by Santiphap (New Mexico)
Dear Lord, I come to you this beautiful morning to seek your guidance and intervention for two family members: one addicted to gambling and the other addicted to drugs.
These addictions have been a nuisance in the past, but now they are becoming a major distraction to the point of even causing disruption of our household.
I ask that you intervene and place your healing hand on these two individuals and help them put these addictions behind them. It is crucial that they see the errors of their ways and that they make a sincere effort to trust in you, have faith in you, and take back control in their lives to be able to worship and honor you.
In your name, I pray.
Return to Prayers for Strength and Guidance
The effects of porn addiction in the Christian churches are staggering. Most Christians would rather hide their head in the sand than admit this is a problem let alone talk about it. Those who are not addicted to porn are not aware that this problem. Moreover this is not exclusive to just Christian men but Christian women also suffer from pornography addiction.
Why should you care if you’re not addicted to porn? Because you or your children may end up marrying someone who is. This is why you need to educate yourself about this.
What’s worse is that the people who are married to porn addicts usually end up blaming themselves. They have low self esteem, body image issues, they feel inadequate and have no self worth because they believe they should be able to free their spouse from the addiction and they can’t. It ruins marriages.
Here are some statistics on this problem
Christians, Pastors and Church Pornography Statistics
51% of pastors say cyber-porn is a possible temptation. 37% say it is a current struggle (Christianity Today, Leadership Survey, 12/2001).
50% of evangelical pastors admits viewing pornography last year.
Of those who had visited a porn site, 53% had visited such sites “a few times” in the past year, and 18% visit sexually explicit sites between a couple of times a month and more than once a week.
29% of born again adults in the U.S. feel it is morally acceptable to view movies with explicit sexual behavior (The Barna Group).
57% of pastors say that addiction to pornography is the most sexually damaging issue to their congregation (Christians and Sex Leadership Journal Survey, March 2005).
Roger Charman of Focus on the Family’s Pastoral Ministries reports that approximately 20 percent of the calls received on their Pastoral Care Line are for help with issues such as pornography and compulsive sexual behavior.
Statistics on Women with Pornography Addiction
28% those admitting to sexual addiction are women (internet-filter-review.com).
34% of female readers of Today’s Christian Woman’s online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn in a recent poll and 1 out of every 6 women, including Christians, struggles with an addiction to pornography (Today’s Christian Woman, Fall 2003).
47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home (Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003).
So we see that this problem is pervasive in our churches. Now with the internet being such a large part of our lives, this makes it easily accessible on our desktop computers, smart phones or tablets. It is right at our fingertips!
How does the church stop the pornography addition??
The first step to being pornography free is admitting that you have a problem and you need to be delivered. Understand that you are battling a DEMON. Very few resources that you will read about pornography online will tell you that this is a demon.
If you are truly a born again Christian then you can’t be possessed by the demon but you can be oppressed. This means that the demon is in your environment and can influence your thinking by whispering in your ear and enticing you to continue with this behavior.
Remember that once you have received Jesus as your personal Savior you have been set from your past sins. You are a new creation and the old things have passed away and all things become new! (2 Corinthians 5:17) All of your sins are nailed to the cross and you now live a life of freedom from pornography.
You’re probably thinking that this is not true because why then are you or other Christians struggling with this. Well, once you clicked on that link to the website where you visit for porn, whether you did it intentionally or not, you then gave the enemy access to your soul. You gave him access to plant a seed there and keep you in bondage. You opened the door. The first time you clicked on that link, if you quickly clicked off the page you wouldn’t be where you are now. Because you stayed there and continued to look through all the pages and stare at the images you invited satan to enter in. A demon of seduction, pornography, incubus or succubus then attached itself to you. Now you have to take the appropriate steps to freeing yourself from the demon.
Here are some steps to break free from your addiction:
1. Fast. You must start fasting. Here is some information on prayer and fasting. This will give you the initial strength you need to do the other steps. (Mark 9:29) “This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting.”
2. If you have magazines or photos BURN THEM! Videos DESTROY THEM! Don’t put them in the trash make sure they are destroyed so that others cannot find them.
3. Clean out your computer. Delete all files, empty the recycle bin. Cancel all memberships to websites.
4. Install a software on your computer which will block future possible encounters like covenanteyes.com
5. Get someone that you trust 100% to keep this confidential to keep you accountable. Or, get a Christian counselor and see them at least once per week. You need to be honest with someone about this.
6. All your friends on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram that have suggestive photos or are connected with those who have suggestive photos UNFRIEND THEM! Yes, this could be the slippery slope that satan uses to lead you back to the addiction. They won’t understand why you unfriended them but your freedom is more important than their offense at this point.
8. Pray, pray and pray some more.
9. Find a church in your area that has a deliverance ministry and ask them to break the demonic spirit from your life.
10. When you feel weak like you are about to fall into this again repent IMMEDIATELY and put on the Armor of God. This will protect you.
Pornography ruins families and results in many divorces. These demons enter in and convinces the person that this is who they are. It becomes a secret sin and they continue to perpetuate the behavior because they think no one will find out. Afterall, they are not hurting anyone right? These are the lies of the enemy and he can ruin lives when this kind of thinking is believed. Don’t own the behavior. Renounce it! Rebuke it! (1 Corinthians 6:17-19) Pornography is sinning against your own self and the Holy Spirit because we are His temple.
The truth is that a lot of virgins in our churches are addicted to porn. While they are not having sex (fornication) so that the sin is obvious, most of them have fallen into sin already by being addicted to porn. The only person that finds out about this later on is their spouse.
Most believe that once they get married this problem will go away. The truth is, it won’t! Deliverance from this demon needs to happen prior to marriage in order for it not to raise it’s ugly head during the marriage. Remember this is a demon, it will not leave just because you are married. It will entice you to continue the pornography when your husband’s or wife’s body does not look like what you have become addicted to on porn sites, when they refuse to have sex with you one night or not as often as you would like. This is why it won’t stop. Deliverance needs to happen BEFORE you get married.
Here is a prayer for porn addiction:
Father God, I come to you in the name of Jesus and I repent of this sin and I ask that the blood of Jesus would cleanse my mind and my heart from the images that have been imprinted there. I pray that you would renew my mind with images of you on the cross dying for my sins. Renew my mind with your Word according to Romans 12:1-2. Lead me to the scriptures that would continue my mind renewal process. Free me from this bondage Holy Spirit forgive me for grieving you. You’ve said that no temptation has laid hold of us that is not common to man and that you would not allow us to be tempted beyond a point where we cannot escape. I pray that you would show me the way out. Show me the traps and roads that the enemy uses that lead me to this temptation so that I may choose another way. Close those doors in the spiritual realm. Show me all the things, people & places that I need to cut off to continue in my freedom. I bind the hand of the enemy. I rebuke the demon of seduction, pornography, incubus, succubus and any other spirits that have attached themselves to me. Point me in the direction of the deliverance ministry where I can continue in freedom. Free me from the guilt and shame. Continually keep the helmet of salvation on my head to keep my mind free from evil, lustful thoughts. Bring to my mind all the things that I may have in my environment that would encourage these demons so that I can remove them. Lord, I accept that I am a new creation in Christ Jesus that old things have passed away and all things have been made new. Free me from a spirit of rejection and from pride. I am fearfully and wonderfully made and valuable beyond measure in your eyes. Lord, I accept that I have the mind of Christ and therefore my thoughts will be on the things that Christ would have me think on. God lead me to the right support group where I can have the accountability that you know I will need during this process. Holy Spirit guide my steps, guard my heart, make my will Your will and when I don’t know what else to pray please make intercession for me so that I will be free, in Jesus Name, Amen
Here are some other organizations that can help with those who are suffering with pornography addition:
If you’ve been freed from pornography and can offer advice on this, please write them it the comments below.
Here are some Helplines and Hotlines for those addicted to porn and for the victims.
Porn Addiction Hotline (1-800-583-2964) This line is for the victims of pornography addition
Sex Addicts Anonymous Helpline: (1-800-477-8191)
Sexaholics Anonymous (1-866-424-8777)
Here are some scriptures for breakthrough and a prayer
Here is a prayer to cut soul ties
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How To End Addiction Through Spiritual Enrichment
Learn True Health is about Holistic Health. The podcast aims to develop our health mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and energetically. A lot of times I have doctors on teaching what herbs we can take, what detox is best or how to end addiction.
But if we have an unhappy spiritual, emotional or mental body, we’re not completely healthy. So we need to address every aspect of our life.
My guest today, John Hammer, will help us seek enlightenment, how to heal and how to end addiction so that we can say we are healthy inside and out.
Hammer grew up in a pastor’s family. His dad was a drug addict who grew up in Seattle. His father had a miraculous encounter with God when he chanced upon a book called “The Cross and the Switchblade” by David Wilkerson. He went to become a pastor and married Hammer’s mom in the process.
His earliest memories were going to church multiple times a week and going to a Christian school. He had a great childhood and Hammer’s parents were good role models.
In middle school, Hammer got exposed to pornography. He lived a double life during his teenage years. Underneath the happy facade, he was dealing with depression during that phase. Pornography was a wonderful drug then. Hammer knew it was bad, but it was an escape.
Hammer went to community college after he graduated from a Christian school and just went through the motions. Before his 21st birthday, Hammer went home one night, felt the fear of God and cried. After opening up to his Dad, that was a huge turning point in his life.
Hammer’s Cope Mechanism On How To End Addiction
Later on, Hammer wrote a book on how his addiction affected his body, brain and what it did to him spiritually and emotionally. It also affected his relationships.
Once the pornography removed from Hammer’s life, anxiety, worry, stress, and depression even intensified for a season. Prayer and counseling helped to set him free and taught him how to end addiction. It’s been 15 years now.
Hammer also went to Bible College, earning a Bachelor’s Degree in Biblical Studies. He is currently working on a Master’s Degree at Northwestern University in Missional Leadership. It is like a ministry degree for pastors.
Dr. Bernie Siegel was a past guest, and in our episode, he related that he tells high schoolers to write two lists—one list is a suicide note and the second list enumerates why you are worth living.
The ‘suicide note’ pile is always taller than the ‘worth living’ pile. The teachers hate him for doing it for fear that it would encourage kids to commit suicide.
On the contrary, Siegel says when he does it, the suicide rates go down because all the teenagers look at that pile and realize they are not alone. Hence, they open up to each other after that activity.
Understanding How To End Addiction
When we hear addiction, we always think it’s because of drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes. Addiction could be anything else. There are so many things that can cause a chemical dependence.
I was addicted to watching TV all day and night when I had depression. It was my numbing agent.
You have to feel the wounds to know it’s there so you can begin to ask for help. We need to acknowledge ourselves. When you overdo something, stop and ask yourself if there is something you need to heal.
We’re not alone in our struggles. Young people especially feel alone. But you have to open up about the hard things you are feeling and going through. Don’t be so isolated. That’s a huge risk.
“In my book, I wrote that porn could keep you from healthy relationships and healthy relationships can stop you from porn,” said Hammer. “There’s some biblical truth in there, and it’s what I learned from my experience.”
When you are open and transparent, you can put anything in that blank. Fundamentally, we’re made for healthy relationships with God.
“When we’re in pain, we seek pleasure. If we find happiness in relationships or in becoming transparent, working through the difficult things, we can find a healthy way to live. Addiction offers a shortcut but has a lot of side effects,” said Hammer.
We push people away so that they won’t see our shame. Addiction is ego-driven. When we let ourselves be vulnerable, then we can let people, God, and love inside us.
After the pornography removed from Hammer’s life, his spiritual eyes started to open. Things were changing. He felt the love of God. Then he went to our church and special meetings more often — the Sonrise Christian Center.
Purpose Of The Bible
God is a communicating God. He wants to be known, be loved and have a relationship with mankind. That’s why he gave us the Bible as a gift.
“The Bible teaches that God speaks in more dramatic ways like through angels, visions, and dreams,” Hammer explains. “It also tells us that we have our thoughts that could be affected positively or negatively by the different inputs.”
Hammer also says the Bible talks about evil forces and God’s spirit. So we need to be discerning. The most transformational principle in the Bible is the Gospel of grace.
“I believe the whole Revelation of the Bible is the Revelation of Jesus. In John’s Gospel, Jesus is having a confrontation with some of the religious leaders who weren’t too accepting of Jesus,” said Hammer.
“The primary point of the Bible is not about religion but rather to reveal who Jesus is. And that’s the Gospel of grace,” said Hammer. “I think this is most important for health because we’re all born in sin, and we need to be rescued. We need redemption and salvation.”
Furthermore, Hammer said, the Bible says that the Gospel in Romans 1, is the power of God and salvation to all who believe. It teaches that God came to man in the midst of our pain or destructive health. And He wants to heal and reconcile us.
God made Jesus, who knew no sin, to become sin for us. That we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
Difference of Mercy And Grace
“Mercy is you don’t get the judgment that you should have gotten. But grace is putting into your account a favor, goodness, and blessing that you didn’t earn,” said Hammer.
It’s not about the absence of punishment but rather the added benefit of reward that you didn’t do anything to earn other than God decided to show you a favor because you believe in the power of what He did for you in the sacrifice of his Son.
“This is so transformational to our health because it is grace instead of religion. It’s God’s empowerment on my behalf based on what he has done, not based on what I have done,” explains Hammer. “What started to renew my thinking was, as I understood the Gospel of grace, I was a new person. I realized God loves me and I’m not afraid of death anymore.”
Stories of Transformation
Hammer narrates that there was a young man that had a death wish on his life. He wanted to join the military and go in the frontline and die. That way, people would remember him for his bravery rather than be remembered as some hopeless guy.
He was in a dark place and had learning disabilities. John talked to him about the Gospel and was skeptical at first. But as they prayed, Hammer cast out the evil spirit from him. All the heaviness lifted from him.
He’s leading a church movement in Africa now, his memory was better and was successful in school. It was a spiritual breakthrough.
Then there was a woman who had a lot of autoimmune diseases and was seeing a lot of doctors. The doctors just diagnosed a bunch of drugs for her to cope and sent her home to die. Her body was shutting down.
Hammer’s Dad visited that patient and prayed with her. Shortly after that, she started to feel better. The next time she went back for hospital tests, her kidney, as well as other organs, were functioning well. Here autoimmune diseases were gone, and the doctors were amazed.
How To Improve Health
John gives three quick tips on how to improve our spiritual health and how to end addiction:
1. Grace – how to understand God’s love and our identity as a result of the gospel of grace.
2. Heart – caring for the condition of our heart (spiritually) by practicing forgiveness and thankfulness.
3. Prayer – practicing God’s presence in prayer, song, and meditation to alleviate anxiety and connect with God.
How To Pray
“Prayer is very important for keeping your heart healthy. I read up on how to have a healthy lifestyle,” shares Hammer. “I learned that our immune system is mostly in our gut. If you take care of your gut, you can heal a lot of issues in your life physically.”
Hammer adds that he also believes that spiritually. That deepest place is your heart. If you can take care of it, the rest of your life benefits. A prayer is an amazing tool.
“I pray in Jesus’ name. And my prayer is a divine encounter with God himself. Be relentlessly thankful no matter what,” Hammer said. “Cultivating a prayer life and a right attitude in life is the number one thing we have control over. The best way to control your attitude by being thankful.”
John Hammer is happily married to the love of his life Grace Elaine and together they have four amazing children: Hailey, Emma, Justus, and Addison. He is a passionate and creative communicator that is living for a Jesus awakening in his generation. He expresses his heart and creativity through preaching, teaching, writing, blogging and spoken word poetry.
He is the author of the book eXXXit. He is the Senior Associate Pastor at Sonrise Christian Center in Everett, WA and the Director of Sonrise Supernatural School of Seattle Bible College. John received a BA degree in Biblical Studies from Seattle Bible College and is currently pursuing a Master’s Degree in Missional Leadership from Northwest University. He is also the founder of Represent Conferences.
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On Page 552 of the “Big Book” of Alcoholics Anonymous (their basic text), there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person.
You pray for them every day for two weeks.
According to the writer of that Big Book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone. They were seeking a way rid themselves of it when they chanced upon a magazine article. In this article a preacher wrote that if one holds a resentment towards someone or something (like a place, maybe), you pray for them every day for two weeks. You pray for their health, happiness and prosperity.
It doesn’t matter if you mean it or not, if it is “just words;” you do it anyway. You will find that by the end of the two weeks, you will come to mean it. This transformation will end the resentment towards that person.
A resentment, as we have learned, means to “re-feel” something; a negative sentiment is maintained, relived and nurtured over time. There’s a pretty good chance that if you are praying daily for their health, happiness and prosperity, this old, negative “sentiment” will erode and disappear.
I tried it and so far it is working. Being the person I am, I may have to do it again concerning this acutely annoying person. But I can attest to the fact that by the end of the two weeks, I genuinely desired “health, happiness and prosperity” for this person.
The writer didn’t give the words to the prayer, just describing the instructions. My prayer went as follows:
“Dear God in Heaven, if it be your holy will, look with favor upon the health, happiness and prosperity of …N…. . I ask You this in the Name of Jesus, the Lord.” (“N” being the name of the person you are praying for.)
That’s all. Simple and to the point. No complicated formula, nothing but a simple request. Although the target is the person you are praying for, in actuality you are praying for the removal of a resentment. Why not just pray for that? “Dear God in Heaven, if it be your holy will, please remove my resentment towards …N… . I ask You this in the Name of Jesus, the Lord.” You could do that. But I think the “Page 552 Prayer” is harder for us as we are doing something difficult. Someone hurt us and now we want good things for them? Sure, God can remove our resentment if we specifically ask for that; but recall the words at the end of the “Lord’s Prayer,”
“Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive the trespasses against us.”
In praying for the person that hurt us, we are forgiving them. And thus we are forgiven for anything we might have done to them. The emotional tie is broken, the resentment ceases.
Unless we stoke the fires of it again, so vigilance is needed. Let it rest. Easy, if the person is out of our lives and exists in the past. It is certainly harder if they are not, are still annoying and “things happen” to make the resentment flare up again. If that is the case, just pray harder when you are aware of situations arising that involve them; otherwise avoid them, if possible.
Know someone, perhaps yourself, who might like Catholic devotionals for alcoholics? Please take a look at my books! “The Stations of the Cross for Alcoholics” and “The Recovery Rosary: Reflections for Alcoholics and Addicts” (Thank you!!)