My Father, I worship you, I thank you for being there for me, through all the good times and bad. I thank you that so far, Father, every day has been sweeter than the day before, with you in my life. I thank you for your unmerited favour in my life. I thank you for giving me strength during these hard times and being there when I am not strong.
Phillippians 4:13- I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.
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Praying through the difficult times
Today has been a difficult day, O Lord, I feel as if I can’t go on. The loss I feel is so strong, it is almost tangible to me.
I have had thoughts that I know are wrong. I feel as if the loss of my loved one has left me empty and drained, so much so that I didn’t want to be here anymore. I need you, my daddy, I need your strength, and I need you to preserve my mind and my body.
I still cannot understand why you took them home? I loved and needed them and you still took them? Why?
Isaiah 57:1 The righteous perish and no one takes it to heart, the devout are taken away and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.
I take comfort in knowing that they are better off with you and, one day, we shall all meet again.
Father, I need you to pull me through. Give me that joy, help me to smile again. Give me beauty for my ashes and the oil of joy for mourning. Fill this void in my heart.
Preserve my memories of my loved one. Help me to go on, Lord. I need your strength like never before.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Thank you, Father, for taking me in your loving embrace and helping me make the correct decisions. You are my guide, my Lord. You be my light. Amen.
The Lord is my light and my salvation – whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life – of whom shall I be afraid?
My name is Ranuka Ramesar and I am what is known as a gracer. I believe that Christianity is not a religion but a relationship with my Abba father. He wants the best for me and I want to know him more. I am a Secondary School teacher, it is my passion and my joy. My word from God for this year is : Be still and know I am God
Have you ever had a friend lost a loved one, probably a Husband, Wife child or close relative? It’s never easy as we cannot imagine the pain, emotional trauma and stress they’re going through at that moment. But as close friends, we ought to be there for them, comfort them and say kind words that’ll help them through that trying period. No matter how brief the statements we make at that moment to comfort them may be, it’s highly needed to keep them together, remind them that they’re not alone and that as their friend, you also share in their grief.
See Also: What To Say To Someone Who Is Dying
One of the most difficult things to do at such low moments is finding the right comforting words to tell them keeping their temperament and personalities in mind. It’s already sad that they lost a loved one, however, most people are uncomfortable with this situation as nobody would want to show up saying something that will make the person or family feel worse about the situation. Some people ramble when they’re nervous and therefore make mistakes in trying to comfort the bereaved.
For these reasons, we’ve taken time to compile a list of statements, phrases or sentences you can tell a friend when he or she is bereaved of a family member or lost a loved one. These words can be spoken at the funeral, sent via messages or written on a card to them.
See Also: Words Of Condolence: 100 Comforting Words of Condolence For a Loss
What to Say to Someone Who Just Lost a Loved One
There are no words to tell you how sorry I am. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
She brought so much joy to everyone around her she’ll surely be missed by many.
I’ll always remember _______ and how much he loved you and the rest of your family. I’m so sorry for your loss.
________ was very much loved by all. Her good works will never be forgotten and she now lives in our heart. I know she was your dearly loved one but we’ll all miss her too.
I am very sad to hear about this huge loss. I know she was a dearly loved one to you. If you feel like talking, I’m always here for you.
I wish I could rewind the hands of time and take away this moment forever; I wish I could take away your pain. Just know that you’re in my thoughts and I’m praying for comfort for you and your family.
I feel your pain, if there is anything I can do to help, please let me know.
________ was such a shining light in so many people’s life. We’ll all miss her terribly. Please know that I’ll be here for you if you ever need to talk.
At the news of her demise, my heart aches and hurts deeply. I can’t imagine enough your grief considering how dear she was to you. I’m so sorry.
He was loved by all, your loved one and everybody’s friend. I can’t believe that this moment is a reality. Accept my most sincere sympathy.
Also Read: What To Write In A Sympathy Card: 60 Condolence Messages
More things to Say to Someone Who Just Lost a Loved One
______was such a generous man. We’ll all miss him, but his legacy will live on through all great works he did.
I’ll miss her kind words and sweet smile. Please know that I’ll be praying for you and your family.
We share comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. We send thoughts of sympathy and support to you as you begin your journey without him.
I know that she was well loved and respected. She had great character and a big heart.
I can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now and I won’t pretend to know the loss that you’re experiencing. Please know that you’re not alone and I’m just a phone call away. If you ever need any support or someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me.
Although there’s nothing I can do to change what happened, I’ll continue to offer you my love and support. Extending my most heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
Losing a loved one is totally heart breaking. I’m very sad he had to go. You have my warmest support, prayers and goodwill. Call me and I’ll be right there if you need anything please.
My deepest condolences to you and your family during this dark time. Please know that our family is keeping you and yours in our prayers and thoughts.
May all the sweet memories of ________bring you solace during this time. I hope that all the great moments that you were able to have with him/her before she/he passed away brings you comfort.
Please know that you’re in my thoughts and prayers. My sincerest condolences for an incredibly great loss.
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Updated on October 4, 2017
Source For Those Who Have Lost a Loved One
The loss of a loved one is already devastating for anyone. When the loss is unexpected, the pain is beyond words. I know this because three years ago, my 19-year-old daughter passed away after an auto accident. My world came crashing down and I was engulfed in a wrenching pain that can only be known by another parent who has lost a child.
In the future, I hope to write more about my daughter and what God has taught me and is still teaching me, about the comfort He has given me, and the peace that is unexplainable. At this point, I can only write on the surface and without detail, but I want to share some Bible verses that have been and continue to be an encouragement for me in hopes that some other grieving mom may be looking for the same comfort and assurance that I searched for in the months following my daughter’s accident. I hope these help you as well.
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.
Bible Verses for Those Who Have Lost a Loved One
- Those who have been ransomed by the Lord will return. They will enter Jerusalem singing, crowned with everlasting joy. Sorrow and mourning will disappear, and they will be filled with joy and gladness: Isaiah 51:11
- The young women will dance for joy, and the men –old and young–will join in the celebration. I will turn their mourning into joy. I will comfort them and exchange their sorrow for rejoicing: Jeremiah 31:13
- Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me. There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am. And you know the way to where I am going: John 14: 1-4
- I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid: John 14:27
- Father, I want these whom you have given me to be with me where I am. Then they can see all the glory you gave me because you loved me even before the world began: John 17:24
- Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? . . . No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below. Indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord: Romans 8:35 – 39
- No eye has seen no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him: 1 Corinthians 2:9b
- And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead: 1 Corinthians 6:14
- Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. And do everything with love: 1 Corinthians 16:13
- All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort: 2 Corinthians 1:3
- Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies: 2 Corinthians 4:10
- For we know that when this earthly tent we live in is taken down (that is, when we die and leave this earthly body), we will have a house in heaven, an eternal body made for us by God himself and not by human hands: 2 Corinthians 5:1
- For we will put on heavenly bodies, we will not be spirits without bodies: 2 Corinthians 5:3
- We would rather be away from these earthly bodies, for then we will be at home with the Lord: 2 Corinthians 5:8b
- Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus: Philippians 4: 6-7
- And now, dear brothers and sisters, we want you to know what will happen to the believers who have died so you will not grieve like people who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and was raised to life again, we also believe that when Jesus returns, God will bring back with him the believers who have died: 1 Thessalonians 4:13 – 14
- So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you have to endure many trials for a little while. These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold — though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world: 1 Peter 1: 6-7
- Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see: Hebrews 11:1
If you have a favorite verse that has helped you in times of trouble, please do share it in the comments!
For Those Who Are Suffering
During the worst days following my daughter’s accident, God surrounded me with people who had gone through what I was going through—both in person and online. In fact, some of the greatest comforts for me during that period came from strangers online who are now friends. If you are struggling now, please feel free to contact me. I don’t even begin to have answers, but I understand the pain and I will walk beside you and share your grief.
If you are the friend of someone who has lost a loved, please read my article on how to comfort a friend.
All quoted scriptures are from the New Living Translation.
Losing a loved one can bring about a sudden feeling of shock and trouble. Reciting a traditional prayer for comfort can help to bring you consolation and reassurance. Here is a look at some great prayers for loss of a loved one.
Comfort me with Your love O God
Wrap me up in Your strong embrace
Shelter me from the storm O Lord
Envelop me in Your tender care
By day I pour out my heartbreak to You
By night I give you my racing thoughts
In You I take refuge
In You I will not be afraid
For you hold me strong, You hold me safe
Calm my fearful heart O God
Still my anxious mind O Lord
For all my life is found in You
All my being is given to You
All my hope begins in You
Lord, at the moment nothing seems to be able to help the loss I feel.
My heart is broken and my spirit mourns.
All I know is that Your grace is sufficient.
This day, this hour
Moment by moment
I choose to lean on You,
For when I am at my weakest Your strength is strongest.
I pour out my grief to You
And praise You that on one glorious day
When all suffering is extinguished and love has conquered
We shall walk together again.
Our Father in heaven, may Your Name be honored. There is none greater than You. You are our refuge and strength. You are always ready to help in times of trouble. We praise You, Lord. We lift our hearts with praise. It is good to sing praises to You, our God; how delightful and how right! Lord, You are great and mighty in power. Your understanding is infinite. We thank You, Father, for the life of our loved one(s) who have gone on to be with You. Thank You for their time on earth and the impact they had on our lives. We are thankful to You and we bless Your Name.
Father, You can count the stars and call them all by name. Your power is absolute. Your understanding is beyond comprehension. You support the humble and bring the wicked down into the dust. You comfort those who mourn. We declare that those grieving the death of a loved one; mourning will turn into dancing. We confess that You are their rock, fortress, and Savior in whom they will find protection. You are their shield, and the strength of their salvation. Father, You are their stronghold. As they call on You, You have promised to answer. We believe that You will be with them during this period of bereavement, rescue them from grief, honor them, and give them Your salvation.
Father, we ask You to send Your peace to those persons who are mourning. Continue to surround them with family, friends and loved ones who will offer words of comfort. Give them sweet and restful sleep. Father, remove the spirit of heaviness, and give them garments of praise. In due time, bless their lives to overflow with laughter and joy again. As they take refuge in You, please help them to put their trust in You. Holy Spirit, we ask that You settle the hearts and minds of those who are feeling any guilt, resentment, bitterness, or anger. Help them not to look back but to press forward.
Father, forgive the bereaved for any sins they have committed through thoughts, words, or deeds. Forgive them if they have not meditated on Your Word to find comfort. Father, forgive them if they have not been totally submissive to Your perfect will for their lives. Forgive them for any hurtful things they may have said or done to the deceased. Lord, help them to forgive the deceased if necessary. Please remind them of anyone they need to forgive; and help them to forgive quickly.
Loving Father, I am finding it so hard to even get up out of bed to start the day, knowing that I have to face it alone and without the one I love so dearly – I know that without Your grace and sufficiency I could never get through the day – but I thank You that You have promised to be with me and to provide me with Your strength for the day as well as bright hope for tomorrow.
I can’t imagine tomorrow being anything but a day filled with pain – as I do not have my loved one beside me, but I ask that in Your grace You will give me the strength to get through today, step by step – knowing that You are there to carry me, even when my heart seems to fail from the grief and pain that I am going through.
Thank You that You have promised to carry our pain and thank You that Your grace is sufficient for every eventuality in our lives. Give me the strength and to cope with the loneliness I feel and help me to move forward in my life-plans, knowing that You are with me, to support and strengthen.
Give me hope for tomorrow – for my hope and my trust is in You, Lord. Hold me close I pray and thank You for always being with me and the great comfort that I have in knowing You, as my own dear Saviour and friend.
Loving Lord and Heavenly king, I want to lift up some dear friends of mind that are going through much grief at the moment and are finding it so difficult to come to terms with all that has taken place in the last few days…
I humbly ask that You would come to them and provide the comfort they need to come to terms with all that has happened – and the strength to face the reality that things will never be as they were.
Lord I know that their grief seems to be overwhelming them and I am hurting for them, and know not what to do to help – and so I am coming to You to in prayer, to ask that You will meet each of them at their point of need and help them to turn to You at this sad time.
I pray that as the day passes Your healing touch will comfort and succour them in this time of distress and may this be a thing that causes each of them to draw closer to You, knowing that You alone can heal the broken-hearted and bring joy out of pain.
Thank You Lord for being there for me and into Your hands I place each one of these dear ones who have such sadness in their hearts – I KNOW in Whom I believe and an confident that You will bring good out of this situation – and to You be all the praise and glory, Amen
Loving Lord I am filled with grief and sadness at the loss of my precious loved one – and yet that pain is tinged with gold, knowing that they trusted you as their Saviour and that they are now in Your presence.
I know that I am going to miss this precious one, who has been my strength and my joy for so long, and thank You for the precious times we had together.
Often Lord I expect my dear one to just be there, or walk through the door – and then remember that they have gone home to be with You. At times this is quite hard and yet I know that I must not grieve as those that have not hope in Jesus – but rejoice knowing that the day is coming when we will be together with You and You will wipe away all tears from our eyes – but at the moment my loss is like an open wound – and I pray that You will heal my brokenness and the loneliness I feel… and draw me every closer into Your arms of love my Lord and my God.
Thank You for all You are to me and may I rest in You in Jesus name, Amen
My heart is reaching out to you,
For what you’re going through;
I’m thinking of you frequently
And praying for you, too.
If there’s something I can do,
Anything at all,
Think of me thinking of you,
And don’t hesitate to call.
When someone we love passes away,
We ache, but we go on;
Our dear departed would want us to heal,
After they are gone.
Grief is a normal way to mend
The anguish and pain in our hearts;
We need time to remember and time to mourn,
Before the recovery starts.
Let’s draw together to recuperate,
As we go through this period of sorrow;
Let’s help each other, with tender care
To find a brighter tomorrow.
If we could bring you back again,
For one more hour or day,
We’d express all our unspoken love;
We’d have countless things to say.
If we could bring you back again,
We’d say we treasured you,
And that your presence in our lives
Meant more than we ever knew.
If we could bring you back again,
To tell you what we should,
You’d know how much we miss you now,
And if we could, we would.
If there was ever a time in my life I was weak, it was the days, weeks, and months after my daughter died. To know that God’s strength was at it’s best when I needed it the most gave me courage to take another breath. It seems impossible to “glory in my affirmities” when you don’t feel you have the strength to go on with your life, but God’s grace *is* sufficient. There is power through Christ Jesus to sustain you when nothing else can. You must allow Him to carry the burden – there are things too big for us to handle on our own. We cannot as mothers (and fathers) get through the loss of a child and retain any sanity without His help.
I don’t think it’s wrong to ask “why” – I have many times over the years. But you have to recognize God’s authority and know that whatever purpose there was for your child, it was fulfilled during the time you carried him or her. We don’t understand all of it, and honestly I don’t believe we have the capacity to. But I take comfort knowing that one day, God will hold me close and explain it to me in a way that I can understand.
Praise God that He is close to those who are suffering. He knows the pain we’re going through and He keeps us from being consumed by it. I know without a doubt that had it not been for the grace of God, I would have come through my daughter’s death a bitter and downtrodden woman. But through His love and compassion, He saved me from being crushed by the weight of the burden I carried. My heart still aches for my baby and it’s been seven years since she died – the ache has dulled some with time, but I don’t believe it will ever go away completely. I still cry at times talking about her, but I rest in the knowledge that God is near and will continue to carry me if I allow Him to. It’s a choice – a conscious decision you have to make. You have to acknowledge that you need help getting through it, and God is the only answer.
Dianne Gray, head of the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation discusses the five stages of grief and the classic book, ‘On Death and Dying.’