- 1 Prayer When Angry With a Loved One
- 2 Prayer When Disappointed With a Family Member
- 3 Prayer When Grieving and Angry
- 4 Prayer When Hope Is Dashed
- 5 Prayer When an Employment Opportunity Evaporates
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- 7 12 Bible Verses & 5 Steps to Overcoming Anger and Resentment
- 8 Download these Bible verses on anger and resentment in a convenient black and white printable below. You can work on memorizing and meditating on them, one at a time.
Prayer When Angry With a Loved One
God, I am so angry right now. I am disappointed with my ____________(spouse, child(-ren), boss, friend, pastor, etc.). Help me to not ignore this feeling. And, help me to name my anger in the context of this relationship, not suppressing it or pretending it’s not there. In Your holy name, Amen.
Prayer When Disappointed With a Family Member
O God of creation, I have been disappointed once again. My family member has betrayed my trust. I don’t think I can trust again. Help me speak to her/him soon and express that what happened angered me. I don’t like having conversations like this, so I need Your help. In God’s name, Amen.
Prayer When Grieving and Angry
Oh God, You know me. I am angry that ______ (name) has died. I know death comes unexpectedly or when anticipated, and I am angry right now because I long for this person. I have a hole in my heart. Hold me as I feel this. In Your comforting name, Amen.
Prayer When Hope Is Dashed
God of our Lord Jesus Christ, I am angry that what I had hoped for did not happen. I was so sure that You blessed this. I am lost right now. Teach me what to do. Hold me even as I am angry. Guide me to eventually pick up the pieces of what’s been broken. In Your name, Amen.
Prayer When an Employment Opportunity Evaporates
Dear God, I don’t think it’s fair that I did not get the job. I had prepared myself, had great interviews and got good feedback from the interviewers. Now, I’ve been told that someone else got the position! I am angry right now; it feels like I have to start all over. Show me how I can express this anger and not bottle it up inside. In Your name, Amen.
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I’m sure there have been times when you’ve let anger get the best of you and later regretted it. I know I have. Sometimes we mean well and have the best intentions but our emotions take control and may cause us to react in ways that are not Godly.
In the heat of the moment, take a second to talk to God about it.
Here’s a prayer you can say to help calm your anger.
Father, please forgive me when I allow anger to control what I say and do. I want to honor You in the way I manage my emotions – especially the anger in my life. Fill my heart with Your peace. Help me cultivate the spiritual discipline of anger management and learn how to control my emotions instead of allowing them to control me.
In Jesus’ Name,
For the last few weeks, I’ve felt the Lord nudging me to write a verses and prayers post about anger. I kept trying to push the thought aside.
It’s just so much more fun to write about hope and give you a feel-good pep talk. But it seemed each time I prayed about what I should write … God whispered the word anger to my heart.
It makes sense.
Everyone wants to believe their anger is “righteous.” We love to use verses that say Jesus was angry to justify emotional outbursts.
And that’s true but…
Mark 3:5 begins –
Jesus was angry as He looked around at them,
and it continues with –
but at the same time, He felt sorry for them because they were so stubborn and wrong.
Anger is an emotion. There will be times when you and I get angry. It’s a given!
God’s Word has a lot to say about how you and I speak and act when that emotion begins to boil over.
It’s okay to be angry. It’s not okay to be cruel when we’re angry.
So, I’m going to God in prayer…
5 Verses to Pray When You Are Angry
1 Thessalonians 5:9
For God chose to save us through our Lord Jesus Christ, not to pour out His anger on us. (NLT)
Father, Your Word tells us evil, injustice … sin makes You angry. Yet, it also tells us of Your love, grace, and mercy. Thank you for Jesus and for Your undeserved forgiveness. Amen.
Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. (NLT)
Father, You understand anger. I believe You want me to be angry about evil, injustice, and sin but you don’t want me to sin when I’m angry. Like You, may I let love be the force that guides me. Please forgive me for the times I’ve hurt someone through angry words or actions. By the power of Your Spirit, grant me the gift of patience that I might come to You in prayer when I’m angry asking for Your guidance that I might know how to address the issue without adding to the problem. Help me, Lord. In Jesus name, Amen.
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Father, give me a gentle answer that comes from a tender heart when my temper rises and my mind fills with the unkind words I’d like to speak. Please help me remember to put the relationships ahead of being right. Help me respond gently and forgive quickly. Help me love like You. Amen.
And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
Father, it’s sometimes hard to remember that I don’t have to allow my emotions to control me. Feelings are a gift from You and so many of them help us enjoy the experiences of life. Things like love, happiness, and enthusiasm. But then there is also fear, hate, and grief. Those feelings introduced when sin entered the world. Satan still tempts us with doubt. Please forgive my failures and help me defeat the enemy by overcoming anger with love. On my own, I can’t … but with You, I can do anything even let go of anger.
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.
Father, I’m sorry. Make me quick to listen and slow to speak … I fail so often. Slow me down when anger rises. Please help me. Fill my heart and mind with Your truth. Please defeat the enemy’s efforts to distort Your Word and divide Your children. Teach us, Lord, by the power of Your Spirit. Keep me focused on You, the Way, the Truth, and the Life. You are my hope and my salvation. I surrender this day to You. With your help, I believe I can handle anger ways that honor You. In Jesus name. Amen.
Oh friends, it’s hard, isn’t it?!
I don’t want to stop to think or slow down to pray when I’m angry. I want to vent and let everyone know exactly how they’ve upset and offended me.
But then I read…
Control your temper, for anger labels you a fool. Ecclesiastes 7:9
I’m ready to give up the “fool” label. You too?!
With God’s help, we can do this.
What do you do to avoid foolish temper flares?
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About a week ago, I received an email from a reader. She saw my post on overcoming disappointment, and she asked if I could help her. She is suffering in an unbearably unjust situation, and she is angry and resentful at the person causing it.
I can’t share her whole story, but the details are unimportant. Your anger and resentment are as real and honest and justified as hers are. They’re understandable.
And she’s looking for answers, just like you are.
I prayed about this woman and her family, and I prayed for you. I prayed that God would give me the words to help both of you.
My therapist says that anger is always masking a more vulnerable emotion. I think it’s helpful to look at that more vulnerable emotion and to deal with that, but you can come back to that later. For now, let’s just talk about the anger and resentment you’re feeling.
12 Bible Verses & 5 Steps to Overcoming Anger and Resentment
Concrete steps make sense to me. Give me a numbered list, and I’m a happy camper. So I created a numbered list for you.
Following the steps isn’t as easy as 1-2-3. The steps are where the real work lies. I am praying that you are challenged by these steps, and that you find a way to get through them all.
- Control your temper. (Let’s start right away with the hard stuff!)
When people mistreat us and there’s nothing we can do about it, we get angry. It isn’t fair. Parents see it in their young children who are constantly on the lookout to make sure everything is fair.
The gut reaction to get angry in the face of unfairness never really goes away. God’s Word says that we are to control our tempers, even in the face of unfairness.
Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. -Proverbs 19:11
Earn respect. What if the respect of men isn’t what you’re after?
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. -James 1:19-20
The righteousness God desires. Ouch. We may be able to brush off the respect of men, but the righteousness of God doesn’t go away so easily.
Do to others as you would like them to do to you. -Luke 6:31
When we overlook wrongs, we treat others the way we want to be treated. But what if the wrong is something really big? What if we can’t just get over it?
We still have choices. If the wrong is something monumental – abuse, neglect, criminal – then DO SOMETHING. Don’t just get angry, but take action. Enlist the help of someone who can stop it.
The reader who wrote to me has endured her situation for five months. Certainly, she has been slow to anger. But now, she is angry.
2. Don’t let your anger control you. God recognizes that sometimes, we do get angry. Often, we need to get angry to remedy a situation or to spur us on to action.
Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. -Psalm 4:4
He is saying to think about your situation, and see if it merits getting angry.
Are you saying something like, “YES! It does! I have a right to be angry. Is that wrong?”
Being angry isn’t a sin, but being controlled by anger is a sin.
And don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. -Ephesians 4:26-27
So you’re angry. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry. Find a way to work out the anger, pray through the anger, move past the anger before you give the devil an in-road to your psyche.
Need a pick-me-up? Go do something kind for someone. Volunteer your time. Do good, forgetting about the person who’s made you angry for a while.
Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper – it only leads to harm. -Psalm 37:8
All scriptures are God-breathed, right? Every word is true. So what of this? Stop being angry?! How do you just stop?
3. You pray. Pray for yourself. Pray for the person who is making you angry. Pray for the situation. Pray that your heart will be softened and you’ll forgive.
People can’t change people. Only God can change people.
Right now, you need to be changed, and the person who’s hurt you needs to be changed. Give yourself permission to just focus on you for now. Ask God to change you and get rid of your anger despite the rotten situation you’re in.
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. -Colossians 3:8, 12-13
You are holy and beloved, my friend. You are, and you deserve better than what this anger and resentment are doing to you.
4. Forgive. I said these steps weren’t going to be easy. Pray that you can forgive the person who’s making you angry. Pray it every day, every hour, every minute if you have to.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. -Ephesians 4:31-32
It’s the Golden Rule again. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Treat the person who’s made you angry with the same tenderhearted kindness that you treat your kids with.
I heard once that holding unforgiveness in your heart is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Unforgiveness is toxic to your soul. It affects every part of your life, and it manifests in sickness, in tension, and in anger.
Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven. -Luke 6:37
We are required to forgive as the Father has forgiven us. It is not optional – and it does not come easily.
5. Love. Forgiveness is one thing, but loving is another thing entirely. Loving your enemy – the very person who’s hurt you – is also required by scripture.
Not suggested, required.
The very thought makes me feel sick for you.
You don’t want to act in a loving way towards the person who’s hurt you. Not at all.
That’s where prayer comes in again. Pray that you’ll have compassion and kindness for that person. (And keep praying it until it happens.)
Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked. -Luke 6:35
This passage goes on to say that even sinners are kind to those who love them, but it takes something special to be kind to an enemy.
You see, we don’t get to have vengeance. It’s not ours; it’s God’s alone. We are called to love God and love one another, the end.
Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God.
For the Scriptures say,
“I will take revenge;I will pay them back,”says the Lord.
Instead, If your enemies are hungry, feed them.
If they are thirsty, give them something to drink.In doing this, you will heapburning coals of shame on their heads.
Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good. -Romans 12:17-21
You see, Jesus didn’t just die for you, my righteous friend. He died for the person who’s hurt you, too. He loves both of you the same. It doesn’t seem fair (there’s a parable about that), but it is so.
Jesus died for both of you because you’re both sinners.
Different stories, different sins, same black marks.
For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep we might live with him. Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. -1 Thessalonians 5:9-11
Download these Bible verses on anger and resentment in a convenient black and white printable below. You can work on memorizing and meditating on them, one at a time.
If you need help with a system for memorizing verses, check out this post on our family’s memorization habit.
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