by Kathrine Moore (Atlanta, Georgia)
I will start by saying I love my husband dearly. He and I are the best of friends and we love each other very much. Sometimes though he is very impatient. He is a home re-modeler and things can be tough. This weighs heavily on him understandably so.
He is asking me to do something for his son (we have both been married previously and have children from another marriage). I am to ask my ex-husband to do something for him and I have a very hard time asking him for help. When I called him and asked him (the ex-husband), my husband was very curious as to what we spoke about and how long we spoke. My ex did not give me an answer as he had to check on things from his end.
I was to call him back in a few days. I hesitated in doing so because my husband felt so jealous of me calling him (even though he put me up to it). Now he is insisting that I don’t love him because I haven’t called my ex back to see if he will do this for my step-son.
I feel that his impatience and inability to see clearly is causing angst in our relationship and me physically. I cannot get him to see my point of view and he becomes very irrational and very impatient.
I pray that God will soften his heart and allow him to see with a different perspective. I pray that I will be brave enough to ask a favor of my ex (as he owes me nothing), and that God will soften his heart to help me. My pray for my own well being and blood pressure to cope and stay strong through this.
I need strength and a softening of hearts. Please.
Return to Marriage Prayer
“The heart is deceitful above all things
and beyond cure.
Who can understand it?”
“As water reflects a face,
so a man’s heart reflects the man.”
A Prayer for Your Husband’s Heart
Father, thank You that You have given my husband a heart that is teachable. Even when he is unwillingly to change his views or ways, You have not given him a heart of stone, but of flesh, and You, O Lord, have abilities beyond measure to soften his heart, making it pliable to Your will and Your ways. Create in my husband a new heart and a steadfast spirit. (Ps.51:10)
Teach him Your way so that he will walk in Your truth. Give him an undivided heart; not entertaining both good and evil. (Ps.86:11) A good man brings good things out of the goodness of his heart, and the evil man evil things out of his heart.(Luke 6:45) Let my husband stand firmly and correctly in goodness.
You have said,”I, the Lord, search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve.” (Jer.17:9-10) Search his heart, Sweet Jesus. Ever so gently, search his heart. Test him and know his thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in him. Convict him in any areas where he needs to grow more gentle, loving, kind, humble or repentant. Guide him into Your everlasting way.(Ps.139:23-24)
When You test him and the road gets hard, don’t let his heart be troubled.”Prove Yourself to him so his trust in You may be established,further purifying his heart by faith. (John 14:1; Acts 15:9)
May those who scorn Your name or are far from You, see the good in my husband by his acts of humble service, making You appealing to all. May he find honor and respect in his life, his work, and his relationships. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you for today. Thank you for my dear family and all that you have blessed me with. I pray for my husband today. May you fill him with your peace and strength. I pray that his day goes great and that you are able to spend time with him. Reveal yourself to him in marvelous ways Lord. I pray that you guard his heart and his mind from the temptation in the world. May you also soften my husband’s heart in response to me and our marriage. May you soften my heart towards him. I pray that any barriers be let down, that we would communicate better to each other, and that we would live as a team for you. May you move through our marriage and may your will be done in Jesus’ name AMEN!
I attended a conference on healing and deliverance recently and one of the things I saw is how the enemy uses a person’s wounding and past hurts to persuade them to harden their hearts.
Like a person who is injured physically and develops a scab at that place of hurt eventually, so the same thing can happen to your heart.
The enemy can convince you that hardening your heart is necessary to protect you from further hurt.
If a person has a hard heart, they won’t believe God’s love.
Believing God’s love puts them in a position of vulnerability and humility, which scares them.
They also won’t receive God’s word because it can’t penetrate through a hard heart.
Or if it does, the Word won’t go very deep!
God’s word must be able to penetrate the heart and grow in order to produce the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (see Galatians 5:22-23).
Here is another sobering thought: A person can even try to minister to others from a hard heart! But love won’t motivate their service.
They will serve out of legalism, duty, obligation, and drudgery. It is obvious they do not find joy in their service either.
The Lord gave me this Word on this subject:
Unless you allow the Lord to heal your heart, you will never grow past the place of your wounding.”
The only thing I know that is strong enough to soften a hard heart is the blood of Jesus.
Here are some truths about Jesus that can help soften the hard heart – if the person will believe. I also included my prayer for a person suffering from a hard heart below.
- Jesus suffered.
- Jesus was wounded.
- Jesus was abused.
- Jesus was battered.
- Jesus was rejected.
- Jesus was lied on and talked about.
- Jesus was insulted and verbally abused.
- Jesus had to endure poverty.
There is nothing that any of us has suffered that Jesus did not go through already.
Consider this: Jesus took on the sins of the whole world at the cross, from the beginning of time, all through the ages.
That means Jesus had to bear the sins of:
- Child molesters/Pedophiles
In fact, every perversion and evil that mankind has committed throughout history, Jesus bore it.
Nobody’s sin was left out.
Jesus bore the sins of the person who hurt you. Jesus bore your sins as well.
Jesus had to take all the filthiness of sin on Him at the cross even though He never sinned.
Jesus did that to restore mankind’s relationship with the Father.
The Father had decreed the penalty for sin was death. Jesus paid the death price for all of us because He loved us that much.
Jesus has suffered as we have, but we have NOT suffered as He has!
Jesus died and took all that sin with Him into the grave. But praise God, Jesus gained the victory over sin, conquered death, and came up out of the grave!
He rose again on the third day so that we can have a new life in Him.
He did this because He loves us. Not because we are good but because He is good.
Neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (see Romans 8:38-39).”
We who believe in our hearts and confess with our mouths that Jesus is the Son of God and was raised on the third day shall be saved because we trade our sin for His righteousness.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
He gives us beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness so we may be the planting of the Lord and He may be glorified.
To summarize, a hard-hearted person is like an abandoned concrete lot.
Nothing much will grow there and what does grow is malnourished, weak, and sickly.
In order for anything to grow, the concrete must be broken up, the chunks removed, new soil brought in, and good seeds planted.
So my prayer for a hard-hearted person is from Ezekiel 36:26:
May my sister or brother receive a new heart and a new spirit within them; May the Lord take the heart of stone out of their flesh and give them a heart of flesh so that they may receive the full measure of the Father’s love for them.
I command any evil spirits deceiving them into thinking that a hard heart is necessary for their safety and protection to come up and come out in the name of Jesus.
The Lord is their rock and their fortress and their deliverer; My God, their strength, in whom they will trust; their shield and the horn of their salvation, their stronghold.
Spirits of shame, depression, anger, pride, woundedness, unforgiveness, fear, rejection, poverty, hurt and anything else in their souls and bodies that the Father did not plant, I uproot you through the power of our Father’s word in the name of Jesus!
Spirit of trauma, I command you to come out and loose them in the name of Jesus. They have been set free to grieve for their losses and to allow proper expression of them in their Savior’s loving arms. They are free to walk in freedom and to dance in praise to the Lord!
I see a new picture of them as dancing before the Lord, face radiant with joy, arms open wide rather than crossed, completely free to receive.
Let them declare according to Psalm 30:11-12:
“You have turned for me my mourning into dancing;
You have put off my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness,To the end that my glory may sing praise to You and not be silent.O Lord my God, I will give thanks to You forever.”
The Lord is glorified when His people are well-watered gardens, trees of righteousness, full of fruit.
His Word is good seed; his Holy Spirit is our water that brings times of refreshing in His presence.
As well-watered gardens with abundant fruit, others can come, taste and see that the Lord is good!
Be blessed in health, healing, and wholeness,
Creator of the Take Back Your Temple program
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