Every woman expresses her love for a man in slightly different ways.
However, there are similarities that almost all loving relationships have in common.
For example: A woman who loves her boyfriend (fiancé or husband) will show affection, care and support for her man, she will get excited talking about their future together, she will feel a little bit protective of him and won’t want other women having a chance to take him away from her and she will miss when they spend time apart.
So, if your girlfriend is showing any of the following 10 signs, then you may be in danger of getting broken up with or being cheated on soon or in the near future.
Some worrying signs to look out for are…
Table of contents
- 1 1. She takes without giving
- 2 2. She prioritizes everyone else over you
- 3 3. She still talks about missing her ex’s
- 4 4. She hides you from her family and friends
- 5 5. She talks about her future, but it doesn’t include you
- 6 6. She says that she won’t get angry if you want to see other women
- 7 7. She seems to have a wandering eye when other guys are around
- 8 8. She doesn’t miss you when you spend time apart
- 9 9. She expects you to adapt to her, but won’t make any changes for you
- 10 10. She doesn’t really seem to care about you or what is happening in your life
- 11 Making Your Girlfriend Love You
1. She takes without giving
If your girlfriend is the kind of woman who always expects you to do things for her, listen to her and care about you, but she doesn’t do the same in return for you, then it’s a sign that she’s not interested in giving you the type of love that you want or need.
This may be as a result of her having a troubled childhood (e.g. she was abandoned, treated badly), giving her love to ex’s in the past and been taken for granted or it could be that she simply doesn’t feel enough respect and attraction for you to truly love you.
If you feel as though she doesn’t feel enough respect and attraction for you, it’s possible that you may have been giving her more power than she actually wants to have over you.
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If your girlfriend tends to take without giving back to you in return, you need to make sure that you change that dynamic.
How? You’ve got to become the type of man that she will look up to and respect and you then need to tell her to start loving and attentive towards you, otherwise you will break up with her.
To be the kind of man that she will look up to and respect, you need to:
- Be emotionally stronger than her (i.e. don’t cry, don’t be so sensitive about things, remain strong during challenging times or moments, etc).
- Have purpose in life that is based on you achieving your biggest goals and ambitions in life.
- Continually make real progress towards achieving your biggest goals and ambitions.
- Love and accept her for who she is, but gently encourage her to be even better from time to time.
- Be a man of your word.
- Don’t expect her or yourself to be perfect right now, but always make progress to becoming a better man.
When a woman is truly in love with her man, she will feel happy about doing things for you that make you happy, make you feel loved and help you become the man that you are aiming to be.
Yet, not all women are the same.
Some women have had a troubled childhood, are still carrying baggage from a previous relationship or simply haven’t yet worked out how to properly love a man.
So, if you are asking the question, “How do I know if my girlfriend loves me?” you need to have a more open mind about what the real problem could be with her.
She may have had a troubled past, or it may also be that she simply doesn’t feel enough respect and attraction for you to really care enough about her relationship with you.
If a woman is with a man who makes her feel deep attraction, respect and love she will naturally want to please him by being more caring, loving and attentive.
If she doesn’t love him in that way, the man will simply threaten to break up with her and she will then change, or he will break up with her and make her come back to him begging for another chance.
If you want to have that kind of power over your girlfriend, you must ensure that you are making her feel the type of love, respect and attraction that she really wants to experience when in a relationship.
2. She prioritizes everyone else over you
If your girlfriend tends to put you last in terms of priority (e.g. she regularly cancels plans with you to catch up with people who contact her at the last minute, she ends a phone call with you to reply to unimportant text messages, she is more interested in being around other people than you, etc) then it’s a sign that she isn’t truly in love with you.
When a woman is truly in love with a man, she will want to be around him as much as possible.
There’s nothing wrong with her wanting to hang around other people, do things by herself or be independent in some ways, but a woman who is truly in love with her boyfriend (fiancé or husband) will spend most of her time around him because it feels better to around him than to be apart from him.
When you’re in a love, being around the other person makes you feel so much better and makes life less stressful.
If your girlfriend gets more happiness and enjoyment from being around other people, then it’s a sign that she’s not excited about being in love with you and is using other people to fill up the emotional gap that exists in your relationship.
3. She still talks about missing her ex’s
If your girlfriend says that she loves you, but then also says that she misses an ex-boyfriend or a number of her ex’s, then it can mean that her love for you isn’t as strong as it was for her ex.
If you want your girlfriend to love you more than her ex, you need to be a man that she can look up to and respect, so her love, respect and attraction can deepen for you over time rather than fading away after the initial, easy part of a relationship.
When a relationship begins, it’s very easy to feel love because you are both feeling a lot of lust and excitement about being with someone new.
However, relationships go through stages and after that initial stage, a man must have the ability to deepen the woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for him, otherwise her love will begin to fade away.
When the love begins to fade, she will naturally begin to miss an ex who made her feel a stronger love, or she will open herself up to being seduced by other men who seem more capable of giving her the love and relationship experience she seeks.
4. She hides you from her family and friends
If your girlfriend doesn’t want you to meet her friends or family, it could mean that she isn’t proud of having you as her boyfriend or simply wants to have a brief, casual relationship with you.
When a woman is in love and sincerely wants to stay with a man for life, she will introduce her man to her man to her family and friends and if they don’t like him, it’s their bad luck because she is in love, is happy and is going to have a future with him whether they like it or not.
5. She talks about her future, but it doesn’t include you
If your girlfriend gets excited talking about her future plans and goals in life (e.g. I want to have this, I want to do that, my dream is to have this), but rarely or never includes you in those plans, it could be a sign that she doesn’t truly love you or see a future with you.
Of course, all women are different, so in some cases when a woman is only talking about herself when imagining the future, it could be that she is shy about using the word “we” or talking about you and her together in the future.
A woman might do that because she doesn’t want to appear too keen at the start of a relationship or is trying to gain some more power in the relationship by making you feel as though she could be happy without you.
So, it’s not always a sign that she doesn’t love you because it also mean that she is simply a bit immature when it comes to love.
She hasn’t yet realized that in order for love to be true, powerful and last a lifetime, it needs to be fearless.
When a man and a woman love each other fearlessly and don’t hold anything back, it creates a type of love that will last a lifetime.
With that type of love, both the man and woman feel excited, happy, hopeful and safe when they talk about their future together.
Although they may have individual goals and dreams, it will always link up and benefit their mutual goals together and that will make them feel as though they are working towards a mutually beneficial future and are better off together than apart.
6. She says that she won’t get angry if you want to see other women
A huge red in a relationship is when a woman says that she doesn’t mind if you want to see other women and have a more open relationship.
When that happens, there is a 99% chance that she already likes another guy, has cheated on you, is planning on cheating on you soon or is trying to give you a signal that she doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with you anymore.
Saying that she won’t be angry if you sleep with other women, is usually just an attempt to create a new dynamic in your relationship that will make her feel less guilty when she eventually says, “Don’t get angry, but I have to tell you something…I’ve met someone else.”
So, if your girlfriend has said that she would be okay if you wanted to see other women, then it means that she might love you in a casual way, but doesn’t see herself being committed to you for life.
7. She seems to have a wandering eye when other guys are around
There’s nothing wrong with your girlfriend briefly looking at other guys, because it’s perfectly natural and normal for humans to feel physical attraction for someone and then forget about a few seconds later.
If your girlfriend looks at a guy and then gets back to talking to you and doesn’t keep staring at him or glancing at him, then there’s nothing to worry about.
She is simply reacting to her normal human instincts, just like you will look at other women, feel attracted and then get back to enjoying your time and relationship with your girlfriend.
You looking at other women doesn’t mean that you are going to have sex with those women and then dump her.
You’re simply looking at them, feeling some attraction and it then fades away and is replaced by the love and attraction that you have for your girlfriend.
However, if your girlfriend is the type who seems to keep looking at guys repeatedly, staring at them and actively trying to make eye contact with them, then it’s pretty clear that she is open to other guys trying to seduce her into having sex and leaving you.
If you’re not around, your girlfriend will most-likely do that twice as much and it will take for you to lose your girlfriend, is for a confident guy to approach her, make her feel attracted and then get her phone number or hook up with her that night if she happens to be out partying.
8. She doesn’t miss you when you spend time apart
There’s nothing wrong with a girlfriend not contacting you after a few days apart if she is busy with her career, studies or is an independent woman who enjoys spending time on her own.
However, if you and her are apart for more than a week or are in a long distance relationship because of work or university and she doesn’t seem to miss you when you are apart, then it could mean that she isn’t truly in love with you.
Of course, all women are different and her being so emotionally distant could be her way of coping with the distance of your relationship.
It could also be her way of trying to protect herself from falling in love with you too much, so she will then have an easier time getting over you if the relationship ends.
If you are in a relationship where your girlfriend really seems to need you or miss you, it’s critical that you change that dynamic before she meets another guy who makes her want to be more devoted.
I know this because I help guys to get women back after a break up, so over the years, I’ve heard all the stories and all the different reasons why a woman will break up with a guy.
For example: Sometimes, a couple will gradually become so emotionally detached from each other that they will begin to grow apart and then one of them will break up the relationship, or cheat and then break up the relationship.
In other cases, the woman will become emotionally detached, but the man will remain fully invested and he will then become insecure and needy, which then turns her off and makes her feel attracted to more confident, emotionally mature guys.
9. She expects you to adapt to her, but won’t make any changes for you
One of the easiest ways to tell if your girlfriend really loves you is to think about how much she has adapted to you, compared to how much you’ve adapted to her.
For a relationship to last a lifetime, both the man and the woman need to adapt to each other and make small changes in how they communicate, feel and behave so that the relationship can be more harmonious and mutually enjoyable.
For example: If a woman wants a committed relationship where she can spend 3-4 nights per week with her boyfriend, but can only spare one night for her because he works long hours and then goes to the gym 5 nights per week, it is going to make her feel as though he isn’t ready to be a truly loving man.
She might accept it for a while at the start of a relationship because she is so attracted to him and the sex is great, but she will eventually come to resent him and feel as though she needs to fill up that emotional gap in her life somehow.
She might try to distract herself with hobbies, TV, social media and other things to put up with the one night per week that she gets to see him, but she will eventually feel as though he just isn’t giving enough to the relationship for her to justify committing herself to him.
She will then either break up with him, ask for time apart or open herself up to being seduced by other guys into having sex and leaving him.
If her boyfriend wants to avoid that kind of thing happening, he needs to be willing to give up a couple of nights per week at the gym (or whatever hobby he is addicted to) and allocate that time to her.
However, for the relationship to be successful, it can’t just be him who is adapting. She has to adapt to his needs and wants to.
For example: He might want a girlfriend who enjoys cooking for him, but she might not want to do that because she thinks that it’s old school for a woman to cook for a man.
If she wants him to become more available to her, she needs to be willing to do something for him to (e.g. cook for him one night per week and he will free up two extra nights per week for her).
For a relationship to be successful, both the man and woman need to be willing to adapt to each other, rather than it being one-sided.
So, if your girlfriend expects you to adapt to her and isn’t willing to change anything for you, it shows that she not only doesn’t truly love you, but she doesn’t respect you enough to feel as though she should do that.
10. She doesn’t really seem to care about you or what is happening in your life
If your girlfriend doesn’t ask you much about what is going on in your life, doesn’t listen when you talk about what is happening in your life and only seems to care about herself and her friends and family, then it’s a sign that she isn’t proud to have you as her boyfriend and isn’t excited to be in love with you.
When a woman is in love with you, she will be happy to listen to you talking about things that she doesn’t even care about (e.g. fixing cars, football, etc), she will support your goals and ambitions and she will be interested to hear about what you and your friends have been up to lately.
Essentially, she will be happy to listen to you talk about anything because she is getting to spend time with you and have some of your precious attention.
Making Your Girlfriend Love You
One of the most important parts of making your girlfriend love you is making her feel sexually attracted to you and respectful towards you as a man.
Being able to trigger a woman’s feelings of attraction for you is extremely important when you first meet a woman, are on a date with her and in a relationship with her.
If you can only make your girlfriend experience light feelings of attraction, respect and love, then she’s not going to want to stick around for long.
When a relationship begins, it can often feel as though it will last forever because both the man and woman feel excited to be in love due to the lust they are experiencing for each other.
As they begin to have sex, a man and woman will then begin to say, “I love you” and “I want to be with you forever” and all sorts of sweet things like that.
However, none of those things will mean anything to a woman if the guy isn’t able to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction after the relationship passes the initial stage.
The love that happens at the start of a relationship is nowhere near as deep, meaningful and enjoyable as the love that a couple feels when they are years into a relationship that has gotten better and better over time.
If you feel as though your girlfriend is falling out of love with you or doesn’t love you enough to want to stick with you for life, then you need to actively change the dynamic of your relationship.
Unlike women in the past who would stay with a man for life because it was shameful to break up, today’s women are free to get in and out of relationships until the find a man who is capable of giving her the love experience she truly seeks.
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This is, perhaps, not a conversation you should be having with your new girlfriend. Sure, she should be the one person you can discuss anything with, and lean on for support, but it’s still a fairly new relationship, and no one is going to enjoy hearing that you constantly compare your situation (and therefore your current relationship) with that of your ex.
Instead, I would focus on your own well-being. Get your house in order, and then reveal your struggle and insecurities to your partner as something that you’re tackling head on, and she need not fear.
It sounds like you put all your eggs in one basket as far as your former relationship was concerned, and that it left you quite broken when it didn’t work out. The problem is that you allowed yourself to be defined in terms of your relationship, not in terms of your own personal achievements as an individual.
And you’re largely still allowing yourself to be defined in terms of your ex, and her achievements. You need to come to terms with the fact that things did not work out, and desire success not because you want to spite her, but because you genuinely wish to better yourself.
I would sit down, get a piece of paper, and write down:
- Your successes, and skills you’ve developed so far in life
e.g. I can play the guitar quite well; I get B+ averages, etc.
- The list of personal traits that you are proud of
e.g. I am fit / have a good diet; I am an analytical thinker; I am open minded; etc.
- A list of things you’d like to improve on (essentially, short term goals)
e.g. I’d like to learn to play X song on the guitar, which is currently beyond me; I’m overweight, I’d like to lose 30 lbs; I’d like to improve my grades to an A average, etc.
- Develop a concrete plan on how to achieve those short term goals
e.g. I will practice guitar for 30 minutes, 3 times a week; I will study math 30 minutes a night, every night because that’s my lowest grade, and it will bring my overall average up; I will work out for 30 minutes every day, come hell or high water; etc.)
- Set a long term goal (such as getting into an Ivy league college), and see whether your short term goals are aligned with your long term goal
e.g. I want to play basketball at least 2 hours every week, but my grades are not good enough to get me into . Perhaps those 2 hours would be better spent studying; etc.
The point of this exercise is to figure out the things about yourself that you can be proud of, and to redefine your goals in terms of the things which interest you, and you wish to accomplish.
It would probably also be a good idea to completely cut your ex out of your life. Block her on social media, delete her number, etc. Cut off all contact.
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