Prayer for our son

I’ve often wondered how many mothers pray not only for their sons, but also for their sons’ wives.

Tim Challies wrote about the influence of godly mothers. “Many of our Christian heroes were shaped by the attentiveness and godliness of their mothers,” Challies said. 

President Abraham Lincoln said of his mother, “All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”

He was especially grateful for her prayers.

“I remember my mother’s prayers,” he once said, “and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.”

Truly, mothers’ unceasing prayers have led to the salvation of wayward sons, and bore fruit in their believing sons’ lives. 

But what about our sons’ wives? Are we praying for them as well? Can we become an “angel mother-in-law” through our prayers?

I began praying for my sons’ wives shortly after they were born. And I’m still praying, asking the Lord for insight and help to navigate this special relationship.

Perhaps this is your prayer too.

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Father God,

Thank you that, in great wisdom, you gave our sons the wives they needed to pursue all you have called them to do. Help us see how our daughters-in-love complement our sons’ temperaments, help them in their needs, and encourage their growth.

Lord, we let go of all our expectations for these precious daughters from another mother, believing You know best how they can please You as wives and parent their children. 

It’s not always easy being the mother-in-law. We held our sons’ tiny hands, walked them through skinned knees and tough struggles, taught and coached them for so many years, and struggled with their independence.

So our prayer for our sons’ wives must rightly begin with a recognition of change. Father, give us the gift of stepping back so each couple has room to grow and change together. 

We admit, it is challenging sometimes. There are not only changed roles, there’s also a generation gap and different perspectives on some things. Oh, how we need Your wisdom and understanding. Give us patience and flexibility. Show us how to adjust our attitudes and release any concerns into Your wise and capable hands. 

When it is difficult to adjust to our new role in our sons’ lives, show us how we can embrace this changing relationship by becoming strong encouragers and intercessors. 

Give us sharp discernment so we will not intrude or say things we might later regret. We want to be quick to listen and slow to speak (James 1:19). When we do speak, Lord, show us how to say the right word at the right time with the right motivation (Proverbs 25:11).

Remind us our sons and adopted daughters were not perfect before marriage, and they certainly still have faults. They will make mistakes just as we will; and if we are wise, we will give them space to change. We won’t criticize, meddle, or give unsolicited advice. 

Lord, help! That’s hard sometimes. But that is love.

Assist us in assuming positive and taking our daughters-in-love’s words at face value—not reading into them or responding out of hurt or insecure feelings, but always seeking truth and unity. Teach us how to be objective. 

And when necessary, help us forgive or ask for forgiveness, because going over old history might prevent what You want to do in all our lives (Isaiah 43:18-19). 

Lord, we mothers-in-love know our faults full well. We ask You to refine our lives so interactions will not chafe or cause any damage. 

But enough about us. 

There are so many wonderful things we can pray specifically for our daughters-in-love. 

We pray they will remember we both love the same man—in different ways, but powerfully.

We pray our adopted daughters will seek You first, understanding that no man can satisfy all their needs (Matthew 6:33).

We pray they will love and respect our sons, embracing the biblical design (Ephesians 5:21-24, 33b; 1 Peter 3:1-7; Titus 2:3-5).

We pray they will grow in wisdom and grace, learning more about the Lord and becoming better equipped to please Him (Ephesians 1:17; Hebrews 13:21).

We pray they will guard their integrity, so their husbands can safely trust in them (Proverbs 31:11).

We pray our daughters-in-love will always seek their husbands’ good, and never harm them with careless words or actions (Proverbs 31:12).

We pray for their success—that they will be creative and industrious, prospering at home and outside the home (Proverbs 31:13-16, 18-19, 24)

We pray they will develop physical and spiritual strength, dignity, and discernment—properly preparing themselves to face whatever the future brings (Proverbs 31:17; 25)

We pray they will be wise, kind, and generous (Proverbs 31:20, 26).

We pray they will pursue excellence and care for their husbands and children well (Proverbs 31:21-22, 27).

We pray they will understand where true beauty originates, and focus on pleasing the Lord (Proverbs 31:30).

We pray they will be rightly honored and rewarded as they seek the Lord and live for Him (Proverbs 31:28-29, 31).

We pray they will keep their marriage pure, and find continuing joy and satisfaction in their physical relationship with our sons (Hebrews 13:4; 1 Corinthians 7:3-5; Proverbs 5:15-19; Song of Solomon 1:2-4). 

We ask You to help us understand these unique women You created our adopted daughters to be; and as You allow, enable us to come alongside in ways they can appreciate.

Show us how to honor them, especially in the presence of our sons and other family members.

And we pray You will allow us to develop true friendships with our daughters-in-love—especially if we are sisters in Christ—not only for our and our family’s good, but for Your glory.

Father God, You bring wives to our sons as blessings, and we are grateful. Even when there are great difficulties, You are still working. We pray You will accomplish Your purposes in their homes. 

Thank you that as You refine their marriages, You also teach us many lessons as well, for Jesus’ sake. We thank you for grace and praise You for what You will do. Amen!

Dawn Wilson and her husband Bob live in Southern California. They have two married sons and three granddaughters. Dawn assists author and radio host Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth with research and works with various departments at Revive Our Hearts. She is the founder and director of Heart Choices Today, and also publishes LOL with God and Upgrade with Dawn and writes for Crosswalk.com. Dawn also travels with her husband in ministry with the International School Project.

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Publication date: March 20, 2017

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Last week I wrote about prayers for your marriage. There was such a response, I decided this week to have my friend Brooke McGlothlin write a guest post on 10 prayers for your son. (On Friday I’ll be posting 10 prayers for your daughter.)

Here’s my friend, Brooke…

He looks at me with a “heels dug in” kind of glare. I know if I said, “the sky is blue on a sunny day” he would try to prove me wrong.

Sometimes, I don’t feel like we’re on the same team anymore, my son and I, and it breaks my heart.

On days like today, when he’s arguing with everything I say and trying his eight-year-old best to do things his way, it seems I’m fighting against him—like there’s a war going on in my house between me and my son, and a distance between us I want to bridge no matter the cost.

I know from my education that this process of differentiation is pretty normal. Boys ache for independence from mama, and feel ready to “boldly go where no man has gone before.” They want to be strong, assert their opinions, and explore their own ideas. Unfortunately, at the McGlothlin Home for Boys, we’re living in the in-between season— where ideas abound before they are mature enough to handle the responsibilities that go along with those ideas.

And so we butt heads.

Sometimes, I’m tempted to let our circumstances tell me my son is the enemy—he’s the one I’m fighting. But then I remember…

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12 ESV

When the days of mothering grow long, and make a girl weary, and when what you really want to do is lock your son up in his room and throw away the key, it’s good to remember this:

He’s not your enemy. But there is an enemy.

That’s right, our sons have a real enemy—one that wants to kill, steal and destroy them (John 10:10)—but that enemy, according to the Word of God, has an opponent himself that’s a force to be reckoned with.

You.

Me. Any mother who’s willing to get on her knees and cry out for the heart of her son.

James 5:16 says, “the prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with” (The Message).

The best way a mom can enter the battle for the heart of her son is on her knees, so let’s start fighting for him right now.

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10 Powerful Prayers to Help You Fight for the Heart of Your Son

1. Create in my son a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10).

2. May my son walk after You, God, and fear You and keep Your commandments and obey Your voice. May he serve You and hold fast to You (Deuteronomy 13:4).

3. May my son be strong and courageous and not fear or be in dread, for it is You, Lord, our God, who goes with him. You will never leave him or forsake him (Deuteronomy 31:6).

4. May my son walk before You, God, as King David walked, with integrity of heart and uprightness, doing according to all that You have commanded him and keeping Your statutes and rules (1 Kings 9:4).

5. Like Timothy, may my son be an example to believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity (1 Timothy 4:12).

6. May my son listen to the way of wisdom and be led in the paths of uprightness (Proverbs 
4:11).

7. Lord, be with my son in trouble; rescue him and honor him (Psalm 91:5).

8. May my son honor his father and mother… (Ephesians 6:2).

9. May my son have love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith (1 Timothy 1:5).

10. May my son think on whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is commendable; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, may he think about these things (Philippians 4:8).

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Thank you, Brooke, for this beautiful list of Scriptural prayers!

Brooke McGlothlin has a new book called Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most. It’s an insightful and much needed book for all moms of boys. Click here for more details.

And today, Brooke is giving away 5 copies of Praying for Boys! To win, leave a comment below telling us what prayer you are praying for your son(s).

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“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12 (ESV)

He looks at me with a “heels dug in” kind of glare. I know if I said, “The sky is blue on a sunny day,” he would try to prove me wrong.

Sometimes, I don’t feel like we’re on the same team anymore, my son and I, and it breaks my heart.

On days like today, when he’s arguing with everything I say and trying his 8-year-old best to do things his way, it seems I’m fighting against him — like there’s a war going on in my house between me and my son — a distance between us I want to bridge no matter the cost.

I know from my education that this process of differentiation is pretty normal. Boys ache for independence from mama and feel ready to “boldly go where no man has gone before.” They want to be strong, assert their opinions and explore their own ideas.

Unfortunately, at my house, we’re currently living in the in-between season, where ideas abound before my son is mature enough to handle the responsibilities that go along with them.

And so we butt heads.

Sometimes, I’m tempted to let our circumstances tell me my son is the enemy — he’s the one I’m fighting. But then I remember Ephesians 6:12, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

When the days of mothering grow long and make a girl weary, and when what you really want to do is lock your son in his room and throw away the key, it’s good to remember this:

Your son is not your enemy. But there is an enemy.

That’s right. Our sons have a real enemy, one that wants to steal, kill and destroy them (John 10:10). Thankfully that enemy, according to the Word of God, has an opponent who’s a force to be reckoned with.

You.

And me. And all moms who are willing to get on their knees and cry out for the hearts of their sons. James 5:16b says, “The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with” (The Message).

The best way we can enter the battle for our sons is on our knees, so let’s start fighting for them right now. Here are five powerful prayers you can use today to fight for the heart of your son:

1. Create in my son a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10).

2. May my son walk after You, God, and fear You and keep Your commandments and obey Your voice. May he serve You and hold fast to You (Deuteronomy 13:4).

3. May my son be strong and courageous and not fear or be in dread, for it is You, Lord, our God, who goes with him. You will never leave him or forsake him (Deuteronomy 31:6).

4. May my son walk before You, God, as King David walked, with integrity of heart and uprightness, doing according to all that You have commanded him, and keeping Your statutes and rules (1 Kings 9:4).

5. Like Timothy, may my son be an example to believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity (1 Timothy 4:12).

Heavenly Father, thank You for giving us the tools of Your Word and prayer to fight the battle for our sons’ hearts. Help me see who our real enemy is when we are in a conflict. May You be glorified in all I do. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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Related Resources:

Want to go deeper in prayer for your boys? Read Brooke McGlothlin’s new book, Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most.

Today only, when you purchase a copy of Praying for Boys, you can get the Companion Guide free! Visit Brooke’s blog to learn more.

Looking for prayers to pray over your daughter? Don’t miss tomorrow’s powerful devotion from Lysa TerKeurst. She’ll be equipping us with encouragement and five scriptural prayers for your daughter.

Reflect and Respond:

The next time you feel as if you and your son aren’t fighting on the same team, stop and ask yourself these questions:

Who is my real enemy, and how is he influencing our hearts in this moment?

Given our current situation, what Bible verses can I pray right now over my son?

Power Verses:

Exodus 14:14, “The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.” (ESV)

Galatians 6:9, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” (ESV)

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