Omnipotent Everlasting Father, in every situation of my life, I give You full control. Your Word constantly reminds me that you care for me.
My spirit is broken, but through the workings of the Holy Spirit, it all works together for my good. My heart is broken, but You make me whole. Though I may experience pain, it just serves to make me stronger.
Psalm 37:8 Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret—it only causes harm.
Romans 12:21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
You are the Alpha and the Omega, the Author and finisher of my faith. Help me to focus on the blessings and positives in my life today.
As you examine my heart, Lord, search and reveal anything that is not of You that I may be set free.
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James 1:19-20 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
As circumstances attempt to overwhelm me, Lord fill me with Peace and Clarity. Help me to control my anger and rage, Oh Loving Father. Help me not to be consumed in it. I pray that sin would not emerge as the anger infests my mind.
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Colossians 3:8 But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.
I also pray for those struggling with anger, wrath and temper control as well. Calm their minds, bodies and souls.
May the Holy Spirit consume and heal me heart, today, so that I may acquire that overflowing joy.
In Jesus’ all-powerful name I pray, AMEN!
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Ephesians 4:26, 29, 31 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath. Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.
2 Timothy 2:24-26 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.
Relaxing Christian Meditation Music with Bible Verses about Anger (for Worship and Prayer)
Some sins feel like they stick around for decades. This is especially true for those who deal with a quick temper and outbursts of anger. You see one or both parents struggle with it, you struggle with it, and it seems like a family trait you just have to endure for the rest of your life. Unfortunately the progress seems so slow in fighting it that you face the temptation to give up and say it’s just the way you are. Instead of learning how to control your anger and deal with it, it’s a lost easier to ignore it after the fact.
An uncontrolled temper can do untold damage to yourself and the people around you. When we you lose your temper and cannot manage your anger, you say harsh things and act in irresponsible ways. In Proverbs Solomon speaks often about chaos you cause when you fly off the handle.
- “A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.” Proverbs 11:17
- “A man of quick temper acts foolishly, and a man of evil devices is hated.” Proverbs 14:17
- “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.” Proverbs 14:29
- “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
- “A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.” Proverbs 15:18
- “It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling.” Proverbs 20:3
Because the Scriptures speak of anger as a sin which causes harm to the people around you, those who wrestle with a quick temper and struggling with controling anger cannot write it off as something they cannot control. Instead you must learn how to control ourselves and put your hot tempers to death.
What can you do to grow in controlling your temper and making progress in self-control? Here are 7 ways to learn how to control your anger:
Step 1: Repent and Seek Grace
SEE ALSO: How to Conquer Sinful Anger in Your Life
The Scriptures demonstrate with great clarity the sinful foolishness of temper tantrums and losing your cool. Therefore, you must repent when you sin through outbursts of anger. Confess your sin and foolishness to the Lord, asking him to forgive you through the death of the Lord Jesus Christ. Then you must walk in repentance, running from anger and fighting against it with all your Spirit-empowered might.
Using the vocabulary of sin and repentance is necessary when dealing with anger. When we treat you anger as a sin and not just a personality quirk, you begin to take our responsibility to act seriously.
Step 2: Read the Proverbs
When you think pet sins have been licked is when they come back at you full bore. This is why constant immersion in the Scriptures, and particularly the book of Proverbs is essential. Solomon spoke often to his son about the foolishness of losing his temper, so reading one chapter of Proverbs everyday will serve as a constant reminder of the folly of our anger and the wisdom of learning self-control.
SEE ALSO: When Is it Okay to be Angry with God?
Step 3: Pray
Anything God calls Christians to do he will empower us to do through his Spirit. You don’t need to only confess your anger, but to ask the Lord to empower you to exercise self-control and flee the sin of anger. He comes to our aid when we are tempted, so look to him for the help he gives.
Also, when you pray and the Lord delivers you, you know we cannot give credit to the strength of your own will. Prayer acknowledges your need God’s help and when he comes to your aid you know to give him the glory for your deliverance.
Step 4: Think
SEE ALSO: Is it Sinful to Get Angry?
In order to fight anger you need to have a better understanding of the workings of your own heart. What is going on mentally before blowing a gasket? Is there a recited laundry list of grievances you are going through or is there a constant irritant which causes the pressure to build up? Know these things, and have a strategy for dealing with them when they come up. When the situation arises and the anger begins to boil, pray and walk away.
Step 5: Exercise
If losing temper tantrums often comes as a result of stress, then there are practical steps we can take to address this. If stress mounts up it will blow in one way or another, and anger is a terrible way to blow off stress. Take some time to exercise everyday as a way to work off stress in an acceptable manner. Also over time this will help you feel better in general and goes a long way towards helping to fight off anger.
Step 6: Sleep
How often do you blow your top and blame it on being tired? The fix for this problem is simple- you need more sleep. You might retort you struggle to sleep, but a fight can be waged against this problem as well. Cut out caffeine after 4:00PM, turn off screens 30 minutes before bed, and exercise during the day so you are more tired at night. Getting plenty of sleep gives you greater self-control.
Step 7: Get Accountability
I hesitate to mention accountability because it can so often be misused or become a crutch. You must understand first of all that you are accountable to God for your attitudes, thoughts, words, and deeds. After understanding your accountability before God, it is good to seek out other Christians to help in the journey. They can ask pointed questions, correct you when necessary, and encourage you to continue on in the good fight.
What are some other steps you can take in the battle with your anger? Share with us below in the comments section some helpful ways you manage your anger and take a step back.
This article was originally published on ScottSlayton.net. Used with permission.
Scott Slayton serves as Lead Pastor at Chelsea Village Baptist Church in Chelsea, AL and writes at his personal blog One Degree to Another: scottslayton.net. He and Beth have been married since 2003 and have four children. You can follow him on Twitter:@scottslayton.
Publication date: June 8, 2016
A Prayer for Moms Who Struggle with Their Temper
By: Malinda Fuller
“Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. For those who are evil will be destroyed, but those who hope in the LORD will inherit the land.” (Psalm 37:8-9)
To the mom who just put herself in “time out” before 9 o’clock in the morning, and is sitting in a locked bathroom with her phone, you’re not alone.
To the mom who cried herself to sleep last night, and the night before, and the night before that with promises of “I’ll do better tomorrow” and pains of regret, you’re not the only one.
To the mom who grew up with an abusive mom or a negligent mom and vowed that you would “do it better,” but feels like you’re on the same hamster wheel, know that all hope is not lost.
You’re not the only one who has snapped a sharp remark and before you noticed the tears in your daughter’s eyes, you knew it that is was rude and hurtful.
Your struggle with anger, taming your tongue, and controlling your temper are not new battles for moms.
Unfortunately, shame has a tendency of moving in the day the newborn comes home. It stalks with whispers that lazy reactions equal a lousy mom, or that poor choices are the result of a pathetic mother. If these thoughts have gone from whispers to shouts of blame and torment, please take a breath, close your eyes and whisper this one name: Jesus.
For He came that you would never be alone. Not even in your darkest moments when the questions, anxiety and rage threaten to consume you. Even when it feels like nothing can penetrate the cycle of guilt and shame—He can.
He can reach into that moment, that day, and that situation, and bring peace and clarity. He can overwhelm your heart with love, kindness, and creative ideas for the struggles that you’re facing. He can speak life to the circumstances where there seems to be only death, and His grace can be enough to hold you through whatever trial you are enduring right now.
And here’s the best part: not only can He. He will. It is His promise to you today and your hope for tomorrow.
He is there to catch every tear that falls, hear every prayer you whisper, and hold every question that leaves you tossing in the night. He promises to cover you, shield you, protect you—to supply you with strength, love, and peace.
Jesus says He will never leave. No matter what you do. No matter how many times you mess up, cry out for help, and need His forgiveness. He gives it generously. He is not stingy. His grace is like His love: endlessly abundant.
So, the next time you are hiding upstairs in your room with toddlers screaming in the next room—or a defiant child locked in theirs—take a breath, speak His name, and remember that He is with you.
Please pray with me:
Father, give me eyes to see you and ears to hear you in the midst of my day. When challenges arise, give me the ability to step out of my emotions to deal with the situation in the best way. And when I make mistakes, give me the courage to ask others for forgiveness, and even more, to forgive myself. Remind me of your promises, of the fact that when you look at my beautiful and unique child, made in your image, it’s the same way you look at me—with a Father’s love. Amen.
Editor’s Note: Content taken from “When You Think You’re the Only Mom Who Struggles with Temper” by Malinda Fuller. You can read that piece in full here. All rights reserved.