A prayer for love has to be something you do no a regular basis. Love and relationships are one of the most important aspects of our lives, because our relationships will either lift us up, or tear us down.
Yet praying for love tends to be something that we don’t often do. Maybe we’re afraid to go to God with our love life. Maybe we’re getting discouraged that our prayers aren’t being answered. Or maybe, just maybe, we don’t know how to pray for love.
Prayer For Love Vs. Worry About Love
It took me a while to grasp how to pray for love. Because I’ve always had a tendency to think about love, and worry about love, rather than pray about it.
I’m quick to analyze, figure out, and try to put the pieces together. But it takes me a while to turn to prayer.
I’m realizing that my tendency to over-analyze is the opposite of what God’s word tells me to do. All through Scripture Jesus is challenging us: Don’t just dwell on things, pray about them.
Prayer is the act by which we mentally hand over our problems, concerns, fears, desires, and dreams to someone who actually has the power to control.
And it makes so much sense, because if we’re going to allow these things to fill our brain, we are better off doing it in a way that has the power to impact the things that are weighing us down, rather than simply allowing them to consume us.
If you find yourself consumed by your love life – or lackthereof, here are some ways to mentally and prayerfully hand those things to the One who can actually do something about it. Here are 8 ways to pray for love.
Pray Like This: 8 Prayers For Love
#1: Pray that God would give you a relationship (Matthew 7:7)!
God’s word challenges us to ask and bring our needs before God. Anything and everything. As long as our hearts are aligned with His, there are no limits on what we can ask. What are your deepest needs and desires when it comes to a relationship? What do you need God to do in your relationship? Let Him know.
#2: Pray that He would grant you patience and insight to wait for a good one (Isaiah 40:31).
Waiting on God is never easy, because once again, it is a reminder that we are not in control. But through the time of waiting, ask God to change you, nourish you, and fill you so that you are empowered and prepared to take the next steps when the timing is right.
#3: Pray that He would be working out anything unhealthy in your life (Jeremiah 33:8).
Some of our baggage and sin we can recognize, and some we can’t. As you seek to enhance your love life, be sure to ask God to help you recognize and heal all the things in your life that aren’t lining up with His best. Seek to get to the bottom of your sins, and ask for His healing power to be at work in your life.
#4: Pray that He would shape your heart for nourishing interactions with others (Colossians 3:12-14).
It’s important to learn how to love, rather than simply longing to be loved. When your heart is open to loving and edifying others the way it was meant to, your relationships will be enriched and empowered.
#5: Pray that He would bring healing into your past so that you are free to embrace the present (Philippians 3:13-14).
We are called to move forward, and forget what is behind. Sometimes, it’s easy to get stuck on our past and be paralyzed from living in the present. No matter what kinds of things your past may hold, ask God to be at work in your past so that you are free to live in the moment and embrace your present.
#6: Pray that He would protect your emotional world and give you wisdom of how to set healthy boundaries (Proverbs 4:23).
I talk a lot about guarding our hearts and how to practically do that, but how often do we actually pray about our hearts and emotional worlds? God longs to be a part of our emotions just as much as our spiritual life. He is a holistic God, who longs to interact with our mind, body, and soul. Give Him a chance by opening your emotional life to Him through prayer.
#7: Pray that He would open your eyes to the joy of doing sex His way (Hebrews 13:4).
It’s so easy to focus on what we can’t do before marriage, and end up harboring bitterness and resentment. But what if we were to ask God to open our eyes to doing life His way? What if we were to plead with Him to download His heart onto ours, so that we could truly understand what is best for our lives? Rather than struggling with His plan, let’s ask Him to reveal His heart to ours, particularly in the area of sex and sexuality, so that we can be freed to trust Him without bitterness or regret. (More on this in Chapter 8 of True Love Dates)
#8: Pray that God would be the focus of your life now and forever (Psalm 37:4).
At the end of the day, no matter how we view it, there is no gift that is greater than the Giver. Whether we feel that or not, it doesn’t cease to be true. May we continue to bring this request before God, so that He can turn our hearts to Him as our greatest delight and desire, because perspective has the power to change everything.
This week, rather than focus on your problems, worries, or what you don’t yet have, focus on what you do have: a direct line to the One who controls all things, including your precious heart. It’s time to actually do some real work in the area of our love life and relationships instead of wasting our mental energy away. It’s time to pray for love.
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Method 1 Before You Pray
Think on what you will pray about. Before you begin, think about what you will pray about. What are the things in your life that trouble you? What are you thankful for? How do you want to bring God into your life? What questions do you have? These are things which you may want to pray on. Knowing what to say ahead of time will make you feel more clear and comfortable when you go to pray.
Consult with your religious adviser or a trusted friend. After you’ve thought about some of the things you’d like to talk to God about, consult with your priest, imam, rabbi, or a friend or family member whom you trust. Ask them what they think God might be able to help you with and what they think about your concerns and questions. They may open your eyes to questions and answers which you had never thought of.
- Find a good place to pray.
Once you are ready to pray, you will need to find an appropriate place and time to pray to God. This should be a quiet place where you can devote a good amount of time and concentration to your conversation with God, to show him your devotion.
- However, if you feel the need to pray quickly and in a less than ideal situation, go right ahead. You do not need to be anywhere special for God to hear you. He will understand your distress and cares only that you love him in your heart and try to follow him.
Get any necessary or additional items. You may want to have certain items when you pray, such as candles, a bible, the remains of a loved one, or other items which are significant to you. Have these available and respectfully placed.
Plan to pray alone or with others. You will want to decide if you feel it is better to pray on your own or with others. Different faiths stress different methods but you should not feel constrained by the normal conventions of your denomination. Do what you feel is right in your heart, whether that means singing your prayers in a church full of people or facing Qibla alone in a corner.
Method 2 Making a Basic Prayer for Christians
- Show respect.
Show respect by humbling yourself before God. Dress plainly (if you can), do not show off your prayer pridefully to those nearby, and
on your knees with head bowed (if you can).
Read from the Bible. You may want to begin by reading a passage from the Bible which has significance and meaning to you. This will open your heart to His word and show him your devotion.
Thank God. Thank God for all of his blessings. Thank him for the things that make you happy, that make your life better, or that make the world a better place. Understand that these blessings are God showing his love for his people and should be celebrated and appreciated.
Ask forgiveness. Ask God’s forgiveness for the mistakes that you make. Keep your heart open and remember that we all make mistakes: nobody is perfect. Though you may have trouble admitting it or thinking of a mistake you have made, you will find some way that you can be better. Be sincere and you will know in your heart if God forgives you.
Ask for guidance. Ask God’s guidance. He isn’t a genie or some magical granter of wishes…He is merely there to guide you on the path you are meant to follow. Ask him to lead you and show you the right decisions and the ways to better yourself as a person, as well as the world and people around you.
- Pray for others.
Pray for those who you feel need prayers. You can pray for your family, for your friends, or for strangers. Ask God to show them His love and to also help them find their way when they are lost. Do not cast judgement on them or their problems: God is the only Judge and He will do what is right.
- Remember that people are not the Devil or demons; they are souls, just as you are, and can be led by God. Don’t ask for them to be struck down, ask for them to realize their mistakes and seek forgiveness just as you do.
Close your prayer. Close your prayer in whatever way you feel is appropriate. The most common way is to say ‘Amen’.
Method 3 Making a Basic Prayer for Jews
Try to pray in Hebrew. Most denominations believe that praying in Hebrew is better, though your god will understand you in whatever tongue you speak. Do your best and He will understand.
Try to pray with others. Jews prefer to pray more often and in groups, other than Christian prayer which is more individually focused. Pray with others if you can. This can be at temple, with your family at home, or while you are out with your friends.
Know each of the prayers for the different rituals. Instead of individually stated prayers said each day, Jews prefer to say blessings for different times of day, events, and times of year. You will want to learn the different prayers and when they should be spoken, as well as the Holy Days which require special prayers.
Pray individually if you prefer. If the normal ways of praying are not for you and you feel that you communicate with your god better on your own and in your own way, that is okay. You can pray in the Christian method above and your god will understand. He cares more about your devotion and obedience.
Method 4 Making a Basic Prayer for Muslims
Pray at the right times. Muslims pray at specific times of day and you will need to learn and observe these times. You can look them up, ask your imam, or get a handy app or program for your mobile device or computer.
Orient yourself. You will need to face Mecca when you pray. This is an important part of prayer for Muslims. You will need to look up what the proper direction is for the area in which you live. Alternatively, you can get an app or program for your phone or computer which will act as a compass and point you in the right direction no matter where you are.
Sit, stand, and motion correctly. There are specific ways that Muslims are supposed to sit, stand, bow, and move their hands and bodies during prayer. These can be rather complicated and you may need to do some research. You can also learn by watching fellow Muslims, either out and about or at your local mosque.
Open your prayer. Begin your prayer in the proper way. Muslim prayer is much more specific and rigid than Christian prayer. The standard opening is to call “Allahu Akbar” and then recite the Isteftah Dua (optional) and Surah Al-Fatiha.
Recite the Surahs. Recite the Surahs appropriate to the time of day or that are being recited by your fellows nearby. If you are alone, you can recite whatever Surahs you believe are appropriate.
Perform the appropriate number of rakats. The rakats, or cycles of prayer, are standardized and a different number of cycles is prescribed for each time of day. Know what is the appropriate number and try to perform at least that many.
Close your prayer. End your prayers in the normal way by turning your head to the right and saying, “As Salam Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu’.” The angel who records your good deeds is to this side. Then, turn your head to the left and say, “As Salam Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu’.” The angel who records your wrongful deeds is to this side. Now your prayers are over.
Method 5 After You Pray
Look for signs that God has heard you. When you are done praying, as you progress through your day and further on, look for signs that God has heard your prayers. Keep your heart open and look for ways in which he seeks to lead you on the appropriate path. You will know in your heart what is right.
Do right by Him and keep your promises. If you promised God that you would improve yourself or work harder for something, you should keep your promise. Work as hard as you can, honestly and with humility, and God will understand and be pleased.
Pray regularly. Don’t just pray when you have a really big problem. God is not your band-aid. Pray all the time and show Him the respect that He deserves. Get in the habit and with time you will be great at praying.
Help and pray with others. As you pray more, you will want to pray with others and bring others to understand how much they can gain from prayer. Bring them to God by helping them, honestly, humbly, and without judgement, and they too may become inspired to come to know Him as you have.
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Do I need to pray 3 times a day? How many times?
There is no specific number of times to pray in a single day. It is good to remember to pray after waking up to ask God to guide you through the day, before going to sleep to thank Him for the day, regret your sins from the day and ask for good sleep, and at the noon to keep on track with God so you don’t forget about Him and to stay in active contact. You can pray as many times as you want, even 20 times a day. Prayer is our conversation with God, so you can pray some quick short prayers whenever you want and need.
How can I devote my life to God?
It depends how fully you are willing to devote your life. Start by praying regularly, maybe in the morning and before you sleep, and before meals. Thank God for the day he has made. If you are serious about devoting your entire life, look into going to the respective place of worship to become a member to spread gods word. You can become a missionary and help those in need. You can donate to charities and follow the word of the Lord.
What if I’m scared to get close to the lord?
Don’t be! Think of God as your father. Don’t you want to be close to your father? Then think of a man who watches over you, is willing to do anything to protect you, loves you, wants to know you and walk with you through life, cares for you no matter what you do, forgives you always, and is slow to anger. Then add “all powerful and mighty”. God is that man, but even better.
How do I know when God has answered my question?
Everyone gets their prayers answered differently. Sometimes you don’t get what you expected either, but God will show you a sign when he’s answered your prayer, it could be right now, it could be next week, it could be in five years, but God will answer. Just don’t expect to get exactly what you want.
Will my prayers still be heard if I am not baptized?
Baptism is just a way to wash yourself of the sins you have committed and the sins of Adam and Eve. God is hearing your prayers regardless of the status of your baptism. Matthew 7: 7 “Seek and you will find. Ask and you shall receive. Know that when you ask that God hears the prayers.”
How do I say a protection prayer?
Ask God to put a hedge of protection around you while you’re driving, at work, at home etc. You may ask Him to guard you.
Why do we need to pray?
Prayer is also called a conversation with God. Christianity is based on a relationship with God, so imagine if you have a friend and you never talk to him. It wouldn’t work, right? It is the same with prayer. We can talk through it to God, tell Him our struggles, joys and share with him our thoughts and lives.
I have many worries and my thoughts are all over the place. If I tell God all this, will he still hear me and help me sort out everything that is worrying me?
He cares about your worries. Just give it to God, and sometimes He will say yes, wait, or no. The future usually holds his answers. And sometimes His answers take days and weeks and months. Just be patient and keep praying. Sometimes He will even give you an immediate answer. Those are always the best!
Will God answer my prayers if I’m not religious?
God always hears those who cry out to Him, even those of many different religions. God should still answer your prayers, but when He answers, do not expect a booming voice to say, “Yes, you should…” or “No, do not…”. Answers are not always easy to see.
How can I tell God that I really love him and will listen to him?
By saying just that. How much you love God can be seen in your actions and what you do to show that you love Him. He sees your heart and knows it, so if you truly love Him, He will see that, too. Do pray and ask Him to speak to you in your prayers and while reading the Word.
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- Always trust what you know to be true in your heart. If a priest, leader, friend or family member tells you something that makes you uncomfortable, pray on it. God will tell you what is right and you will feel sure and happy in your heart. No one but God can tell you what is right and what He wills.
- Pray whenever and where ever you need to, i.e. in traffic, before a test, or before each meal.
- Talk to God the same way you talk to your friends. This helps to calm any nerves you may have before praying.
- When you wake up in the morning, close your eyes and thank God because there are some people who didn’t wake up and never will. Thank Him when you still have a chance to.
- Just because God has not answered your prayer right away does not mean he will not, or he does not love you. He will always love you. He has your future planned out for you, and the answer to your questions will be answered at the right time.
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One of the biggest aspects of living a Christian life is prayer time with God. For many Christians, especially new believers this is something that often sounds mystical or mysterious and many Christians have a lot of questions about prayer. In this article we want to explore how to pray to God, but also delve into other basic questions… what is prayer? Do you need prayer? Does prayer help? By the time we finish it is my hope you have a good understanding of how to pray to God, what is the right way to pray and how that daily discipline will change your life for the better.
We want to share with you a few simple prayers that can start you off on the path of a healthy prayer life. Keep in mind, it is more about you and your circumstances and God wants to know you on a very personal level. Yes, He knows everything there is to know already, but more importantly He wants you to freely join Him in communion and share your life with Him.
Dear Heavenly Father, I want to thank you for the blessings you brought into my life, for my family, for my church, for my friends and for my neighbors. Today I have a difficult decision to make and I want your wisdom in all of my choices. Please Father let the Holy Spirit guide me and show me the path that would glorify you. I love you and thank you. In Jesus name. Amen.
Jesus, my King of Kings, please give me strength. My heart is troubled and my body is stricken with illness. Give me comfort and healing if it is your will. Lift me up and give me courage in this difficult time and let people see your reflection when they look at me. I love you and need you. Be with me always. Amen.
Holy Spirit, thank you so much for all you do in my life! You have filled me with peace, joy, patience and have guided my decisions. Today I step out in confidence that you are with me, a lamp unto my feet, together we shall glorify our Father in Heaven. Amen.
Pray to God the right way – what is prayer?
So what exactly is prayer? We see people around the world in prayer, people of all nations, all cultures, all religions prayer is prevalent. In a generic sense prayer is a person communicating with a higher power. In the Christian faith prayer is our direct line to our Creator, the one True God. Prayer is bringing your petition to God no matter what it may be… healing, strength, encouragement, direction, thanksgiving… in all things we should go in prayer.
Prayer is also a form of worship the God for all that He has done in our lives and the world. We must pray in His name – Father, Son or Holy Spirit. You may be asking, which of the three should I pray to? The answer is all or any. Scripture is clear that Father, Son and Holy Spirit are ONE (Matthew 28:19), and personally I have said prayers to all three at different times.
The most important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong way to pray
Now let us take some time to discuss specifically how to pray to God the right way. The most important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong way to pray. We are all different and we will all connect with God in various ways. Some people like to find a quiet place where they can be alone with God, which I highly recommend. When there are no distractions and your environment is peaceful it will much easier to communicate clearly. It is a good idea to set an appointment with God, a time and place each day where you know you will spend some quiet time alone with Him. In my experience I prefer to start my day this way, as it helps to invigorate me as I walk out the door and into the world.
When to pray to God?
On the other hand we do not want to become so structured that we only pray to God when our calendar tell us it is time. When you are going about your day, say small prayers… ask for help, give thanks or just let God know how you are feeling in that moment. Often times we may not know what to pray for and in these times we must rely on the Holy Spirit (Romans 8:26) to intercede for us in our weakness.
Prayer is about a relationship with God, very similar to the relationship between a father and son on Earth. If a man on Earth needs help, or comfort, or just wants to share a part of his life with someone, he will often turn to his father. When a father sees his child going through a tough time, He wants to hear about it, and help him if possible get through it. This is no different than our Father in Heaven, who loves each of us more than we can imagine.
How to pray to God to get answers?
People often ask: Should I pray on my knees? Should I pray out loud? Or other such details. There is no one correct answer to these questions. In my day I spend time on my knees praying, sitting at my desk praying and even praying while I am working. There are times when I pray quietly and times when I speak out loud. There are times when I cry, sing, laugh and shout out in prayer.
Now that we have discussed how and when to pray let us talk about how prayer can help us in our lives. How to pray to get answers from God? If you ever want testimony about the effectiveness of prayer just ask anyone who prays on a regular basis. Prayer is a life-changing practice that will bring you closer to God. The closer you come to God the more peace and joy will fill your heart. You will learn to trust and rely on God more because you will start to see answered prayers unfold in your life.
Don’t give up the prayer if you think your questions and petitions are not answered. God answers in His time, so trust and be patient and you get an answer. When Jesus Christ walked the Earth, He spent a considerable amount of time in prayer because He wanted to leave behind an example for us to follow as Christians. Let’s follow Jesus Christ and pray to God!
Also read: WORDS YOU HAVE PRAYED STAY FOREVER IN THE HEART OF GOD
Jesus shares some tremendous insight regarding how to pray to God in Matthew 6:5-13.
“And now about prayer. When you pray, don’t be like the hypocrites who love to pray publicly on street corners and in the synagogues where everyone can see them. I assure you, that is all the reward they will ever get. But when you pray, go away by yourself, shut the door behind you, and pray to your Father secretly. Then your Father, who knows all secrets, will reward you.
“When you pray, don’t babble on and on as people of other religions do. They think prayers are answered only by repeating words over and over again. Don’t be like them, because your Father knows exactly what you need even before you ask him! Pray like this: Our Father in heaven, may your name be honored. May your Kingdom come soon. May your will be done here on earth, just as it is in heaven. Give us our food for today, and forgive us our sins, just as we have forgiven those who have sinned against us. And don’t let us yield to temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.”
In the above verses, Jesus shares how not to pray.
- Verse 5: We are to pray in secret, not the way people did in His day — praying out loud publicly, primarily to just be seen, and heard.
- Verse 6: Jesus asks us to go to a private place since our Heavenly Father already knows what we are going to pray about.
- Verse 7: Jesus tells us not to ramble on and on, as people of other religions do, or be repetitious with words. God, our heavenly Father, would have us be specific about our prayer.
- Verse 8: Jesus reiterates that the believer is not to pray repetitiously like the heathen.
Next, Jesus, teaches us how to pray.
- Verse 9: Jesus says we should give honor to God and His name.
- Verse 10: We are to pray for His Kingdom to come, and for His will to be done, that there would be a heavenly or godly presence here on earth.
- Verse 11: We are to pray for daily provision.
- Verse 12: We are to pray and ask for forgiveness for our sins, and for others who have wronged us.
- Verse 13: We are to pray and ask God to keep us from being tempted, and to deliver us from Satan and his power.
Other New Testament writers describe other ways to pray. Paul, in Philippians 4:6, says that we should pray for everything with thanksgiving. Paul, who wrote several books of the New Testament, often began and ended his letters in prayer for the saints. Specifically, Paul prays for God’s grace, peace, love, and faith among believers.
Peter, in 1 Peter 5:7, exhorts us to cast all our care upon God, because He cares about us. In verse 8, Peter warns us that Satan seeks to devour the believer.
James 1:5 says we can pray and ask God for wisdom, but this should be done in faith. James 4:1-4 says that when we pray, we often pray or ask out of our own selfish ambition. James 4:15 exhorts that we need to pray for God’s will to be done in our lives.
In the Old Testament, Moses prayed to God almost constantly on behalf of the Israelites — for God’s mercy and graciousness in dealing with their sins. Abraham prayed persistently for his relative Lot, who lived in Sodom, that God would spare Him. 2 Chronicles 14:11 says Asa cried out to the Lord. Prophet Jeremiah prayed for God’s guidance and correction of the Israelites (Jeremiah 10:23-24). David prayed for the peace of Jerusalem in Psalm 122:6.
The protocol on how to pray covers several ways of prayer. The primary focus of prayer is the intent. Does the prayer honor God and exalt His name? What is the purpose behind the prayer? Is it personal gain or ambition? Do you pray for others to be blessed and encouraged? Are your prayers done in secret and in humility? Are your prayers focused on obtaining godly wisdom, counsel, and direction? God is pleased with these prayers and answers them.
How often are we to pray? The Bible says pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17). What should we pray for? What if we do not know how to pray? The Bible says the Holy Spirit will help us pray (Romans 8:26-27).
How do we pray to God? Prayer is essentially putting your request, concern, or issue before the Lord, and trusting Him to answer them. Matthew 18:3 says we need to pray with the heart of little children, simple, reverent, specific, and trusting.
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