please show me how to do that because I cannot do this in my own strength. Amen.
A special way you can pray for your spouse is asking God to help you be the kind of spouse that your husband or wife needs. God knew that it wasn’t good for man to be alone, so He created Eve to be a helper for Adam (Genesis 2:18-25). Ask Him to show you how you can help your spouse the ways they need it most.
Dear God, I love my spouse but I don’t always know the best way to support him or her. Show me how to love my spouse the way that he/she needs to be loved the most. Help me to demonstrate that love in my words and actions. Thank-you that you answer prayer. Amen.
Prayer for Patience
We all get frustrated, angry, and irritable. When we’re not at our best, unfortunately, the people we love the most get the brunt of our frustration and anger. We are in a growth process and relationships show us how much we need God in our lives. Ask God to give you patience in order to weather the frustrations of life.
Dear Lord, I confess that when I get angry I can take it out on my loved ones. They don’t deserve it and I know it’s not demonstrating love to them. Sometimes my spouse can get me riled up and I forget that he/she also has needs. Please give me patience in how I deal with conflict (Proverbs 14:29). I know that patience is a way to demonstrate Your love (1 Corinthians 13:4). Amen.
Prayer for Tenacity to stop crisis in marriage
Think about the words used in wedding vows: “For better or for worse…” Commitment requires tenacity and the best kind of stubbornness. Our natural inclination when things get hard and we face crisis is to give up and walk away. But, love does not give up easily (1 Corinthians 13:7) but, you can use prayer to save marriage from divorce and to stop crisis! With God all things are possible (Matthew 19:26)! God gives us hope that all things are possible, including saving a struggling marriage.
Dear Lord, things are looking grim right now but I want to honor my vows, love my spouse, and fight for our marriage. Lord, I believe that with your help, this marriage can be saved and crisis stopped. Help my spouse and me both to remember why we chose this. Help us to dig deep and hold on through this time. In Jesus name, Amen!
Prayer to save marriage from divorce is a powerful tool! God hears our prayers and will answer to give us what we ask for and need. The prayers you here can be adapted to your own needs. Above all, remember that God values marriage and He wants marriages to last.
Also read: PRAYER FOR FAMILY – bring the needs of your loved ones to God
The Power of Prayer To Save A Marriage
Prayer strengthens marriage. So please don’t make it a last resort when facing marital problems.
Sometimes people feel a little awkward praying because they don’t know what to say. So here is a sample prayer for you to use or modify:
“God, we/I come to you in humility and sincerity. And we/I ask for your help in saving this marriage. Please fill us with your grace and wisdom. Amen.”
Prayer is powerful. When two or more people come together in prayer or share the same prayer, difficult situations can be turned around. For this reason, inform people close to you that you are seeking God’s help to strengthen your marriage and invite them to pray with you.
If you and your spouse share the same faith, then discuss with him or her how you would like to give a prayer a try (even spouses who don’t consider themselves particularly “spiritual” are often open to prayer).
So pray together. If you don’t know where to start or feel awkward, suggestions on how to pray can be obtained from books or the Internet.
Being on the same page in terms of what you want from your marriage, especially with regards to prayer and the spiritual dimension, will help you to save the marriage.
You can also offer prayer for a marriage on behalf of someone else. If you have a friend who has told you that he or she has a struggling marriage, and you share similar beliefs and values with regards to marriage, divorce or re-marriage, then feel free to let them know that you are praying for their marriage.
Praying to save a marriage in which you are not directly involved requires wisdom and caution when informing the involved parties that you are praying for them. For instance, if you want to pray for your son’s or daughter’s marriage, you might be accused of being nosy. But don’t give up! Ask God to save the marriage.
As you pray for that marriage, realize that only God knows the full story for He alone knows the heart. But He has a desire and a purpose for that marriage.
Also, remember that no matter how much you want a certain thing with regards to that marriage, people have free will and will ultimately decide what they think is best.
Regardless of the outcome of your prayer for your marriage or the marriage of someone else, God is always working to accomplish His purpose in your life and theirs. Remember to look for the good in every situation — focus on this.
Do whatever it takes to save your marriage…and let it begin with prayer.