Prayers for anger and patience

Matthew 5:43-48 Anger, Patience, and Prayer

LET IT GO (Anger) (5:43)

“love your neighbor and hate your enemy”

This has to do with yourself.

ILLUSTRATION: Bottled Up Anger is like A Bottle of Carbonated Drink

Hate is bottled up anger that is spewed on someone else. You are shaking and agitating the relationship in a way that will later explode. You make a stable relationship unstable when you get angry. The problem with anger and hating someone else is not them. The problem is with yourself.

EXAMPLE: Middle East conflict

There are people who have pent up anger that they have kept for years. When you look at a conflict between people, it always starts with an anger that has stayed quiet for a long time.

I was angry with my friend: I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow. — William Blake

Anger is an erroneous zone (error zone), a kind of psychological influenza (flu) that incapacitates you just as a physical disease would.… Anger is a choice, as well as a habit. It is a learned reaction to frustration, in which you behave in ways that you would rather not. In fact, severe anger is a form of insanity.

—Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

Charles R. Swindoll, The Tale of the Tardy Oxcart and 1,501 Other Stories, (Nashville: Word Publishing) 2000, c1998.

If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is a part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.

— Herman Hesse

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness in a descending spiral of destruction … The chain reaction of evil — hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars — must be broken, or we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of annihilation.

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illumines it.

Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity. Hate destroys a man’s sense of values and his objectivity. It causes him to describe the beautiful as ugly and the ugly as beautiful, and to confuse the true with the false and the false with the true. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice. Justice at its best is love correcting everything that stands against love.

— Martin Luther King, Jr.

Jesus is saying here to His people – “You have learned to hate. I am teaching you to learn to love.” In order to really learn to love, you have to unlearn your hate.

How do you let it go? You don’t let it explode. You set it aside. You go away so that the anger does not get a direction. When you go to someone with your anger, you are going to explode it in their face. When you go away, it is like when I set this bottle down. I am giving a place for my anger. I am slowly, letting it go. This leads me to my second point:

LEARN TO LOSE (Patience) (5:44)

“love your enemies”

This has to do with others. Loving your enemies takes enourmous patience. It takes time to really learn to love your enemies. Because these people seem to be your enemy (because you have not learned to let it go), you have to learn patience with them. Even when you have learned to let it go, when you let go of your anger, you will begin to look at people different. The person with whom you became angry stops becoming your competition, and starts to become your co-worker.

As you start to love your enemies, there are some attitudes that you will learn to put away. As you are putting these selfish attitudes away, you are growing in patience. I call growing in patience, “learning to lose.” Let me explain.

When you hate someone, it is because there is an internal competition or fight going on in your life. How you react to people on the outside shows the inner conflict going on in your inner life (your spirit). As you stop holding your anger in, as you learn to let it go in a healthy way, you will start to look at other people differently. You will learn to stop hating people, and begin to start loving them. In order to start loving people, you have to learn to be patient.


You can learn to lose. This is related to the phrase “bless those who curse you”

Some US Congressmen learned this past week that sometimes you have to learn to lose.

Winning is not everything in life. There can be winners and losers. But just because you lose, losing does not make you a loser. It gives you more patience.

I never failed once. It just happened to be a 2000-step process.

— Thomas Edison, responding to a reporter who asked how it felt to fail 2000 times before successfully inventing the light bulb

Patience will achieve more than force.

— Edmund Burke

Some people think that they have to force things, that they have to win all the time. They look at other people as competition (as their enemy), and not as their co-worker. As you change the way you look at other people, God will start to teach you to be patient. One of the lessons of patience is the fact that you will lose. You won’t win all the time. And you don’t have to. You can learn to be encouraging to people who before were your enemy. Instead of cursing them, you can bless them.

With our tongues we praise our Lord and Father. Yet, with the same tongues we curse people, who were created in God’s likeness. Praise and curses come from the same mouth. My brothers and sisters, this should not happen! (James 3:9-10 GW)

Great people learn to lose gracefully. It prevents you from creating your own enemies.

“Love needs to be given to those who you think don’t deserve it.”


Sometimes we feel like we should be right all the time. But frankly, we don’t know everything. We have to learn that sometimes, we don’t need to be right all the time. Now sometimes we run into people with other views. While we may passionately disagree with their views, we don’t have to say that we are right (in which we are really saying that you are wrong) all the time.

Therefore let us, as many as are mature, have this mind; and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal even this to you. Nevertheless, to the degree that we have already attained, let us walk by the same rule, let us be of the same mind. (Philippians 3:15-16 NKJV)

ILLUSTRATION: The time I tried to convince a Catholic that she was wrong in her faith…


Learning to lose, prevents you from fighting. Trying to be right all the time brings more fights, and causes more enemies. Sometimes, husbands and wives, and parents and children can turn into enemies under one roof.

ILLUSTRATION: I remember one time my sister was dating a guy. They argued all the time. It was simply because each one thought that they were right and they both thought that they had the right to win. So since they both thought they were right (which can happen), and they both thought they should win all the time (which does not need to happen), it led to a fight.

Thinking you are right and thinking you must win can resul

t in fights. Fights cause lovers to turn into enemies.

I watched this one time, and I told my sister after a nasty fight, “Give in”. Tell your boyfriend: “Perhaps you are right dear.” The fight ended immediately.

The Bible calls this submission in Ephesians. We are all supposed to submit to each other. To submit means that you are not going to get your way. Another way of saying this is to say that you must let yourself lose.

Anger and Patience are opposites.



LIFT IT UP (Prayer) (5:44)

“Pray for those who persecute you.”

What do you do when you seem to be losing to your enemies? You pray.

Vent upwards to God. The working out of your anger, which can get directed to people you learn to hate, should be directed at God. This is not crazy. This is healthy. You begin to realize that you can’t win, you can’t be right, and you can’t fight against these people all the time. It just becomes wasted energy. They are not the ones who will get worn out by hate. You will. So you have to learn to let it go. You have to learn to lose. And more importantly, you have to learn to lift it up.

Where do you go when you know you still hate other people? You take it to God. Why? Because God is the only One who will change you and your situation so that hate turns to love. God will change you. God will change them. God will change the cirucmstances. But He will start to do it when you go to Him in prayer.

Jesus said to pray for those who hurt you. Jesus is talking about forgiveness. He is saying that you have to vent your frustrations to God so that you can forgive the people who have hurt you. You are not going to persecute God. You are really taking the hurt that you carry and you are giving it up to God. You lift your hurts up to God and He takes them and heals these hurts. As God begins to heal you, You can learn to pray for people whom you once hated.

You know what prayer will do. It will turn you from a hater, to a lover. When you pray for your enemies, you can’t help but start to love them. Jesus did this on the cross. He prayed to God and asked God to forgive His enemies.

Remember our two bottles of water. Did you watch what happened when the second one (the one that did not explode)? It bubbled up to the surface, little by little. The bubbles that earlier were used to explode, can slowly be lifted to God. These bubbles are like all of your hurts, all of your pain, all of your emotions, all of your thoughts. God wants you to send up bubbles of prayer to Him. This releases the pressure that can cause you to explode.

Did you see the first bottle build up pressure and explode? Did you see the second bottle? It started to settle after a time of rest. This is exactly what prayer does to your hate and anger. Prayer will relieve the pressure that you feel as you lift up what you have let go. As you let your anger rest, and as you learn to not look at another person as competition, you learn to pray for them. Prayer gives you the proper channel that helps you turn your enemies into friends.

Let it go, learn to lose, and lift it up.

There are so many areas in life for which we need patience.

We need it in our relationships. In our circumstances. In our workplaces. In our service.

We need it when we look around the world and see chaos abounding.

We need it as we wait for our Savior’s return.

Yes, patience serves us well in many ways. For this reason, it’s well worth developing, and certainly worth praying for.

Reading these Scriptures has blessed me, and praying them has multiplied the blessing. I hope they serve the same purpose for you, as you join me in praying the Scriptures for patience.

Prayers for Patience

Spend some time being still before the Lord, waiting patiently to hear from Him. Pray that He would keep you from fretting over evil people who seem to prosper, over the ones who carry out evil devices. Ask that the Lord would help you to refrain from anger, and forsake wrath, choosing not to worry since it accomplishes nothing of benefit. Claim God’s promise that evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land (Psalm 37:7-9).

Acknowledge to God that the end of something is better than its beginning, and is worth being patient for. Agree with Him that being patient in spirit is better than being proud in spirit. Ask that His grace would prevent you from being quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:8-9).

Pray that God would help you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace (Ephesians 4:1-3). Ask Him to increase your patience with the people in your life.

Thank God that He is not being negligent to fulfill the promise of His return, but is delaying because of His patience toward mankind, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). Ask Him to give you this same patience as you wait for His coming, and compassion for those who don’t yet know Him as their Savior.

Ask that the Lord would grant you steadfastness and faith during times of persecutions and affliction. Praise Him for this evidence of the righteous judgment of God, that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God, for which you are also suffering (2 Thessalonians 1:4-5).

Pray that God would help you not to grow weary of doing good, but to serve patiently, understanding that in due season you will reap, if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9).

Praise Christ Jesus for coming into the world to save sinners. Thank Him for the mercy you have received, that in you Jesus Christ might display His perfect patience as an example to others who will believe in Him for eternal life (I Timothy 1:15-16). Pray that He would help you follow His example of patience, especially considering how much patience you have received from Him.

Dear Heavenly Father, how I praise You for being gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love! I confess that too often, I grow impatient when things don’t go according to my plan, or when people don’t behave the way I think they should. I know this controlling tendency is a sinful desire to usurp the authority that only ever belongs to You. Please forgive me, and help me to be patient with others, as You have been patient with me. Please also grant me Your grace that enables me to wait patiently for Your return, and to labor steadfastly in the meantime. It’s in the name of my Savior, Jesus Christ, that I pray. Amen.

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prayers for anger and patience

The Lord is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love. The Lord is good to all: he has compassion on all he has made.
-Psalm 145:8-9

“​Amazing grace, how sweet the sound…” Not only a sweet sound, but as Dr. Snyder says: “What a relief! God could have been anything he wanted to be, but he is actually gracious and compassionate.​ In our Western or ‘Christianized’ world we’re so used to hearing about ‘amazing grace’ that it doesn’t seem so amazing anymore.”

“…Whatever pain we may be going through right now, he’s nearer than we might think. He understands how we feel, even the things we can’t express or that no one else ever knows. He feels for us in ways we can’t even imagine, and he always cares enough to pick us up where we are and to carry us to that place of hope and joy he tailor-makes just for us.”

TODAY’S PRAYER: Begin by thanking God for his extravagant mercy and patience toward you. Then ask him to bring to mind all the people who have offended or hurt you and are in need of your mercy and patience. Make this your prayer project for the day.

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