Heavenly Father, after much prayer and reflection, it is my belief that I can best serve you in my single state.
Let me be true to my vocation to this life and never do anything to sully it. As I freely give up the benefits of married life, I am aware that I also give up its difficulties and receive in turn the benefits if the single state. Enable me to appreciate the freedom at my disposal from cares and concerns of spouses and children, from a highly structured life-style,and from the legitimate demands of family members. Help me to make good use of the added time I have available. Inspire me to give myself to others, to be an example to my married friends and comfort to my single friends.
May I ever realize that whether single or married, our one concern should be to serve you each day and to serve others for your sake.
Grant that I may be so attached to you, that I may never feel lonely in my chosen state. Amen.
Singleness can be an extremely significant, fruitful, and impactful season of life.
Even more so when it’s a season lived with a sense of calling and purpose, both of which can be enhanced by praying the Scriptures.
After all, the apostle Paul said he wished that all people could remain single, as he was (I Corinthians 7:7).
Did he mean this literally? Is singleness actually superior to married life?
In some ways, perhaps. For example, later in the same chapter, Paul points out the single person’s ability to serve the Lord without being distracted by the needs of a spouse.
But I don’t think Paul’s point was that it would really be better for all people to remain single.
After all, according to God’s plan, no marriages would mean no children. Which would very soon mean the extinction of the human race.
I think Paul was simply highlighting the value of single life here, elevating it to equal importance with married life.
Singleness isn’t the ultimate prize. And neither is marriage.
And some people happen to serve Him best as unmarried people. At least until God calls them into a Christ-centered marriage covenant.
Perhaps you’re already married – I hope that you’ll take this opportunity to pray over the singles in your life – whether they’re your teenaged or adult children, your friends, coworkers, neighbors, or fellow church members.
And if you’re single, please know that I’m praying these prayers over you, and I hope you’ll take some time to lift these prayers for singles to the Lord from your own heart.
Prayers for Singles
Pray that God would grant you the grace to approve that which is excellent in order to be pure and blameless until the day of Christ (Philippians 1:10). Consider before the Lord specific areas in your life – entertainment, employment, relationships, speech, thoughts, and others – and whether you’re habitually approving that which is excellent and resisting that which isn’t.
Acknowledge to the Lord that He knows the plans He has for you – plans to prosper you spiritually, and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).
Pray that you would faithfully use your life in service to Christ, seeking first His kingdom and His righteousness, trusting that God will meet your every need (Matthew 6:33).
Ask God to grant you a love for the Lord your God that consumes all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. Pray that He would also grant you a love for others as you love yourself (Matthew 22:37-39).
Pray that God’s Spirit would enable you to keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it flow the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23). Ask Him to show you areas in which you haven’t guarded your heart. Confess and forsake any sin He reveals.
Tell the Lord of your desire to walk by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). Admit any struggle you have in doing so, and ask Him to strengthen your faith.
Pray that God would help your heart to be content in all situations during this season of life (Philippians 4:11), remembering His sovereignty and His goodness.
Ask for the Lord’s grace in leading the life to which He has assigned you and to which God has called you, with honor, reverence, and gratitude (I Corinthians 7:17).
Commit to the Lord that you will trust in Him with all your heart, resisting the urge to rely on your own understanding, and instead choosing to acknowledge Him in all your ways. Remind Him of His promise to direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Pray that God would enable you to be an imitator of God, as a dearly loved child. Ask Him to teach you how to walk in love, as Christ loved you and gave Himself up for you, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. Affirm before Him your desire for righteousness, and that sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness would not be associated with you. Commit also to banishing from your speech filthiness, foolish talk, and crude joking, which are out of place, but instead to let there be thanksgiving (Ephesians 5:1-4)
Ask God to help you to trust in Him, to do good, and to remain within the safety of His boundaries for your life, thus enjoying safe pasture. Pray that He would cultivate in your heart a true delight in Him, and a willingness to commit your way completely to Him. Claim His promise to grant you the desires of your heart, as His Spirit works to conform your desires to His (Psalm 37:3-5).
Praise Jesus for existing before all things, for creating all things, and for sustaining all things. Confess His headship over body, the Church, and His identity as the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in everything He might be preeminent (Colossians 1:17). Tell Him that you want Him to be preeminent in your life, in your relationships, and in your service for Him.
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank you that You are a trustworthy and faithful God. Thank you for loving us – for seeing each of us as we are, for caring about us, and for including us in Your Kingdom work, no matter our marital status. I thank You for the numerous and varied gifts that You grant us, Your children, and specifically today for the special gift that singleness is. I pray that You would help each of Your children who are yet unmarried to steward this season well, for Your glory, making the most of every opportunity to serve You with complete devotion. It’s in the name of my Savior, Jesus Christ, that I pray. Amen.
****I have noticed people searching for this prayer, so I have included it here for their convenience. It is not something I prepared, but I offer it as a courtesy. Single women have much to offer the body of Christ, and need spiritual support to fulfill their unique mission.
Reference and acknowledgment:
Father in the name of Jesus Christ, I come boldly before Your throne of grace confessing Your Word over my life as a single Christian.
I pray that You would help me to live a Godly life as a single Christian – a life that is holy, sanctified and set aside for the Master’s use, and prepared for Your good work.
I confess Your word, that as a single Christian, my life is crucified with Christ, nevertheless I live; yet it’s not I that live, but it’s Christ that lives in and through me; and the life which I now live in the flesh as a single Christian, I live it by faith, power and strength of the Son of God who loved me and gave Himself for me.
Father, You said that You would not leave us alone, but You promised to send us the Comforter. I pray therefore, that You would fellowship with me daily through the Comforter of the Holy Spirit.
I pray that while I am single, may You be the One to whom I am married. Lord, when I get lonely, may You, through the Holy Spirit, be the One who comforts my heart. May You be unto me as a close friend that sticks closer than any brother. When I need someone to talk to, may I also find comfort, as well as pleasure in talking to You. And as I talk to You, may You speak continually back to my heart, and may You be my daily companion who keeps me company, as You walk with me each and everyday.
I pray that You would give me Godly friends and acquaintances that will be an encouragement to me to live for, love and serve You with all of my heart, soul, strength, and might. And, keep me away from those who would draw my heart away from You and draw me into idleness, worldliness, carnalness or ungodly situations or relationships.
Your Word says that You are able to keep me from falling and present me faultless with exceeding great joy. I pray, therefore, that You would help me to keep watch of the eveil one in my life. Father, as a single Christian, help me not to be drawn or lured into sexual temptation, and keep me from falling into fornication, adultery or any other sexual sin, immorality or perversion.
By the power and strength of the Holy Spirit, I pray that You would also keep me from each and every satanic spirit of seduction. May You help me to flee youthful lust, keep me from compromising situations, and help me to avoide the very appearance of evil.
Father, help me to not allow the devil to confom my mind to see the single Christian life as one that is broing, incomplete or unfulfilling. I pray that through Christ Jesus, You help me to see my life as joyous, exciting and fully complete. I pray that You would fill every empty and lonely place of my heart with excitement in You and Your work. And may You always be the center of my joy, as You strengthen and renew my heart in You each and every day.
I pray that You would help me to be continually occupied doing Your work and Your will. Help me not to allow my mind to be consumed with the desire or want for a mate, but rather, consumed with You, Your Word, doing Your will, and pleasing You. And help me to keep my eyes, as well as my heart and mind stayed upon You.
Now Father, i thank You that my heart safely rests in You, Your provisions and Your loving arms of care. And may You continually be all of my fulfillment, my desire and completeness. In the name of Jesus Christ I pray, AMEN.
I pray that I would honor You as I practice grace giving through these difficult times. My heart is broken, but I know following Your path will lead my out of this challenging struggle.
Help me to remember when I am in the midst of trials, like loneliness and heartbreak, I still have a reason to be joyful because Your grace has been poured out on me!
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