Christian newlyweds

Write Some Inspiration for Newlyweds

Marriage has both legal and religious meaning and purpose. Some people may want to emphasize the religious meaning of marriage. In this case, a Christian wedding message is appropriate. Christian newlyweds need encouragement, wisdom, and celebration. They are beginning lives together in a Christian marriage.

All marriages are significant and serve as an expression of commitment in a relationship. This couldn’t be more true for Christians. Christians view God as part of the ceremony. Christians believe God is the center of the relationship. The closer the two individuals are to God, the closer they become to each other. Many couples have Christian values and beliefs. Writing a Christian wedding congratulations message may be the most appropriate focus. These are some examples of things to write to a Christian newlyweds.

Christian Wedding Congratulations Wishes

  1. “Except the LORD build the house, they labor in vain that build it.” -Psalm 127:1
  2. Pray together, and you will stay together.
  3. I will be praying for you to grow in faith as you grow in your relationship together.
  4. I won’t always be there to make sure you are treating each other well, but God will. Stay close to Him and come closer to each other through His grace.
  5. When things get difficult, remember the sacrifice your savior made and the pain He endured that you might be made whole. Then seek his wisdom as you approach your spouse with a Christ-like attitude.
  6. May your marriage be filled with faith, hope, and love. But remember, the greatest of these is Love.
  7. “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” -Ecclesiastes 4:12
  8. A spouse is someone who will stand beside you on the best days and kneel beside you on the worst.
  9. Love deeply enough that it’s never quenched. Love long enough that it’s never lost. Love strongly enough that it holds you through the fiercest storm.
  10. To find someone to spend your life with is the definition of Grace. Unmerited favor.
  11. The secret to a long and happy marriage is faith in God and in each other. Congratulations on your wedding!
  12. The family unit is God’s design to show his love to the world. Let His perfect design bless you and your new family.
  13. Just as your ring is unbroken, without a beginning or an end, so is love.
  14. Time with each other is time well spent!
  15. Cry together, laugh often, pray without ceasing and always be thankful, for today you’ve become one.
  16. God’s first thought of mankind was that it’s not good to be alone. Today you’ve discovered his answer.
  17. Marriage is a garden. You must tend it, cultivate it, and protect it. If you do this, it will answer with flowers.
  18. Love is not something you stumble into. That’s why they call it the labor of love. But it is always worth it. Congratulations!
  19. You’ve found someone to spend the rest of your life with! Enjoy every moment that God gives you!
  20. Live, laugh, love. The rest is just details.
  21. The greatest gift life can offer is someone to love you, forgive you, fight for you, listen to you, cheer you on, keep your secrets, and kiss you goodnight. Congratulations on finding that someone.
  22. God’s design was for two to become one. Today you are joined together. Be blessed.
  23. It is more blessed to give than receive. But the gift you received today will trump them all. So happy for your marriage.
  24. ‘Til death do us part is more than a pledge or a promise. It’s a lifestyle.
  25. Life is always sweeter when we share it with someone we love. God bless your marriage.
  26. After today life will never be the same. It will be richer, deeper, brighter, louder, and definitely sweeter.
  27. To say I love you and hear it returned is one of the greatest gifts God gives us. Congratulations on finding someone to share this with.
  28. Love plunges to the depths of our soul, races to the edge of our heart, and climbs to the heights of our hopes.
  29. The confidence of a pledged love can steel the heart against any foe.
  30. I do. Today. Tomorrow. Forever.
  31. Today you have in your hands the gift of love. A shared life.
  32. Life together is a blessing that can only come from above, is only lived out each day, and is only understood in our hearts.
  33. Eat, pray, and love. It’s not just a book, it’s how to keep your marriage strong.
  34. Marriage is a long story of strong love, not tough love.
  35. Today you’re a new creation. Two have become one.
  36. May God bless your marriage.
  37. Blessings on a day that you will remember forever!
  38. When you find the one with whom you fit, I pray the Lord won’t let you quit.
  39. When you share your life with someone you don’t end up with half a life, but with double.
  40. Life together is the hope of mankind.
  41. Congratulations on finding the one God had set aside for you. You make a perfect couple.

Andrew Christian models strip down in a hot new video released by ACTV. In a test of knowledge called the Newlyweds Get Naked Challenge, Andrew Christian “newlyweds” Pablo Hernandez and Drae Axtell attempt to answer intimate questions about one another. As Pablo points out, the models have not technically tied the not, but the two live together and know many of each other’s quirks. This video is a play on the classic Newlywed Game, which shows couples facing off by trying to answer specific questions that they should know about each other. We like Andrew Christian’s version because these players have to strip an item of clothing for each wrong answer instead of winning money like in the original. Really, everyone wins when both models ultimately end up naked in front of the camera.

The couple starts off with a few correct answers. Pablo correctly guesses Drae’s favorite color, green. Drae then correctly guesses Pablo’s favorite movie, Mad Max, because it was the first movie that the couple saw together. The duo shares an on camera kiss in a cute emoji-stamped moment, recognizing their affection. As the questions get more specific, both Pablo and Drae begin to answer incorrectly, slowly losing articles of clothing. Emojis highlight these fun moments throughout the video, eventually placing an eggplant over Pablo when he loses his last question and has to take off his pair of Andrew Christian Vibe Briefs.

Watch the video below to see for yourself how these models shape up in the Andrew Christian Newlyweds Get Naked Challenge. Are you a newlywed? How would you fare in a test of knowledge with your soulmate? Let us know in the comments below or by tweeting us @underwearexpert.

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These travel gifts and ideas are perfect for Christian couples who are newly married – even if they aren’t going on a honeymoon yet. Each gift is both practical and thoughtful, and will build anticipation for a special, exciting honeymoon. The best travel gifts for newlywed Christians bring them together as a couple and create beautiful memories.

Travel Gift Idea for Newlyweds

The JBL Flip 4 Waterproof Portable Bluetooth Speaker is a perfect gift idea for newly married couples who love to listen to Christian music or sermons when they travel. It’s small enough to easily fit in backpacks and luggage, yet big enough to make just the right amount of noise! This travel gift isn’t just good for Christian couples who listen to worship music on their honeymoon – it can serve as a speaker for podcasts, sermons, YouTube videos, Facebook Live chats, etc. This speaker can wirelessly connect up to two smartphones or tablets, and take turns playing impressive stereo sound. It’s waterproof, which means no more worrying about rain or spills. It can be even be submerged in water – and not many travel gifts can do that! So if your newlywed Christian couple is traveling on Noah’s ark for their honeymoon, this gift ensures the music is locked down.

When you’re looking for good travel gift ideas for newly married Christian couples, remember the financial cost of traveling. Honeymoons are expensive! Consider giving gifts that are usable or practical, not “just” romantic or beautiful. A wooden handheld cross, for example, might be an inspired gift idea for a newly married Catholic couple, but it won’t help them pay for their honeymoon vacation. That’s why I created this “honeymoon gift list” for newly married Christian couples. My ideas are both useful and thoughtful.

Travel Gift Card for Honeymoon

When you’re searching for gifts for newlywed Christian couples, remember their personalities, passions, hobbies, interests and lifestyle. For example, both husband and wife may love reading but won’t want to pack or carry heavy books. A Kindle Gift Card from Amazon may be a good gift for them as a couple. It allows them to choose which books, Bibles, commentaries, etc to read and when to order them. The Kindle Gift Card will also let your Christian couple buy a Kindle (or two!) for their honeymoon, if they don’t already have one. Kindle e-readers are fantastic travel gifts.

Good gifts for newly married Christian couples going on a honeymoon are both inspirational and practical – like the scarf at the end of this list. The best gifts take a Christian couple’s personality and lifestyle into account. I went on a short-term missions trip to Haiti a couple years ago and realized that my introverted writerly personality traits affected my energy level. A book on introversion would’ve been a great travel gift for my husband before our trip, so we could both prepare ourselves for what was to come. This honeymoon travel gift (a book on personality traits) might be a good idea for newlywed Christian couple who is traveling together for the first time. They may have no idea what they’re getting themselves into 🙂

Travel Gifts and Ideas for Newlywed Christian Couples

To make it easier for you, I divided this travel gift list into three categories:

  1. Practical Travel Gifts for Newlyweds
  2. Luxury Travel Gifts for Couples on a Honeymoon
  3. Miscellaneous Travel Gifts and Ideas for Christian Couples

If you’re shopping for a Christian couple who is still dating, read What to Buy Your Boyfriend’s Mom and Dad – 20 Gift Ideas. It’ll put you in the mindset of a young romantic relationship.

1. Practical Travel Gifts for Newlyweds

Practical Travel Gift for Newlyweds

Just looking at the BAGSMART Travel Universal Cable Organizer shows you how handy it is! Even the most devout, faithful Christian couples need worldly stuff such as earbuds, headphones, electronic devices, adapters, converters and cords. This travel gift helps newlyweds keep their cords organized and safe in one place (which will prevent needless frustrations and arguments on their honeymoon!). The case is heavy-duty, durable and water repellent. This travel case holds devices, SD cards, thumb drives, earphones, USB cables and other accessories. It’ll stand up to unpredictable or even stormy weather, and will protect the electronic accessories from damage or destruction. This is an especially good gift for newlywed Christian couples who are traveling with a worship or speaking team.

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Here’s smart additional idea for this travel gift: “The travel organizer can serve as a checklist,” say the BAGSMART creators on “Before you leave a place, just open the case and check if everything is there. This prevents you from leaving things behind.” The last thing a traveler wants to do is forget an SD card or thumb drive at the hotel or museum! Cords and adapters are easier to replace…forgetting a thumb drive with photos or confidential information could be disastrous for a newlywed Christian couple. Especially if they’re on their honeymoon.

HotHands Travel Gift

The HotHands Toe, Hand, & Body Warmer Variety Pack is a thoughtful travel gift idea for Christian newlyweds who are journeying to cold parts of the globe for their honeymoon. My husband and I were in Portugal a couple months ago – not our honeymoon trip, though we are Christians 🙂 – and I would’ve loved a pack of hand, body, and foot warmers. It wasn’t freezing or snowing in Tomar, but it was soooo cold.

Come to think of it, this gift would be great for Christian newlyweds who sing carols outside at Christmas – honeymoon or not! I played the flute in an outdoor Christmas concert a few years ago, and froze. Next week my church is hosting an outdoor Christmas carol singing event, and having these HotHands warmers would be a brilliant way to stay warm while serving and celebrating Jesus here at home.

Travel First Aid Kit

A Swiss Safe 2-in-1 First Aid Travel Kit is one of those travel gifts a Christian couple on their honeymoon never wants, but would be thankful to have. If your newlywed couple is going on a mission trip with an organized group or with a Christian service ministry, they probably don’t have to think about taking their own first aid kit.

That said, however, it’s always smart for a newlywed couple to have their own supplies. Especially if they’re combining their honeymoon with a Christian missionary trip in an unfamiliar land. They may be celebrating their new marriage by traveling with a Christian service or ministry organization, and not know what type of supplies or resources are available. Hopefully your newlywed couple will never need this type of travel gift on their honeymoon, but it may be an idea worth considering.

Water Purification Bottle for Christians Overseas

The Travel Water Purification Bottle eliminates 99% of waterborne bacteria and parasites. This travel gift is a practical, perhaps even necessary item for newlywed Christian couples who are traveling to a country that doesn’t have clean drinking water. Can you imagine getting a parasite or intestinal disease on your honeymoon? This bottle greatly reduces the risk of contracting illnesses such as diarrhea, dysentery and Giardia. Water Well is reusable, cost effective and engineered to last.

This travel bottle also eliminates up dozens, hundreds, or even thousands of plastic bottles. It filters up to 1000 liters of water, which is the equivalent of 2000 disposable plastic drinking water bottles. Part of a Christian couple’s mission is to leave a country or community healthier and cleaner than before. This gift idea – practical and sensible – will help honeymooning Christians leave nothing but the gospel behind.

A related honeymoon gift idea for a newlywed Christian couple is the compact, lightweight, easy-to-pack SteriPen Ultra water purification device. It purifies large quantities of water faster, doesn’t require a traveler to carry a water bottle, and has an OLED display to show what’s in the water – and what has been eliminated.

2. Luxury Travel Gifts for Couples on a Honeymoon

Amazing Grace Honeymoon Gift

The Amazing Grace Throw Blanket is first on my “luxury travel gifts for couples on a honeymoon” not just because it displays the words of the hymn Amazing Grace. This gift blanket is also comforting, warm, and practical. If your Christian newlyweds are leaving home for the first time, they’ll love this symbol of trusting God throughout their honeymoon.

Newlywed Christian couples experience toils and troubles no matter how much they love each other.  This throw blanket is a gift that will wrap them in faith, hope and peace regardless of where God takes them. This travel gift will also remind them that Jesus is the organizer and overseer of all honeymoons, Christian marriages, vacations, and journeys as a newlywed couple in a new land.

Travel Gift Set for Newlyweds

A Microfiber Quick Dry Super Absorbent Lightweight Set of 3 Travel Towels isn’t just a great travel gift idea, it’s perfect for gym workouts and trips to the local swimming pool. I had to take my own towel and facecloth when I went on my short-term missions trip to Haiti, and they took forever to dry. Even in the heat. Back then I had no idea quick dry microfiber travel towels existed! The bath towel I took on vacation took up a lot of room in my backpack.

Here’s why travel towels are good gifts for newlywed Christian couples: they’re super absorbent, fast drying, and anti-bacterial. They don’t carry odors and they absorb three or four times their weight. They’re lighter and easier to pack than regular cotton or terrycloth towels, and they don’t need to be washed as often. Five minutes in the sun, and they’re ready to go. A light quick drying towel may not seem like a luxury travel gift for newlyweds on their honeymoon, but I have a feeling both husband and wife will be grateful when the towel is dry and re-usable quicker than they expect.

Kindle Gift for Christians Travelers

The Kindle Paperwhite eReader – Now Waterproof is an excellent gift for newlywed Christian couples who travel and read widely. I already mentioned – at the beginning of this list of travel gifts – the importance of considering your honeymooning couple’s personality and lifestyle. Not all Christians enjoy reading, and not all readers like reading books on digital devices. But Christian couples who love to read print books will enjoy the ease and convenience of a digital reader.

Print books are my first choice – even when I travel. But I love the convenience and ease of carrying a wide variety of books and magazines on a Kindle or other digital device. If your Christian couple loves to read while traveling overseas, ask what they think about an electronic reader. If you don’t want to ask them and ruin the surprise of this honeymoon gift idea, ask their friends or family. This is one of those gifts that most travelers love having on vacation, even if they’re not big on reading.

3. Miscellaneous Travel Gifts and Ideas for Christian Couples

Cross Gift for a New Christian Wife

The Infinity Cross Sterling Silver Necklace Gift Set is one of the few gifts on this list that isn’t oriented towards travel – but it is just beautiful, isn’t it? If your newlywed couple isn’t going on their honeymoon to a country that forbids or prohibits the Christian faith, this might be the gift that touches their heart, spirit, and soul. I love the idea of combining infinity with the cross of Jesus, and of wearing this symbol of faith, truth, and eternity. Again, since wearing a Christian cross can be a dangerous and life-threatening act of rebellion in certain countries, make sure your newlywed is traveling somewhere safe before you give this gift.

The Infinity necklace is a feminine gift (and, admittedly, not very practical for travel). Next on this gift list is a more masculine idea, to balance out the honeymoon…

“Tree of Life” Gift Idea for a New Christian Husband

A list of travel gifts for Christians would be incomplete without a gorgeous, sturdy Antique Handmade Leather “Tree of Life” Travel Journal! Doesn’t this writing notebook remind you of Paul’s missionary work in Turkey, Israel and other parts of the Middle East? We know Paul wrote letters to his fellow missionaries and church planters who were both traveling and rooted in their hometowns, but we don’t know for sure if he had a leather travel journal. I like to think he did take a journal on his missionary journeys, probably because I take a special travel diary on all my trips.

This travel gift is supple dark brown genuine Water Buffalo leather with a real leather scent; don’t buy it if your newlywed Christian couple is vegan or vegetarian! The journal has a distressed vintage style, and each one is uniquely handcrafted, which means no two look exactly the same.

A thoughtful idea might be to give both the husband and the wife their own travel journals, and encourage them to write their memories and prayers in the journal. A year later – or several years – they can look back at what they wrote on their honeymoon. What an amazing memory this would be for a Christian couple! They’d remember what it was like to be newlyweds, traveling on their honeymoon together.

Portable Phone Charger – Travel Gift

The PowerCore Portable Phone Charger is a luxury travel gift because it allows travelers to recharge their batteries when they don’t have power. Their iPhone and tablet batteries, that is, not their spiritual batteries! This is an Amazon top pick (but not in the “travel gifts for Christian missionaries” category). Anker’s exclusive PowerIQ and VoltageBoost combine to deliver the fastest possible charge for any device. This gift includes a PowerCore Lite 10000 portable charger, Micro USB cable, travel pouch, welcome guide, and a worry-free 18-month warranty. It’s also certified safe, which means Anker’s MultiProtect safety system ensures complete protection for your traveler and her devices.

The beauty of this “travel gift” is that it’s excellent for at-home use, too. All Christian couples – newlywed or not – need to stay connected and communicative. This gift will help them do just that.

Faith Hope Love Christian T-Shirt Travel Gift

The Faith Hope Love Christian T-Shirt is comfortable and durable – perfect for honeymoons in tropical climates in countries open to Christian faith. The gift t-shirt pictured is for women, featuring Faith Hope and Love. It’s a lovely reminder of home; she’ll remember you and your blessings every time she puts it on when she’s on her honeymoon.

The bold “Armor of God” Christian T-Shirt for Men is the matching Christian T-shirt for men on It encourages Christian husbands to never let their guard down. Matching clothes may seem silly, but newlywed Christian couples might love spending their honeymoon wearing visual reminders of their new marriage. Most of my travel gifts are practical and useful; this one is romantic and soft.

Ephesians 6:11 calls us to be prepared for any spiritual battle that comes our way by putting on the full armor of God. The husband’s T-Shirt is a great visual reminder for men to stay loyal and faithful to their wives and to their Lord. We need all the reminders we can get!

Travel Scarf – Honeymoon Gift Idea

The Travel Scarf With a Hidden Zippered Pocket is the last on my list of travel gifts for newlywed Christian couples on their honeymoon. I wanted to end strong – and I want to buy this gift for my next trip with my husband! It’s brilliant. This Waypoint Goods Travel Scarf is made from a soft yet durable fabric meticulously, stitched with a pocket large enough to fit an iPhone, passport, keys and some cash.

This makes travel easier and safer for newlywed Christian husbands and wives overseas. The scarf looks and feels beautiful, and keeps valuable possessions safe, secure and inconspicuous. This travel gift is perfect for Christian couples in crowded marketplaces, busy buses or shared taxis, or jam-packed streets. The scarf eliminates the need for purses, wallets, or awkward backpacks, and frees up their hands to greet people, take a once in a lifetime photo, or get hands-on with the locals. If you give your newlywed couple the gift of a travel scarf, don’t buy the cheapest one. Good quality material and stitching will make it more durable.

“Marriage Takes Three” Gift Idea for Christian Couples

If you can’t choose the right travel gift for your newlywed couple, give them is a beautiful “waiting for you at home after your honeymoon” gift. This “Marriage Takes Three” Table Topper features the popular Christian sentiment that marriage takes three to be complete. It’s not enough for two to meet; they must be united in love by love’s Creator, God above.

No matter what travel gift you give your newlywed Christian couple on their honeymoon, make sure you include a Biblical blessing from Scripture. Here’s a beautiful one:

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” ~ Numbers 6:24-26.

What do you think – what would you add to my list of travel gifts and ideas for newlywed Christians going on their honeymoon? I’d love to hear your thoughts below!





Congratulations on your recent wedding. It may have been last week or a few years ago, but if you consider yourself a newlywed and are looking for Christian advice, I hope this will be a help and encouragement to you. Even if you are not a newlywed, you may find help in these simple reminders.

Make Your Spouse Your Best Friend

You don’t have to sever ties with other friends when you get married; however, you should build a relationship with your spouse that will endure through your life. Friends will come and go. Relationships will change. People move and distance strains old friendships. But your spouse will be with you the rest of your life. Keep that in mind as you begin to build a relationship with one another.

Obviously you already have a special bond or you would not be married. Congratulations. Don’t stop building your love for one another just because the preacher presented you to the crowed as Mr. and Mrs. Newlywed. Your lifelong journey together is just beginning. Work on your relationship by building more and more trust in your spouse. Create experiences that you two can fondly look back upon and remember with joy. This does not have to be expensive trips and gifts. Living your life with shared experiences will bring you closer together.

After returning home from our first four-year term on the mission field I struggled to understand that my friends had experienced four years without my wife and me. They built memories and shared a life with someone else in our place. We are still best of friends with them, but they will never know what we went through on the field and we can’t understand their lives either. But you know who was with me? My wife. There is no one on this earth who can say they fought the same battles or enjoyed the same experiences as I did except her. Our relationship is stronger today because we have grown together as friends.

Honor God in Your Relationship

To build a strong Christian home and family you must honor God and His Word. When you begin ignoring the principles of the Bible then you cannot expect to have a good relationship. Go to church. Read God’s Word. Ask God for guidance in your marriage.

When you were dating there was a mutual respect—otherwise you probably would not have gotten married. Don’t lose that.

Respect Each Other

When you were dating there was a mutual respect—otherwise you probably would not have gotten married. Don’t lose that.

In general, men like to be respected for their intelligence and physical strength. Wives, feed that ego. It may sound silly to you, but when you respect this strength and ego you will build a stronger husband who wants to do more and more to cultivate a relationship with you.

Ladies want to be respected for their creativity and resourcefulness. Men, respect that in her. She wants to be an asset to your life and help build your marriage in a God-honoring way. She is successful when she knows she helps you be successful. Praise her for that. Let her, and others, know that you could not be as productive without her.

When you stop respecting each other you begin to tear down the strength of your relationship.

Honor One Another

Besides private respect you should publicly honor your spouse. Honoring them means to defend them before others. Speak positively and respectfully about your spouse to their friends and family.

We have all been in too many situations where spouses speak negatively about one another. Even at church functions when men get together with men, or women with women, conversations can quickly devolve to complaining about how husbands and wives do this or that. Don’t malign your spouse before others. Build them up with honor and respect.

Keep Private Matters Private

Along with honoring one another you should keep your private life private. When you have problems in your relationship you seek help from someone qualified to give the help you need. Don’t blab your problems to anyone who will listen. Your pastor can help you. Or you may have an older couple in your church who you can go to for advice. Don’t let your spouse find you you have been telling your private issues to the church gossip. That will destroy the respect and honor you have tried to build in your marriage.

Stay Out of Debt

There is a huge problem in our country concerning debt. It is not just that there is so much of it, but that it is considered normal and expected for people to be in debt. The Bible warns in many places against getting into debt. As a young couple let me implore you to obey God and avoid debt.

Proverbs 22:7 says that the one who borrows from another becomes the servant to the lender. Don’t take this lightly. If you are in debt then work as quickly as you can to get out. How can you be a servant to God if you are a servant to the bank, the car dealership, the credit card company and the rental store? If God asked you to serve Him as a missionary how many months or years would you have to work for your credit masters so that you could serve your Heavenly Master? You cannot completely serve God if you are a slave to the bank.

A Covenant Not A Contract

A contract is written to say, “if you will do this, I will do that.” Or, “if you don’t do this, then the consequences are …” In a contract what you do is dependent on the other person. However, a covenant is a promise: a one-sided promise that says you will do (or refrain from doing) certain things because you choose to do so. In marriage the covenant is made because of love. It is a promise from you to your spouse regardless of what they do or how they act.

Your marriage is a covenant with them. It completely depends on your decisions. Marriage is not a contract that is dependent on the actions of the other person.

Marriage is Never 50-50

Along the lines of your marriage not being a contract you should not see your responsibility as 50% of the responsibility. Or, another way to put it is saying that he is responsible for 50% of the marriage and she the other 50%. Doing so causes you to base your response on the actions of another—just like a contract. Each of you should feel like 100% of the success of the marriage rests on your own shoulders.

Years ago I was in a class with an older teacher. Most of the students were younger than I—in their 20s. We got on the subject of marriage one day and the teacher commented that she always thought the success of a marriage was 100% the responsibility of the wife. If the marriage failed, according to this teacher, it was the wife’s fault. I followed her comments with my own opinion. I have always felt that if a marriage failed it was solely the fault of the husband. I really believe that if my marriage has problems it will always be my fault. I have the power to rectify any problem with my wife. If problems arise it is always because I did not do right by my wife.

The younger students categorically disagreed with the teacher and me. This was not a Christian group of students. Every one of them said that a marriage was a 50-50 relationship. They believe that a marriage fails because one doesn’t do right, but has no power to control the other person’s actions.

Guess who had been married and divorced in the class? Some of them more than once. Most of them admitted to having had multiple bad relationships. The teacher had been happily married for over 40 years. I am quickly approaching 20 years of marriage and couldn’t be happier in my relationship with my wife.

Take 100% of the responsibility in your marriage and you will have a stronger foundation for problem solving and relationship building.

Don’t Read Each Other’s Mail

More important than the mail you get in a little box in front of your house is the mail God sent to each of you in Ephesians 5. Basically it says, “Husbands, love your wife.” To the wife, “Wife, submit to your husband.” These are messages sent to specific people. You should not read the mail that has not been addressed to you.

To the wife reading the mail God sent to her in Ephesians 5 you simply need to submit. God has given authority in the family to the husband. God will hold him responsible for the way he leads; therefore, wife, you need to submit to his authority.

Men, God’s letter to you is to love your wife and be aware that you are held accountable for the leadership in your home. Whether she submits or not is not your responsibility. Yours is to love.

Don’t read each others mail. If God told you to love then it is to be done regardless of her actions. If God told you to submit then He wants you to do so even if your husband does not love. Read your own mail and keep your nose out of your spouse’s.

Take Interest in Your Spouse’s Interests

I am not saying that men need to learn to cross stitch (however, you may find you enjoy it), but you need to at least be interested enough in your wife’s hobbies and passions to support her. Your relationship will not get stronger if you roll your eyes every time your wife talks about a new dress pattern she found on sale. Ladies, you may be surprised as to how genuine interest in woodworking or fishing can open up conversation opportunities that you thought you would never have. You don’t need to learn to field dress a deer, but don’t huff and sigh every time he brings up the topic with his friends.

You can honor, respect and strengthen your marriage by being supportive of one anothers interests.

Your Newlywed Tips

Are you just starting out? Or, are you an old pro at marriage? Share your thoughts and concerns. Maybe you have seen a certain way God has taught you one of the above principles, I would love for you to write about it in the comments below.

Related Articles:

  • How To Love Your Wife: 7 Helpful Tips

  • How To Respect Your Husband: 7 Helpful Hints

  • Cord of Three Strands: A Model For Christian Marriage


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