I pray that Elizabeth will return to me so we can be married in the eyes of the Lord. I actually purchased a ring after her last letter telling me not to contact her again. Now that is faith. I have nothing to go on except you God. Remember the movie “Build it and they will come.” I thought that was appropriate for purchasing a ring. Purchase a ring and she will return.”
Although she has written me a letter to not have any contact with her, I pray that she retracts that letter with another letter inviting me to have montly contact or weekly contact just for dinner only. Dear God we need eye to eye contact in order to come back together. I pray that she has a change of heart and not seeing coming back to me as going backwards but rather a new begining of a potentially beautiful life together with clear and open communication.
God I know I have made lots of mistakes in this relationship which I consider to be a marriage. I have written 4 letters of amends offering help and support and each time she rejected anything from me. The last time she told me not to ever contact her again signing the letter love Elizabeth. That last part God is so very confusing.
I know she is a very frightened women of finances. I also believe there is no other man in her life. If there is than please God give me the strength to let go and send me the women for this ring I am paying on. I hope to have it paid for in three months. However, if there is no other man in her life, please soften her heart and help her see that a 2nd opportunity might be a new start. Its very painful to be walled off from someone I love very much.
God please soften Elizabeth’s heart for me and to have loving thoughts of me as I have of her. There was more good in this relationship than bad. Please help her with her finances. I offered and she rejected any financial help I offered.
God hear my prayer.
Return to Marriage Prayer
Here are 5 prayers for reconciliation in relationships between spouses.
Prayer of Forgiveness
I know that You seek to have us always be in a right relationship with You and sometimes I do things that grieve You. I know that I do and say things that grieve my spouse too so I am asking You to give me the right words to say to be reconciled to my spouse. I know I have made many mistakes and have asked for forgiveness from them but it seems that it hasn’t restored our marriage to where we’re both in a right relationship with one another and I know You desire us to be in one. I need Your help. Please send me Your Spirit to show me what I might have done wrong that I was not even aware of and soften my spouse’s heart to accept my faults and extend forgiveness to me so that we can worship You together in the way that is pleasing to You and in the way You intended a husband and a wife to be joined together in offering You thanksgiving, praise, and honor. I know that in my own inadequacies I cannot fully understand how to always say the right words or do the right things but it is my desire to be reconciled with my beloved mate and it is in the strong name of and for the glory of the name above all names, Jesus Christ my Lord, Amen.
Prayer of Blessing
Great God in heaven,
I am asking You for Your forgiveness for things that I have done to You that are clearly sinful for I am surely not sinless (1 John 1:8-10) and forgive me for those things that I have obviously done wrong to my spouse to hurt them and cause them pain. I am asking You to bless my spouse and help them to understand how far I fall short of the perfect spouse and I pray for Your help in knowing how I can help to restore this relationship and make it more of the way You originally intended for us to have a right relationship with one another and with You. I know that my prayers have sometimes been hindered because of my own stubborn heart and unwillingness to be a greater servant of my spouse and to love them in the way that You have loved me, even dying for me while I was Your enemy (Rom 5:10) and a sinner (Rom 5:9). Please extend to me Your mercy and grace and allow me to treat my spouse in the way that You love me unconditionally and not treat them the way that I often do. I need Your help in doing these things and again, bless my spouse and I thank You for my spouse and for Your forgiveness, love, and grace and in the precious name of the Savior, Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.
Prayer of Reconciliation
Father in heaven,
You have reconciled me to Yourself through Your Son’s precious blood and so I am begging You to help me be reconciled to my beloved spouse. Only You can change the human heart (Prov 21:1) so I ask You to change my heart to be one that seeks to humble myself and seek reconciliation in my relationship with my mate. Too often I speak without thinking and I know my words hurt my spouse but this is no excuse for the things that I speak to them. I ask for Your Spirit to be sent to help us be reconciled with one another as Your Son’s precious blood was shed for our being reconciled to You (2 Cor 5:18; Col 1:20). This I pray for Your Son’s most holy name and for His glory, Amen.
Prayer of Restoration
You are in the restoration business; restoring me by giving me Your Spirit. You have made me into a new creation in Christ (2 Cor 5:17) and I am pleading with You to help me restore this marital relationship with my beloved spouse. How often have I done things out of pure selfish ambition and gain? I cannot count the times where I was only looking out for my own interests and not that of my spouse. Please forgive me for my selfishness and help our relationship be restored to the way it previously was. I need Your help in doing this because I don’t always know the right thing to say or do and I lack Your wisdom in acting out of a sincere and genuine heart that is motivated only by serving my spouse and loving them in the way that You love me. What more can I do to help in restoring this relationship to where You would have it be? Help me to think, act, and speak in ways that would reflect Your own love and for this I pray in the precious name of the Great Son of God, Jesus Christ, Amen.
Prayer of Repentance
I repent of my sins and my sins against my spouse. I am so sorry and I need to tell You and my spouse that I have sinned. Let me be humble in approaching them by telling them that I have sinned against them by the way that I have acted or by the words that I have used. I know that I don’t always treat my spouse in the way that I am supposed to because there are many times that I am still more concerned about myself more than I am my spouse. I need to esteem my spouse, to cherish my spouse, and to extend to them the same grace and mercy that You extended to me, even though I didn’t deserve it. Help me to understand that I cannot fix relationships on my own. Only Your Spirit can give me a tenderer heart and please soften my spouses heart too so that they can accept my apologies and to let them know that I often act out of impulse and pride. Help me to know the right words to say to them so that I can show them that I have a repentant heart and seek to be reconciled to them in our relationship because the relationship between a husband and wife is supposed to reflect that of the relationship that Jesus Christ has with me and with the church. For this I pray for the Son of God’s glory and in His name, Amen.
Maybe you’ve prayed such a prayer before. I know I have and I also know that I’ll need to again being I am a fallen creature. I need God’s help in knowing how to pray and how to seek forgiveness and to love my spouse in a way that shows her that I do and not just depend on words alone. Can you comment by giving us your own prayer so that we might know what to pray and how to pray it?
Take a look at some Bible verses about marriage: Bible Verses About Marriage
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A Prayer in a Time of Anger and Separation
Lord, you who expressed your divine anger in fire, brimstone, and lightning, look down with understanding upon my anger. I am in pain — a wound in my heart caused by another is the source of this suffering. That heart of mine, Lord of Hearts, is filled with anger so that I am unable to be loving and caring. I feel a need to return injury for injury, pain for pain, and so cannot truly desire to forgive the other.
Lord, you and I both know that such an attitude is wrong, yet it is very real and its pain overflows into the rest of my life. Before I can come to the point of wanting to forgive — and to be forgiven if that is necessary — I must find an antidote for the poison of this attitude.
Lord, I need your help, for my feelings are confused, and I so need to find some order among them. I need to see how this separation has come about and how I can take some steps toward mending my broken communication. I pause now to exchange places and to look at the cause of the separation through the eyes of the other who has injured me.
(pause for silent reflection)
Lord, you who are a God of compassion as well as holy anger, may I see how that which angers me in the other is also a part of my person which I repel. Help me to own that part of me and thus begin to know my oneness with the other. May this pass-over of mine to the other’s side make me ready for a solution to this division, and may my desire for communion soak up the poison in my heart. Lead me, Forgiving Lord, to the graces of reconciliation so that this relationship which is dead may be resurrected to a fuller life through your holy and healing power.
Preface Prayer to Reconciliation with Another
Prayer for Granting Forgiveness to Myself
My God, you who perpetually pardon all who are sincere in their sorrow, help me as I seek to forgive myself. I realize, my Lord, that unless I can forgive myself I cannot fully forgive those who have offended me. Humble my heart so that I can embrace all that is hidden within me.
You, Lord of Creation, have divided time into day and night. My life is likewise divided between light and darkness, good and bad. When these dark, negative needs are excessive and out of balance with the positive, they become destructive to others, and to myself as well.
I forgive myself for becoming impatient because I was too busy, too particular or in a hurry. I forgive myself for this failing as I forgive others who are impatient, too. I forgive myself for making mistakes, for being too quick to act or to speak, for not taking time to think. I forgive myself as well as others who make their own mistakes. I forgive myself for being stupid in sinning, for falling into the same errors that injure others and myself. I forgive myself for those small sins that irritate others and cause me shame. For a smallness of mind in my thoughts, for a narrowness of heart in my actions, I forgive myself and forgive others who act and think as I do.
Compassionate Lord, I know how I sin most easily. Help me to understand and to correct this failing.
(pause for silent reflection)
I grant myself pardon and forgiveness so that my darkness may fuel the goodness within me, a goodness that you, my God, have placed in great deposit within me.
A Prayer for One About to Approach Another for Pardon
Come, Lord of Healing and Unity, I am in need of your divine assistance. I need to approach another and to find a way to peace and understanding. We are now separated, and the canyon between us is painful and empty of you. Help me to be honest as I seek reunion. Open to my vision the ways by which I have failed and have been lacking in consideration. Let my heart be ready to see how I have sinned. I will need your help so that I may move beyond my own feelings to an awareness of the other who is also suffering.
You, Searcher of Hearts, know how both of us in our own ways are at fault. Teach us to be humble as we seek reunion. Come and stand between us so that all we say and do will be filled with the sacred medicine of heaven. Remind us how short our lives are so that we will not delay this reunion of hearts. Inspire us to see how this separation can serve to bring us even closer together, closer than we were before it happened. Most of all, Lord of Compassion, let me be a servant of pardon, a minister of reconciliation, as I now pray for your holy guidance.
(pause for silent reflection)
Lord, Divine Parent, make me as humble and healing as our mother the Earth. Make me as honest and defenseless as a child. Make me a compassionate and loving as your son, Jesus. And, Lord and Giver of True Strength, make me as forgiving as you, yourself, are.
Liturgy of Reconciliation
Lord God, Just Judge and Compassionate Holy Parent, be here with us as we seek to be re-united in reconciliation after a time of separation. We pause now to be aware of your sacred presence among us.
(pause for silent reflection)
We come together in your holy presence as we seek to forget the past and its mistakes and to be once again united in love. We remember the story told by your son and our lord, Jesus, about the son who had left home and sinned, and yet his father was eager and anxious to embrace him and to celebrate his return. Mindful of the deep meanings in that beautiful story, we too are anxious that old scars be healed and that rejoicing once again fill our lives. We forgive one another for any way in which we have caused pain to one another or may have torn apart the fabric of our unity by this injury.
Lord, you truly know that we all make mistakes and have failed. Look upon us who have been offended and lift our hearts. Look upon us who have given offense and help us heal the hurt of our actions and words.
As we willingly forgive one another, forgive us our sins as well and fill us with your healing power and grace.
Lord, we lack a fattened calf with which to celebrate, but may the spirit of feasting and dancing fill our hearts now made new by your healing grace of forgiveness. As we embrace each other, may we be enveloped by you, our Lord and God, and united in peace and in love.