Are you brokenhearted? We have 2 prayers for you (1) is a prayer for healing a broken heart due to past relationship and (2) a prayer to heal a broken heart from unfulfilled dreams and desires.
It is a wonderful feeling to be in love but to get hurt is painful. Everyone at some point fall in love. God Himself is a passionate and intimate lover. He created mankind for a love relationship and deeper intimacy with Him. The Scriptures begin with love and ends in love. In fact, God is Love Himself, the essence and epitome of love. His fullest expression of love to us is when Jesus His Son died on the Cross to save man from eternal punishment and damnation and reconcile him for an eternal destiny with Him.
God has put love in the heart of man. Man longs for and is capable of receiving love and entering a relationship and commitment founded on love. It is love that binds man to God and man to his fellow being. Without love, nothing makes sense. What is Love?
God is Love and everything that He has done is established and grounded in love. Love means being captivated towards something or someone. Love makes you want to relate with, bless, and to be in union with another. Love is patient, kind, unselfish. When the whole world crumbles, only Love (God) remains.
Love is eternal. It is in a continuum. It should be mutual – give and take. God requires our undivided love and attention. He commands us to love Him above all with all our heart, body, and soul. He also admonishes us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Even to love our enemies. And the unloved and unloveable.
God wants us to love Him first before loving ourselves and others. When we do that, we will be able to receive His love and experience it and give it freely to others. When we have learned to love Him, then we can also move on to love another person.
Human beings are hopeless romantics so to speak. We love fairy tales and we love fancy love expressions. We long for a union with another being and to be into a covenantal relationship. Before that happens, we woo someone and get pursued. We date that person, spend time, exchange gifts, and love the person to the best of our ability. When we are ready to commit, we become steady lovers.
The Bible is complete with all the mushy love stories you can find and encounter. King Solomon recorded the Songs of Solomon for her beautiful maiden lover.
Adam and Eve
Abraham and Sarah
Isaac and Rebekah
Ruth and Boaz
Days, months, and years pass by and we enjoy our relationship. Until one day, one wrong report, misunderstanding, disagreement, third party, or whatever reason, we separate and get hurt in the process.
The pain is too much to bear. Sleepless nights, confusion, lack of appetite to eat and move about. Distraction. Destruction. Lack of focus in your job or ministry. And the long list goes on.
You can even get your heart broken when things don’t go your way. This happens between you and God. Yes, we do get heart broken when we have hopes and dreams that are not God’s will.
How do we heal a broken heart? Can it be healed?
A resounding YES and it can happen the moment you choose to heal and make up your mind to seek your healing.
The first step towards healing is to approach God and seek His face, will, and ways. You may try meeting with God through your daily quiet time and devotion. Talk to God about what is in your heart. Release every pain to Him and submit to Him your heart, mind, emotions, will, and spirit.
It will be helpful if you will write down all that is troubling you, every pain, shame, grief, bitterness, unforgiveness and unfulfilled dreams and desires. When you have done that, you will have a clear picture of why you are heart broken.
It is important to release forgiveness to your past relationships. Whatever he or she may or you have done, just forgive and ask for forgiveness. Also confess to God your own sins concerning the relationship that just transpired.
Then, think about the joyful moments that you have shared together. Be grateful for all the breakthroughs, triumphs, and joy as a couple.
Then, declare and speak a special prayer of blessing over the person whether you are facing him or not. Do not complain, blame, belittle, uncover, judge, criticize, and curse the other person.
Let time and love from God heal all wounds. Yes, it takes time to heal but definitely it will happen.
Ask God in prayer to release all trauma, shame, fear, pain, terror, and grief from your emotions, heart, will, body, mind, and spirit.
Then seal everything that God has done. You may do these steps daily until you feel released and set free. Meditate on the word of God and soak in Him.
Allow the love of God to embrace you in this period of pain and broken heart. You may play a soft praise and worship in the background or an audio Bible on verses about emotional healing and God’s love.
God has a perfect plan for all of us. There will always be a reason why things happen the way they do. If you do not know what to do, just trust God and obey.
You may use this prayer for healing a broken heart to pray for yourself or you can read it and then pray it for someone you know who may need this prayer–
“Heavenly Father, it is so painful now in my heart and spirit. The pain is just so unbearable. I love him/her and letting him go is difficult to do for me. But, I release him now to you knowing that You have a wonderful plan for both of us. Forgive me Lord from all my weaknesses and mistakes about this relationship that just ended. I also release forgiveness to him for ____________(mention the reasons). Lift off all the pain and trauma associated with this. Thank You for bringing him into my life. I did not regret the times we spent together, loving each other. I bless him to find your divine partner for him and to be protected from wrong relationships. Lead him to the right person meant for him. Bless him in spirit, soul, and body. Provide, protect, and heal him also. What you have done for me today, do for him also. Lead me to the one for me, Lord. I entrust my heart and life in Your hands. I love You and I allow Your love to heal all my wounds and bind me up. Make me ready to love and trust again, but this time to the right person for me. This I pray in Jesus’ mighty name. Amen.”
Here is the prayer for healing a broken heart for unfulfilled dreams and desires.
Abba Father, I know that you plan is perfect. What I hoped and dreamed for didn’t turn out the way that I thought it would. I’ve been waiting for such a long time for my dreams, desires and what has been prophesied over me to come to pass. God I am tired of waiting and I am beginning to lose hope and feel broken hearted because of this whole ordeal. Lord I ask that you would heal every wound in my soul for these unfulfilled dreams. Mend my broken heart and bring me back to wholeness. Renew my trust and hope in your plan even though I may not know what it is. I use my will to have faith in your goodness, in Jesus Name, Amen
Remember that Jesus Himself experienced the most painful ordeal known in the history of mankind. He can relate to you and you may identify with Him. Let Him heal you and love you. Love him back. Through reading and meditating on His word He will heal your heart.
Here is a Prayer For Healing Broken Relationships
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When you’re coping with heartbreak, you need warmth and simplicity. These words of comfort and simple tips on how to mend a broken heart will help you heal. Here, you’ll discover how to walk away from a relationship that you thought would always be there.
“My boyfriend is emotionally unavailable and struggles with alcoholism,” says Miranda on How to Let Go of Someone You Love. “Since the start it’s been a completely unhealthy relationship and I never felt loved or secure. But we have lots of history, we’ve known each other since we were young. He can be so nice and sweet and make me laugh more than anyone ever could. But I know it’s not enough. I know we need to break up but how do I stop crying? I feel like my life is slipping away and I’m getting nowhere so I have to let him go. What advice do you have about how to mend a broken heart?”
You have to hold on to your belief that this relationship had to end, even though it’s breaking your heart. Have faith that your life had to take this turn, and one day you will wake up with a lighter heart and softer spirit. Trust God that this breakup was exactly what you needed, and you may never learn exactly how to mend a broken heart…but you will survive. Because you are stronger than you think and wiser than you know.
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How to Mend a Broken Heart
We have to go down before we can go up. So, know that:
“ Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you’ll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let anything stand in your way.” – Janet Fitch.
Part of being human is having a broken heart. We all have holes in our souls, and there is no single comfort food or tip on how to mend a broken heart that will fix the angst that comes with simply being alive.
That’s depressing, isn’t it? But it’s the truth. There is a great deal of beauty and goodness in the world, and I am a joyful person. But I also believe that we all live with broken hearts. Being in a relationship might distract us, but only for a little while. Being in love is awesome, but love fades and changes.
Being broken-hearted is a temporary condition. Don’t let it stand in your way of being happy, healing, and whole. Don’t let your broken heart stop you from Blossoming into the woman God created you to be.
1. Stop thinking “if only I had…”
You may have tons of regrets.
“If only we didn’t break up, if only I felt better about myself, if only I had more money, if only I lived in Canada, if only I wasn’t 38, if only my mother didn’t do that…” You’re not alone – everyone has “if onlys.” I’ve got heaps of ‘em, and all they do is hold me back. Part of the grief process after a relationship ends is not allowing the “if onlys” to overtake your life.
“You basically have two choices: learn to like your current circumstances or change them,” writes Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Ph.D. in Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life. She explains that learning to like your circumstances involves changing your actions or thoughts to be happier. Or, change your circumstances by getting a new job, a new place to live, a new lifestyle, or new friends. In the aftermath of a breakup, learning how to mend a broken heart is about living with grief until you find the wisdom that comes with growth and healing.
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2. Find healthy ways to comfort and console yourself
You’re wounded. You are sad and scared and bewildered. You can’t believe he broke up with you, and you think you’ll never get over him. Your heart is broken, your spirit crushed, your dreams shattered.
Give yourself time to grieve your loss. Don’t think about how to get over him or how to get him back. Just weep. Allow yourself to suffer. Something really bad happened to you – this breakup may be one of the hardest thing things you’ve ever faced. Don’t rush into healing or trying to get your ex-boyfriend back. Instead, just be sad. Comfort yourself like you would comfort a lonely little girl who was left out of a party. One of the best tips on how to heal from a broken heart is to be kind and gentle with yourself as you grieve.
3. Connect the only pure source of life, light, and love
Mending a Broken Heart
Whether you believe in God, Jesus, or a more abstract Guiding Force in the Universe – connect with your higher power. Stop fearing and cursing the darkness…and start lighting your candles. The grief process after a relationship ends will lighten if you start journaling, meditating, praying, and reading books about finding and expressing the healthiest part of yourself. This will help strengthen your connection to the voice within. Spiritual exercise is like physical exercise; it strengthens your body and your relationship with Something Greater Than Yourself – who wants the best for you.
“It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness,” said Eleanor Roosevelt. When you’re mending a broken heart, you mustn’t wish it didn’t happen. Instead, find ways to heal and grow.
4. Take a break from relationships
Give yourself time to learn how to mend a broken heart. You probably won’t find the answers you need in a single article on healing after a breakup or even a dozen books on getting over the loss of a relationship. It takes time and self-care to heal. And, one of the most important components of self-care is space and freedom.
“Avoid going from one love relationship to another too quickly. Take some time to mend your heart – which means no dating and no sex for a number of months,” says psychologist and relationship coach Jan Hoistad, author of Romance Rehab: 10 Steps to Rescue Your Relationship. “Take this opportunity to learn about yourself, your part in the breakup, and about healthy love relationships in general. We often learn the most when we are in great pain. A broken heart can motivate us toward change if we don’t wallow in it or in self-pity.”
5. Don’t jump to conclusions about yourself
Right now, you and he aren’t meant to be together. Something happened to end your relationship. It’s not your fault that your boyfriend or husband wants to move on; it’s just the way things are. It’s not about your appearance, personality, job, clothes, or life goals. You and he simply aren’t a good fit.
Think about that for a second…do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t think you’re the right one for him? No, of course you don’t. You are hurt, but deep down you know you can’t be with a guy who doesn’t love you. You deserve more than that. Don’t rush into critical judgments about yourself, your personality, your body. Instead, heal your broken heart by refusing to accept false conclusions about yourself.
6. Pay attention to your heart, but don’t take its advice
On my article about recovering from broken promises in a relationship, Tam says she listened to her treacherous heart for far too long. She didn’t think she’d ever get over her boyfriend, so she stayed with him. Actually, she broke up with him and then took him back even though she knew it wasn’t the right thing to do.
How to Mend a Broken Heart
“After four years, he cheated on me with a friend,” says Tam. “I ended the relationship, and he tried for four months to get back together. I took him back, even though everyone told me not to. Now, seven months later, I regret getting back with him. I still love him, but the trust is gone. I had a gut feeling he was cheating before, and I believe he’ll cheat again. But he is so convincing and manipulative that I stay.”
Tam said she wishes she would’ve stayed strong and not let her boyfriend work his way back into her life. But she got back together with him and she regrets it. She wishes she would’ve tried harder to learn how to mend a broken heart.
7. Avoid all contact with your ex
On 8 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore Linda says, “I want to get my ex boyfriend back and I can’t stay off his Facebook page. He told me he doesn’t want me in his life. How do I cope with this? It hurts so bad. How do I get over him?”
Social media sites like Facebook and Twitter will make it more difficult to mend a broken heart. For instance, I’m friends on Facebook with my niece and ex-brother-in-law, and they sometimes mention my sister (who stopped talking to me about 10 years ago). I feel rejected, sad, and bad about myself when I hear news of my sister – especially when I’m on Facebook at night. That’s when my defenses are down, I’m tired and have no emotional resources left.
Eventually I realized the connection between Facebook and feeling depressed…so I stopped going on Facebook at night. Now, I log on to Facebook once every couple of months – and I don’t miss it! It was a scab that I finally stopped picking, and I’m much happier not getting new information about a family member who hurt me so badly.
How to Let Go of Someone You Love
I wrote How to Let Go of Someone You Love after my sister stopped talking to me. I was in so much pain – I couldn’t seem to let her go – so I interviewed counselors and grief experts on how to mend a broken heart.
The best way to get through something like the pain of heartbreak is to refuse to go through it alone. Instead of continuing to fight your way through the brambles and dark patches, take my hand. Let’s walk each other home.
May you find healing and comfort from your loved ones, pets, healthy activities, and God. I pray for strength, faith, and hope that surpasses all grief and pain that your relationship is over. I pray you stop searching for tips on how to mend a broken heart because you finally feel comfortable accepting and surrendering to your life as it is.
I hope these thoughts have given you a different perspective on mending your broken heart. I shared ideas for comforting yourself, giving yourself time to think, and paying attention to – but not following – your treacherous heart.
What is one word that describes how you feel right now? Tell me in the comments section below; you can write more than a word if you’d like. Sometimes it’s helpful to just bundle all your feelings into a word. Feel free to share your thoughts on these simple ways to mend a broken heart, and even your memories of your relationship. I can’t offer advice, but you may find it helpful to write.
How have you coped with breakups and loss in the past? Remembering how you survived and healed can help you move forward. And remember: as terrible as you feel right now, you could be trapped in a relationship with a man who refuses to love you and refuses to let you go.
Your thoughts on how to mend a broken heart are welcome below.
xo
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