After breaking up, we often describe what we feel as having a broken heart. We may become depressed and lose all interest in life. We may feel stress, we may feel abandoned and rejected and unloved and we lose hope of ever knowing how to be happy again. Here is a prayer to God with Bible verses to help you express your pain and need for God to heal your broken heart.
Prayer for Healing a Broken Heart
Dear God, I am hurting terribly right now. It’s so hard for me to remember ever being happy, and when I do, it hurts even more because of what I’ve lost. Here’s what makes me the saddest about what I’ve lost after this break up…
I am desperate to go back to the way things used to be. If there is still hope for this relationship, please give me guidance as to what to do to reach out to my ex. Here is one thing I have been thinking about trying___________________________
God, I need to figure out if I’m thinking rationally trying to reconnect with my ex. Help me to listen to you and to seek the advice of someone I trust before I act. Here’s one person I will ask for advice_________________________
If all attempts to reconnect with my ex fails, give me the strength I need to accept the finality of the breakup and the reality of my broken heart.
My friends and family mean well, but they don’t seem to know how to help me. They tell me that things aren’t that bad, that I should get up, go out, get even and enjoy myself. They tell me to look at all of the good things I still have in my life. They say that I’ll find someone else to love some day. But someday won’t help me today because my heart and spirit are crushed from loss and loneliness.
I do all right for a while, then something reminds me of my ex, and I fall apart all over again. Here are the things that I need your help with that most remind me of my ex _________________________________________
God, I don’t have anywhere else to turn but to you. I know you understand because it says in the Bible, “My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God? My tears have been my food day and night…” (Psalm 42:2, 3) “I am worn out from groaning; all night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears.” (Psalm 6:6, NIV)
I claim today the following promises for my broken heart:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18 )
“Weeping may remain or a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.” (Psalm 30:5)
“I will be glad and rejoice in your love, for you saw my affliction and knew the anguish of my soul. You have not handed me over to the enemy but have set my feet in a spacious place.” (Psalm 31:7,8)
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4)
Please give me the strength to get through each day as my heart slowly heals. Carry me in your arms of love. Give me a personal sign of your presence. Restore my ability to smile. Give me back my energy. Clear the fog from my mind. Bring vitality back to my body. Help me to regain interest in life. Show me how to reach out for help when I need it.
This is the hardest thing I’ve had to do, and I can’t possibly do it without your help. Help me to grow and gain wisdom from this experience. But most of all, help me not to give up on myself, on You or on love. I believe that You have created me to love and to be loved. Give me your courage to open my heart to the possibility of loving again, loving faithfully and joyfully and fully. In your name I pray. Amen.
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There’s a quote in Nicholas Sparks’ book ‘At First Sight’ that speaks volumes about love. “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…” Interesting, huh? The exact emotion that brings a smile to our face and warms our heart, can also be the very emotion that cuts us so deep that scars are left. Heartache is a feeling that everyone feels at some point in their life. Whether it’s a broken heart from a failed relationship between partners or an emotional rollercoaster that leaves two family members estranged, brokenness is experienced by everyone – sometimes more times than one.
What do you do when you’re left with a broken heart? How do you pick up the pieces that once fit together perfectly? The answer is prayer. Powerful prayers for healing a broken heart can truly be life changing – and ultimately the game changer to drive you into the direction towards a new chapter in life. In fact, those prayers can become the building blocks to the new foundation that you’re faced with rebuilding.
One of the most powerful prayers for healing a broken heart comes from Psalms 147:3. The words brokenhearted are within the text and it reinforces the power the Lord has. The scripture is short, sweet, and to the point.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Every day, the Lord hears our cries and prayers. From time to time, we may feel unheard or wonder if he is active in our day-to-day. The truth is he will never give us more than we can handle; moreover, he knows that plan of action and will guide us down the roads that our life is destined to travel. Psalms 147:3 reminds Christians that the Lord does hear your cries for help and he will heal the wounds that you are suffering from. As you deal with your broken heart, try to look at the bigger picture and come away from the situation with lessons learned and newfound wisdom. Not only will you be stronger because of the trials and tribulations, but one day you’ll look back on this experience and discover profound hope.
Revelation 21:4 is another beautiful reminder of how powerful prayers for healing a broken heart are effective. When you’re crying, you may think that you’re alone – but, you’re not! The Lord never leaves your side. Even though you can’t see his physical shape, it’s important to know that he is always by your side. This reminder is stated again and again throughout scripture.
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
While you’re in the moment of mourning, whether it’s a failed relationship or the loss of a loved one, it’s important to remember that the pain will eventually pass. The good, the bad, and the indifferent always passes and brings forth new experiences that help cultivate who we are meant to be. Don’t allow your broken heart to darken your presence. Despite how difficult it may seem, try to walk forward, and take each day one step at a time. With that said, healing takes time – and that’s important to remember.
When you talk to the Lord, try reciting this powerful prayer for a broken heart:
“Heavenly Father, there is a pain implanted in my heart that doesn’t seem to go away. It has crushed me, it aches, I can no longer bear it. This pain of the past consumes my thoughts daily. It hurts so much, Father, these tears that fall long to see joy once again. Give me peace in my heart, please, I’m crying out to you: hear my prayer.”
Not only does this prayer exude esteemed honesty, but it allows you to be vulnerable to the Lord. You’re in pain and that’s understandably normal and expected. Ask for peace and the desire to experience joy again. The Lord understands your struggle and wants to heal your broken heart. Be patient and give him the opportunity to help you. Be mindful of the time it takes to actually heal a broken heart and remember it is not an overnight fix. Your heart didn’t become full and content in a day; therefore, it will not heal over the course of a day either. Use this experience to cultivate your present and future relationships. Try to discover ways you can better yourself from this experience and what lessons can be learned – everything happens for a defined reason.
Before we part ways friend, I want to leave you with one last powerful prayer for healing a broken heart. It’s one that is centered on the theme of Psalm 46: 1-2 which says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the sea.” This prayer demonstrates your trust in the Lord and recognizes the power Jesus Christ has.
Are you brokenhearted? We have 2 prayers for you (1) is a prayer for healing a broken heart due to past relationship and (2) a prayer to heal a broken heart from unfulfilled dreams and desires.
It is a wonderful feeling to be in love but to get hurt is painful. Everyone at some point fall in love. God Himself is a passionate and intimate lover. He created mankind for a love relationship and deeper intimacy with Him. The Scriptures begin with love and ends in love. In fact, God is Love Himself, the essence and epitome of love. His fullest expression of love to us is when Jesus His Son died on the Cross to save man from eternal punishment and damnation and reconcile him for an eternal destiny with Him.
God has put love in the heart of man. Man longs for and is capable of receiving love and entering a relationship and commitment founded on love. It is love that binds man to God and man to his fellow being. Without love, nothing makes sense. What is Love?
God is Love and everything that He has done is established and grounded in love. Love means being captivated towards something or someone. Love makes you want to relate with, bless, and to be in union with another. Love is patient, kind, unselfish. When the whole world crumbles, only Love (God) remains.
Love is eternal. It is in a continuum. It should be mutual – give and take. God requires our undivided love and attention. He commands us to love Him above all with all our heart, body, and soul. He also admonishes us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Even to love our enemies. And the unloved and unloveable.
God wants us to love Him first before loving ourselves and others. When we do that, we will be able to receive His love and experience it and give it freely to others. When we have learned to love Him, then we can also move on to love another person.
Human beings are hopeless romantics so to speak. We love fairy tales and we love fancy love expressions. We long for a union with another being and to be into a covenantal relationship. Before that happens, we woo someone and get pursued. We date that person, spend time, exchange gifts, and love the person to the best of our ability. When we are ready to commit, we become steady lovers.
The Bible is complete with all the mushy love stories you can find and encounter. King Solomon recorded the Songs of Solomon for her beautiful maiden lover.
Adam and Eve
Abraham and Sarah
Isaac and Rebekah
Ruth and Boaz
Days, months, and years pass by and we enjoy our relationship. Until one day, one wrong report, misunderstanding, disagreement, third party, or whatever reason, we separate and get hurt in the process.
The pain is too much to bear. Sleepless nights, confusion, lack of appetite to eat and move about. Distraction. Destruction. Lack of focus in your job or ministry. And the long list goes on.
You can even get your heart broken when things don’t go your way. This happens between you and God. Yes, we do get heart broken when we have hopes and dreams that are not God’s will.
How do we heal a broken heart? Can it be healed?
A resounding YES and it can happen the moment you choose to heal and make up your mind to seek your healing.
The first step towards healing is to approach God and seek His face, will, and ways. You may try meeting with God through your daily quiet time and devotion. Talk to God about what is in your heart. Release every pain to Him and submit to Him your heart, mind, emotions, will, and spirit.
It will be helpful if you will write down all that is troubling you, every pain, shame, grief, bitterness, unforgiveness and unfulfilled dreams and desires. When you have done that, you will have a clear picture of why you are heart broken.
It is important to release forgiveness to your past relationships. Whatever he or she may or you have done, just forgive and ask for forgiveness. Also confess to God your own sins concerning the relationship that just transpired.
Then, think about the joyful moments that you have shared together. Be grateful for all the breakthroughs, triumphs, and joy as a couple.
Then, declare and speak a special prayer of blessing over the person whether you are facing him or not. Do not complain, blame, belittle, uncover, judge, criticize, and curse the other person.
Let time and love from God heal all wounds. Yes, it takes time to heal but definitely it will happen.
Ask God in prayer to release all trauma, shame, fear, pain, terror, and grief from your emotions, heart, will, body, mind, and spirit.
Then seal everything that God has done. You may do these steps daily until you feel released and set free. Meditate on the word of God and soak in Him.
Allow the love of God to embrace you in this period of pain and broken heart. You may play a soft praise and worship in the background or an audio Bible on verses about emotional healing and God’s love.
God has a perfect plan for all of us. There will always be a reason why things happen the way they do. If you do not know what to do, just trust God and obey.
You may use this prayer for healing a broken heart to pray for yourself or you can read it and then pray it for someone you know who may need this prayer–
“Heavenly Father, it is so painful now in my heart and spirit. The pain is just so unbearable. I love him/her and letting him go is difficult to do for me. But, I release him now to you knowing that You have a wonderful plan for both of us. Forgive me Lord from all my weaknesses and mistakes about this relationship that just ended. I also release forgiveness to him for ____________(mention the reasons). Lift off all the pain and trauma associated with this. Thank You for bringing him into my life. I did not regret the times we spent together, loving each other. I bless him to find your divine partner for him and to be protected from wrong relationships. Lead him to the right person meant for him. Bless him in spirit, soul, and body. Provide, protect, and heal him also. What you have done for me today, do for him also. Lead me to the one for me, Lord. I entrust my heart and life in Your hands. I love You and I allow Your love to heal all my wounds and bind me up. Make me ready to love and trust again, but this time to the right person for me. This I pray in Jesus’ mighty name. Amen.”
Here is the prayer for healing a broken heart for unfulfilled dreams and desires.
Abba Father, I know that you plan is perfect. What I hoped and dreamed for didn’t turn out the way that I thought it would. I’ve been waiting for such a long time for my dreams, desires and what has been prophesied over me to come to pass. God I am tired of waiting and I am beginning to lose hope and feel broken hearted because of this whole ordeal. Lord I ask that you would heal every wound in my soul for these unfulfilled dreams. Mend my broken heart and bring me back to wholeness. Renew my trust and hope in your plan even though I may not know what it is. I use my will to have faith in your goodness, in Jesus Name, Amen
Remember that Jesus Himself experienced the most painful ordeal known in the history of mankind. He can relate to you and you may identify with Him. Let Him heal you and love you. Love him back. Through reading and meditating on His word He will heal your heart.
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. Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.
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Coping with the loss of a relationship may be one of the hardest things you ever have to do. Whether you were with the person for three months or thirty years, breakups can leave you feeling profoundly hurt, confused, and rejected. You won’t feel this way forever, though! You can heal your broken heart by working to move past the pain, taking good care of yourself, and developing a fulfilling social life.
Method 1 Taking Care of Yourself
- Get moving with a little exercise.
Go to the gym, go for a jog in the park, or just get outside for a brisk walk. Physical activity increases the amount of serotonin in the brain, which acts like a natural antidepressant and improves your mood. You’ll also have more energy and feel better about yourself in general.
- Take some group fitness classes or hit the gym with a buddy.
- It doesn’t matter what exercise you choose, just get your heart pumping. Within just 5 minutes of moderate exercise, you may start feeling your mood lift.
- Find things to laugh about.
Laughter really is one of life’s best medicines! Take some time to engage in activities that make you laugh. Watch films that you find hilarious, revisit some funny memes you’ve seen on social media, call up one of your humorous friends for a chat, or go see a stand-up comedian perform at a local club.
- Try to avoid funny things that will remind you of your ex at first. Skip the film if it was one of your faves as a couple, for example.
- Do things you’ve never done before.
Whether you choose to go hiking, surfing, or dancing, take some time for yourself to do new and exciting things. Enjoy your new freedom and independence! Take this time to do all of the fun things that your partner never wanted or enjoyed doing with you.
- For instance, perhaps your partner never wanted to try Indian food. This is a perfect time for you to do so.
- Consider linking up with other people who also want to try new things. For example, you could join a special interest group on Meetup.com.
- Change your look.
Reinvigorate your look by getting a haircut, color, or style change. Clean out your wardrobe and give away anything you no longer wear. Buy yourself a few new and fun outfits. A new look can give your self-esteem a much deserved boost!
- Consider getting a facial, massage, pedicure, or manicure. Treat yourself! Plus, massages can help to release the tension in your body.
- Call up a few friends and hold a spa day at one of your homes.
Start a journal to record how you feel. Writing things down can be a powerful release. Write about whatever you want to write about, whether that’s the breakup or any other issue you’re going through. Give yourself space to vent. You’ll feel a lot better after you do.
- Make a list of your strengths.
Breakups can leave you feeling really down about yourself. It’s common to blame yourself after a breakup, and this may damage your self-esteem. Take some time to think about all of the good qualities that you possess. Write them down and remind yourself of them daily.
- Strengths can include humor, intellect, beauty, persistence, diligence, or compassion.
- You might consider writing them on sticky notes and putting them in certain places in your room or house. Seeing them throughout the day can boost your self-esteem.
- Try to manage your other responsibilities the best you can.
It’s okay to take some time to grieve during this sad time, but don’t forget about your other responsibilities. Continue to work hard at your career or in school. Stay connected and in touch with family and friends so that you don’t lose those crucial support systems. Get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet and avoid negative coping mechanisms like excessive drinking.
- For example, keep up with your bills and stay on top of cleaning tasks. Make yourself a healthy dinner each night.
- Even completing a small task can help you feel like you are making progress and moving on with your life.
Method 2 Making Connections and Enjoying Life
- Spend quality time with your friends.
Your friends can help you, comfort you, and get you out there having a good time. You don’t have to do anything particularly special. Try planning a movie night, going to the zoo, hitting the beach, or trying a new restaurant. Remember the fun you used to have with them and try to recapture that part of your life.
- Lean on your friends as you deal with a broken heart. Give yourself a chance to vent to someone who completely has your back.
- Channel your energy into new activities.
Use this time to reinvent yourself by exploring potential areas of interest for you. It’s never too late to be the person that you have always wanted to be! Explore new hobbies, try new foods and live a life of excitement and novelty every day.
- Pick up a new skill. For example, you could try glass-blowing, ceramics, a new instrument, or cave diving.
- Invite friends to try these new things with you if you prefer, or do them alone.
- Volunteer in your community.
Volunteering will help you see the real impact you have on people’s lives, and can show you how fortunate you are to have everything you do. Find a local homeless shelter, soup kitchen, nursing home or school to volunteer at and focus on helping others.
- Research local organizations with missions that align with your passions and volunteer with them.
- Adopt a pet for comfort and companionship.
If you have the time and resources, caring for a pet can be a rewarding and healing experience. Consider adopting a cat or dog from your local shelter. That way, you’ll gain a new friend and also save the life of an animal that deserves a forever home.
- If you rent rather than own your living space, make sure you’re allowed to have a pet by checking with your landlord first.
- Having a pet can also help you connect with other pet owners. For example, if you walk your dog at the park, you can chat with other dog owners.
- If you already have a pet, spend more time with them. Bring home a new toy or a special treat and just enjoy their company.
- Start dating again when you feel ready.
After whatever time you deem necessary, you might feel ready to date again. You’ll meet interesting new people and it may help you to move on. However, don’t feel pressured to date if you aren’t emotionally ready! Take your time.
- Once you do start dating, you don’t have to get serious with someone else right away. Move at a comfortable pace and try to avoid rebound relationships.
- If you’ve spent very little time in your past being single, or if you seem to have relationships one after the other without a break in between, you may need to watch out for rebounding.
Method 3 Separating Yourself from Your Ex
- Cut off all contact with them.
One of the most important steps to moving past your breakup is cutting off all communication with your ex. Do not call, text or email them. If they reach out to you, don’t reply. You can even consider blocking them if you feel tempted to respond. Give yourself a minimum of 90 days while you detach emotionally from them.
- If you have children or assets together, this won’t be possible. Try to limit your interactions to only those that are absolutely necessary.
- If you don’t have any reason (like children) to speak after 90 days, consider a full break from that person with no communication. Otherwise, you may prolong your pain and have a hard time moving on.
- If you feel like reaching out to them, write them an email but don’t send it. Putting your feelings into words can be cathartic.
- Disconnect from the person on all social networks.
Unfollow or delete the person on Facebook and unfollow them on Twitter and Instagram. You may want to make the social media disconnection permanent, since there’s no reason to remind yourself of them in the future. Consider cleansing their pictures from your own social media profiles, too.
- You don’t have to delete the images forever! Just remove them from your accounts so you don’t have to see them constantly.
- You may also want to unfollow their friends for now, so you don’t run the risk of seeing a picture or post about your ex.
Avoid places where your ex hangs out. Seeing your ex frequently may keep wounds open longer than necessary. Try to avoid places they frequent. Take a different route to work or class. These small inconveniences will help you heal much faster.
- Schedule time to grieve.
True healing can only come if you allow yourself to feel your emotions rather than constantly stifling them. Set aside private time every day to think about the breakup. Don’t hold in your tears; let them flow, freeing you of some of the sadness you’re carrying.
- Every day, devote less and less time to grieving. You’ll eventually find yourself thinking about the breakup less often.
- Cleanse your space of reminders of your ex.
Remove all the memories of the person from your everyday life. The goal isn’t to pretend like the person never existed, but simply to remove reminders which are currently painful for you.
- Collect all pictures, letters, and references to your ex and pack them away.
- Removing is different from destroying. Don’t burn or destroy any objects associated with the person, unless you’re sure you’ll never want to look at them again.
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Can a 13 year relationship be saved if both people have PTSD?
Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.
Licensed Professional Counselor
Depends on the basis of the relationship. I would suggest seeing a professional for this kind of information. Ideally, you both need to work on your own PTSD.
I’m a single dad with two kids what should I do?
Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.
Licensed Professional Counselor
Depends on your situation. Can you start dating again? Are you in financial trouble? Write down your concerns and try to proactively work on them. Get help from your family if possible.
My heart is broken, but I want to be with him again. What can I do?
Why would you want to be with someone that broke your heart? You deserve better than this. If you go back to him, he’ll most likely do the same thing again. Break this cycle and move on with your life. Use the tips in the article.
How do I let go of my first love?
Just remember that it is what it is, “your first love” not your last. Let go and know that one day you will look back on this experience fondly.
What if it was a family member who tremendously hurt my heart?
If the person has hurt you, being related doesn’t mean anything. If the family member is bad for you, eliminate the person from your life.
What if the person I like is moving to a new school soon and I may never see them again?
Ask if them for their number or email to keep in touch. If they don’t have one, ask for their new address so you can send letters.
I have tried to forget about my past but i keep having flashbacks of things I do not want to recall. What should I do?
Make new happy memories for yourself doing things you love to do. Maybe you can’t forget the past, but each time you can turn the page and train your mind to think about something else new and exciting.
How can I forget about someone I miss?
You need to fill a void in your life that makes you miss someone who is no longer there. Engage in activities, meet new people, do volunteer work, cultivate your interests. Keep yourself busy, and you’ll find that you gradually miss the person less and less.
What do I do if I have a child with someone but the relationship isn’t working?
Don’t stay with a person you don’t want to be with just because you have a child together. Try to keep things as friendly/respectful as possible, because this person will always be in your life. Just tell them that the relationship isn’t working out.
What do I do if I’m hopelessly in love with someone and I don’t even know if he likes me?
Find out if he likes you. Don’t waste your time suffering in silence. Once you know one way or the other you can accept it and move forward. If he’s not interested in you, remember that this doesn’t mean that you are not a person worthy of love and move on with your life.
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