15 Practical Steps To Help You Get Over A Broken Heart
I want to blog on a subject almost every one of us at one time or another will have to face, and that is how to deal with a brokenheart. On my radio show, Dawson McAllister Live, the number one topic people want to talk about is how to get over a heart break with their boyfriend/girlfriend or how to win back their bf/gf.
If you haven’t had a broken heart yet, you will someday. Maybe you will be able to go through the dating relationships until you find the right one without getting hurt. But in the end, someday someone might break your heart. Maybe one of your children or someone else in your family. If you have the capacity to love, and I’m sure you do, then you also have the capacity to be hurt.
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Your Heart is Broken When…
- You find out your bf/gf is cheating on you with your best friend.
- That sick feeling you feel when your bf/gf becomes more and more distant and you know something is wrong.
- That frustration and hurt you feel when the fights with your bf/gf become more frequent and more destructive.
- The lightning bolt shock that takes your breath away when the person you love tells you they don’t want to date you anymore.
- The humiliating feeling that comes over you when you hear the one you love say, “Let’s just be friends.”
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But the question remains, what can you do to fix or mend a broken heart? While it’s hard to define what a broken heart is, everyone knows what it feels like when they have one. This blog series could end up being one of the most meaningful series you have ever read. I hope so because I don’t want you to suffer anymore pain than you absolutely have to.
If you follow the advice I will be giving you, I’m convinced you will heal much quicker. Let me prepare you for this series. I’m going to list for you the Top 15 things you can do to help heal a broken heart and next week explain what each one means.
15 Ways To Get Over A Broken Heart
2. Talk to someone who cares.
3. Allow yourself to be human and feel the pain.
4. Immediately take your broken heart to God.
5. Give yourself time to heal.
6. Learn lessons from the experience.
7. Be careful…don’t date destructive people to begin with.
8. Don’t overreact and embarrass yourself.
9. Don’t overanalyze.
10. Don’t go into rebound dating.
11. Let go of mementos.
12. Keep yourself busy by giving to others.
13. Take Care of yourself physically.
14. It’s mostly about you, not your ex.
15. Move on
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I’m going to break this list down into manageable sections so we can dive deeper into each of these 15 points. I want to look at the healing process, moving forward, & things to avoid.
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Whether you saw it coming or not, a break up is never easy. In fact, more times than not, a break up can cause you to question everything in your life. You may find yourself questioning whether you’re good enough within other aspects of your life that you normally would be confident in. If you allow it, rejected feelings endured from a break up can send you into a state of depression. Even though everyone around you is telling you that it’s going to be okay, your heart is uttering something different. However the reality, even though it may not feel like it, is that one day you will be able to put the pieces back together and feel whole again.
While you’re mourning your relationship, turn to prayer to move on after a break up. You’ll discover a newfound view on relationships; moreover, you’ll discover a closer bond with your relationship with your Lord and Savior as well. Psalm 34:18 represents the Lord’s love for you as His child. The scripture says, “The Lord is near to those who are discouraged; He saves those who have lost all hope.” More than ever, the Lord is listening to your words and striving for you to see that. You may be asking yourself, “Why is God allowing me to hurt?” As a child of Jesus Christ, it’s imperative that you understand every instance in your life has a meaning – ultimately, there is a lesson to be learned. God’s plan is reiterated in Jeremiah 29:11, “I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for.” Everything will eventually make sense and that moment of awe is right around the corner.
The worst thing that you can do, while going through a break up, is to allow yourself an indefinite period of self-pity. It’s understandable to be heart broken and sad; however, it is inexcusable to allow the sorrow to take over your life. Without pain, you would never truly appreciate the glories of life and the feeling of true love. Try this prayer – you’ll find that the wise words cover the array of feelings and emotions you’re experiencing.
Lord, thank You for being You and for Your willingness to be here with me during this time. It’s been difficult lately with this break up. You know that. You’ve been here watching me and watching us together. I know in my heart that if it was meant to be it would have happened, but that thought doesn’t always mesh with how I feel. I’m angry. I’m sad. I’m disappointed.
You are the one I know I can turn to for comfort, Lord. Provide me with reassurance that this was the right thing for me in my life, as it is right now. Lord, show me that there are so many great things in my future, and offer me solace in the thought that You have plans for me and that one day I will find the person that fits with those plans. Assure me that You have my best intentions in mind, and while I don’t know what all of those intentions are, this wasn’t a part of them. That one day you’ll reveal someone new that will make my heart sing. Allow me the time to get to that point of acceptance.
Lord, I just ask for Your continued love and guidance during this difficult time, and I pray for the patience of others as I work through my feelings. Every time I think of the happy times, it hurts. When I think of the sad times, well, that hurts, too. Help those around me understand that I need this time to heal and work through that pain. Help me understand that this, too, shall pass for me. That one day the pain will become less, and remind me that You’ll be there right with me the whole time. Though I may have difficulty letting go, I pray that You surround me with people that help me through and lift me up in prayer, in love, and in support.
Thank You, Lord, for being more than just my God in this moment. Thank You for being my Father. My friend. My confidante, and my support. In your Name, Amen.
Break ups are the furthest thing from easy. Use this time to reevaluate who you are what you want to be as an individual. Assess things from a different lens, by identifying where you are in life and where you want to be. Most times, when you’re in a relationship, an individual makes decisions around their partner. While this understandable, it’s’ important to identify what you really need and want out of life – make sure you’re striving to achieve happiness for you and not someone else. As odd as it may sound, learn to embrace this difficult time and look for ways you can cultivate a stronger bond with your Lord and Savior through prayer.
Accept that you will need to be patient and learn that time will heal all wounds.