My girlfriend is my life

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DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD a one-night stand with a woman I’d just met last Friday night.

I feel ashamed of myself but it’s not the first time.

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I love my girlfriend but I always cheat on her

In the past year I’ve had sex with at least 15 women, even though I have a lovely girlfriend.

I usually pick up women in bars in the city centre and end up back at their place as I house-share with three other guys and there is not much privacy.

My girlfriend is 24 and I am 26.

We have been together for just over two years.

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Our sex life is dead which is why I look for sex elsewhere

She works part-time and lives in a flat with her four-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.

I work full-time as a sales negotiator in an estate agents.

Last Friday I completed a sale on a house worth nearly £1million and I was over the moon.

I needed to celebrate but my girlfriend couldn’t get a babysitter — or didn’t want to.

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I love my girlfriend and I do feel guilty about sleeping with other women

She doesn’t like leaving her daughter with anyone else.

I went out with my mates from work, we got loaded and I got talking to a pretty girl in the last bar we went to.

She was 30 but her boyfriend had dumped her so she responded to someone telling her she was gorgeous.

We went back to hers and had sex. It was great to feel I could go for it.

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I need to have a sex life though

My sex life with my girlfriend has been dead for months.

She has never let me see her naked and always insists that we make love in a dark room under the covers.

She says it’s because of her flabby tummy since giving birth, though I have tried reassuring her loads of times.

It’s got to the point where I don’t enjoy sex at all. I literally have to force myself through it and rarely climax.

I love her and feel so guilty but I need some sort of a sex life.

I have no idea what to do about it. I’m so stuck.


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DEIDRE SAYS: Cheating will solve nothing.

But you are right, your relationship can’t last happily when your sex life is so limited.

Tell your girlfriend you need a serious talk – at a non-sexual moment but when her little girl is in bed so you can talk without interruption.

Explain that you can’t see a future together unless she can make some progress on this.

Your needs aren’t unreasonable.

Suggest she works up to letting you see her naked by having a bit more light in the room.

Try dim lighting or candles and gentle all-over massage rather than anything heavily sexual to start with.

DEAR DEIDRE I’m tempted to stray from my partner after amazing sex with an ex-colleague

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DEAR DEIDRE I’m having a baby with my ex’s brother — but he refuses to leave his family

DEAR DEIDRE I want revenge after my married lover snogged a younger man

DEAR DEIDRE My ex ruined my life by exposing my escort past — and now my kids disowned me

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SEX WITH SISTER I had sex with my sister and now we are having a full-on relationship

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My e-leaflet How To Have Great Sex should help you both sort this.

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Представленный перевод песни 2Pac – Me And My Girlfriend на русский язык не претендует на дословную точность. Текст и слова песни являются собственностью их авторов.

Me And My Girlfriend

Shit, you mothafuckin’ right!
I’m the bitch that’s keepin’ it live and keepin’ it hot
When you punk-ass niggas don’t
Nigga, westside! What?! Bring it on!

Look for me, lost in the whirlwind

’96 Bonnie and Clyde, me and my girlfriend
Doing 85 when we ride
Trapped in this world of sin
Born as a ghetto child, raised in this whirlwind

C’mon, our childhood years, recall the tears, heart laced with venom

Smoking sherm, drinking malt liquor, father forgive ’em
Me and my girlfriend, hustlin’
Fell in love with the struggle
Hands on the steering wheel, blush while she bail out bustin’
Fuck ’em all, watch ’em fall screamin’
Automatic gunfire exorcising all demons
My mafioso messiah, my congregation high, ready to die
We bail out to take the jail back, niggas united
Our first date, couldn’t wait to see you naked
Touch you in every secret place, I could hardly wait
To bust freely, got you red-hot, you so happy to see me
Make the front page prime time live on TV
Nigga, my girlfriend, baby 45 but she still live
One shot make a nigga’s heartbeat stop

What?! I’m busting on you punk ass niggas

Run, nigga, run! I’m on your ass, nigga
Run, nigga! Duck and hide when I’m bustin’ on all you bitches!
Run, nigga! Yeah, west side!
Uh! Uh! Uh! Die, nigga, die!

My girlfriend: blacker than the darkest night

When niggas act bitch-made she got the heart to fight
Nigga, my girlfriend, though we separated at times
I knew deep inside, baby girl would always be mine
Picked you up when you was 9
Started out my life of crime with you
Bought you some shells when you turned 22
It’s true, nothing compares to the satisfaction
That I feel when we out mashin’; me and my girlfriend

All I need in this life of sin

Is me and my girlfriend
Down to ride to the bloody end
Just me and my girlfriend
All I need in this life of sin
Is me and my girlfriend
Down to ride to the bloody end
Just me and my girlfriend

I was too immature to understand your ways

Inexperienced back in the days
Caused so many arguments and strays
Now I realize how to treat you, the secret to keep you
Being faithful, ‘cause now cheating’s lethal
We’re closer than the hands of time
Deeper than the drive of mankind
I trust you dearly, I shoot blind
In time I clock figures, dropping niggas as we rise
We all soldiers in God’s eyes
Now it’s time for war; never leave me, baby
I’m paranoid, sleeping with you loaded by my bedside, crazy
Jealous when you hang with the fellas, I wait patiently alone
Anticipated for the moment you come home
I’m waiting by the phone, this is true love, I can feel it
I’ve had a lot of women in my bed, but you the realest
So if you ever need me, call, I’ll be there through it all
You’re the reason I can stand tall; me and my girlfriend

All I need in this life of sin

Is me and my girlfriend
Down to ride to the bloody end
Just me and my girlfriend
All I need in this life of sin
Is me and my girlfriend
Down to ride to the bloody end
Just me and my girlfriend

I love finger-fucking you, all of a sudden I’m hearing thunder

When you bust a nut, niggas be ducking or taking numbers
Love to watch you at a block party, begging for drama
While unleashing on the old-timers, that’s on my mama
I would trade my life for yours, behind closed doors
The only girl that I adore, everything I’m asking for
Talking to me, begging me to just take you around
Seventeen, like Brandy, you just wanna be down
Talking loud when I tell you be quiet
You move the crowd, busting rounds, activating a riot
That’s why I love you so, no control, down to roll, unleash
After a hit you, break apart, then back to one piece
Much love to my one and only girlfriend, the world is ours
Just hold me down, baby, witness the power
Never leave a nigga alone, I love you black or chrome
Turn this house into a happy home: me and my girlfriend

All I need in this life of sin

Is me and my girlfriend
Down to ride to the bloody end
Just me and my girlfriend
All I need in this life of sin
Is me and my girlfriend
Down to ride to the bloody end
Just me and my girlfriend
All I need in this life of sin
Me and my girlfriend
Down to ride to the bloody end
Me and my girlfriend

Я и Моя Девушка

Ты чертовски прав!
Я сука, которая остаётся самой собой
В то время, как вы, шпана, не делаете этого.
Нигга, Западное побережье! Начинаем!

Ищи меня, потерянного в урагане событий (1)

Девяносто шестого года. Мы с моей девушкой
Едем 85 миль/ч (2).
Мы в ловушке в этом грешном мире,
Рождённые в гетто, выросшие в этом урагане.

Наши детские годы, наполнившие наши сердца злостью, вызывают лишь слёзы.

Курили фенциклидин, пили солдовый алкоголь, отец, прости нас.
Я тусуюсь со своей девушкой,
Мы страстно влюблены друг в друга.
Руки жёстко сжимают руль, пока она выплёвывает пули в окно (3).
Нахер их всех, смотрите, как они падают с криками.
Автоматический огонь изгоняет всех демонов.
Я – мафиозный мессия, у меня много последователей, готовых умереть.
Мы выходим из тюрьмы, чтобы снова сесть, ниггеры едины.
Наше первое свидание. Не могу дождаться момента, когда увижу тебя обнажённой,
Прикоснуться ко всем твоим потаённым местам. Я изо всех сил жду
Момента, когда сделаю выстрел (4), увижу твои яркие искры, ты так рада видеть меня.
Это просто главная тема телевизионного прайм-тайм.
Нигга, даже если моей девушке 45 (5), она всё ещё жива.
Один выстрел остановит сердце ниггера.

Что?! Я перестреляю вас к чертям, козлы.

Беги, нигга, беги! Я тут по твою душу.
Беги, нигга! Прячься, когда я стреляю в вас.
Беги, нигга! О да, это Западное побережье!
Умри, нигга, умри!

Моя девушка чернее ночи.

Когда ниггеры поступают, как суки, она готова драться.
Нигга, пусть мы с моей девушкой иногда расставались,
Глубоко внутри я знаю, что она всегда будет со мной.
Я нашёл тебя, когда тебе было 9,
С тобой прошло начало моей преступной жизни,
Купил тебе несколько побрекушек, когда тебе стало 22 (6).
Это правда, ничего не сравнится с тем наслаждением,
Которое я испытываю в те моменты, когда мы с моей девушкой веселимся.

Всё, что мне нужно в этой грешной жизни –

Чтобы я был со своей девушкой.
Мы вместе дойдём до кровавого конца –
Только я и моя девушка.
Всё, что мне нужно в этой грешной жизни –
Чтобы я был со своей девушкой.
Мы вместе дойдём до кровавого конца –
Только я и моя девушка.

Я был слишком юн, чтобы понимать тебя,

Но потом ко мне после недопониманий
И промахов пришёл опыт.
Теперь я понимаю, как правильно с тобой обращаться, познал секрет, как не потерять тебя.
Я всегда верен тебе, ведь если я буду без тебя, я могу умереть.
Мы ближе, чем стрелки в часах,
Наши отношения очень глубокие.
Я полностью тебе доверяю и могу обращаться с тобой с закрытыми глазами.
Я зарабатываю деньги, и мне приходится убирать ниггеров, которые мешают мне.
Все мы слуги Божьи.
Сейчас, когда настало время войны, не покидай меня, милая.
Я параноик и держу тебя заряженной рядом с собой, когда сплю.
Ревную, когда ты тусуешься с друзьями, терпеливо жду в одиночестве того момента,
Когда ты вернёшься.
Я жду у телефона. Это настоящая любовь, я точно чувствую это.
В моей постели было много женщин, но ты самая настоящая.
Так что если я когда-нибудь понадоблюсь тебе, звони, и я приеду, несмотря ни на что.
Ты даёшь мне возможность выдержать всё это. Я и моя девушка.

Всё, что мне нужно в этой грешной жизни –

Чтобы я был со своей девушкой.
Мы вместе дойдём до кровавого конца –
Только я и моя девушка.
Всё, что мне нужно в этой грешной жизни –
Чтобы я был со своей девушкой.
Мы вместе дойдём до кровавого конца –
Только я и моя девушка.

Мне нравится теребить тебя пальцами, люблю звуки, которые ты издаёшь.

Когда ты стреляешь (7), ниггер, прячась, считает пули.
Люблю смотреть как ты ждёшь развития событий на вечеринке в квартале.
Вспоминаю старые времена и свою маму (8).
Я бы отдал свою жизнь за тебя за закрытыми дверьми.
Единственная девушка, которую я обожаю, единственное, что мне нужно.
Говоришь со мной, умоляешь меня взять тебя с собой.
Тебе 17 (9), как Брэнди (10), и ты хочешь быть рядом.
Громко кричишь, когда я прошу тебя говорить тише,
И это заставляет толпу двигаться. Плюёшься свинцом, зачинаешь бунты.
Вот за что я тебя так сильно люблю: бесконтрольная, раскручиваешься с пол-оборота.
Иногда тебе приходилось уходить в тень, но ты возвращалась.
Люблю тебя, моя единственная. Мир – наш.
Просто будь рядом со мной, милая, в тебе столько силы.
Никогда не бросай меня одного, я люблю твой чёрный хром.
Превращаем этот дом в счастливый дом – я и моя девушка.

Всё, что мне нужно в этой грешной жизни –

Чтобы я был со своей девушкой.
Мы вместе дойдём до кровавого конца –
Только я и моя девушка.
Всё, что мне нужно в этой грешной жизни –
Чтобы я был со своей девушкой.
Мы вместе дойдём до кровавого конца –
Только я и моя девушка.
Всё, что мне нужно в этой грешной жизни –
Чтобы я был со своей девушкой.
Мы вместе дойдём до кровавого конца –
Только я и моя девушка.

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(2) Приблизительно 137 км/ч.
(3) “Девушка” – аллюзия на оружие.
(4) Может быть переведено как “эякуляция” или “выстрел”
(5) 45 лет или .45 калибр (калибр MAC-10)
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(7) Переводится как “оргазм” или “выстрел”
(8) Мать Тупака состояла в сообществе Черные Пантеры (афроамериканская леворадикальная организация, ставившая своей целью продвижение гражданских прав чернокожего населения).
(9) Калибр 9х17.
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Автор перевода – Кирилл из Санкт-Петербурга

Here are 5 possible reasons why your ex girlfriend is asking you questions about your life:

1. She wants to find out if you are moving on without her

my girlfriend is my life

When a woman is struggling to find a new guy after a break up, she may begin to worry that her ex man will move on before she does.

So, as a way of keeping tabs on her ex, she will stay in contact with him (e.g. via text, social media, or even by calling him on the phone or seeing him in person) and asking him things like, “So, what are you doing these days? Are you going out?” or “Who are you hanging out with these days?” or, “What’s news?”

In some cases, a woman will be very direct with her questions and ask, “So, are you seeing anyone else yet?”

Essentially, she’s trying to find out if she still has time to move on with a new guy before he finds a new girl.

If you suspect that this is the reason why your ex is always asking you about your life, there’s you don’t need to answer all of her questions in a straightforward manner.

Of course, that doesn’t mean you should be rude and say something like, “Why do you keep asking me questions about my life? We’re broken up now and it’s none of your business what I’m doing!”

Instead, just have a little fun with her by using humor to avoid answering her questions at times.

For example: Imagine that your ex asks you something along the lines of, “So, what are you doing these days? Are you seeing anyone yet?”

Rather than giving her an account of your whereabouts and saying something like, “No, I’m not seeing anyone. I’m just focusing more on my studies/work at the moment,” or “Oh, I’m just hanging out with my friends for the time being. I’m not interested in dating anyone right now,” you can instead say, “Hey, you don’t have to hide behind questions like that. If you want me back just say so. You miss me. Haha! :P” or “Yes, I got married last weekend. Starting a family now.”

Just be confident enough to joke around with her and not fall into the trap of reporting to her like an employee would for a boss or manager.

When you have the balls to joke around and not take her questions so seriously, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling attracted to you.

Remember: Women attracted to balls, not fear.

It’s not about being overly ballsy and trying hard to seem confident or cool.

Instead, it’s just about relaxing and not taking her questions so seriously.

It takes balls to do that and if you’re also being a good guy while doing it, it means that you have class as well.

You’re not being an asshole.

You’re simply not taking her questions so seriously.

Women love that.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take anything she says seriously.


That’s not it at all.

Just don’t take everything that she says so seriously.

Mess around with her at times.

When you do, she will feel attracted and drawn to you and will realize that she doesn’t want to lose you.

When that happens, getting her back becomes easy for you.

Remember: When your ex girlfriend is asking you questions about your life, you can use it as an opportunity to re-spark her feelings for you.

You don’t have to be Mr. Serious or Mr. Formal or Mr. Super Polite all the time.

You are allowed to joke around, mess with her and not take everything so seriously.

So, just relax, be confident, lighthearted and easy-going about things as you talk to her.

Note: She might PRETEND to be angry at something you say or text to her.

If she does react in that way, just reply with, “Lol…” via text or laugh at her if you’re talking to her on the phone or in person.

In other words, let her see that you have balls.

Don’t display fear, insecurity or desperation. Those things aren’t attractive to women.

Watch this…

Another possible reason why your ex is asking questions about your life…

2. She wants to see if she can reel you back in and mess with your head

my girlfriend is my life

After a nasty break up, a woman might feel angry or resentful towards her ex.

She may be thinking things like, “I want to get revenge on him for hurting me. I’m going to make him believe that I want him back and then, when he’s fully convinced that we’re going to get together, I’m going to laugh in his face for thinking he had a chance with me…and then watch him crumble. That will serve him right for being such a jerk to me in the relationship. He’s going to get a serious dose of karma. What goes around comes around!”

She will then lead him on by asking him questions about his life and showing interest in him.

He might then begin to wonder, “Why is my ex always asking about what I’m doing? Is it possible that she still has feelings for me? Maybe we can get back together again after all.”

If he starts showing interest and excitement about getting back with her, she will then begin to ignore some of his texts or stop answering his calls.

She might even say, “I am confused. I don’t know what I want. Please give me more time” and then text him in a loving, sweet way the next day…only to then say that she is confused again.

Alternatively, rather than continuing to lead him on, she might say, “I hope you don’t have any ideas about us getting back together. I would never make that mistake again. You stuffed up and I will never forget that,” to enjoy watching the hope fade from his eyes and be replaced with feelings of rejection and sadness.

She can then feel good about herself and get the revenge she wanted all along.

He treated her badly in the relationship and made her feel as though she wasn’t good enough and now she is giving him a taste of his own medicine.

Silly games, I know, but that’s what many people do after a break up.

If you want to skip all the mind games and just get her back, then watch this…

What you need to understand is that you really can change the way your ex feels about you.

Even if a woman is trying to mess with an ex’s head for hurting her, it doesn’t mean that she can’t change how she feels about him.

Feelings change all the time.

You can directly influence how she is feeling, thinking and behaving by focusing on attracting her every time you interact with her from now on.

It doesn’t matter if she’s trying to mess with your head right now.

You can make her plan to get revenge on you backfire by making her fall in love with you again and want you back more than anything.

Another possible reason why your ex is asking you questions about your life is…

3. She’s bored, lonely or sad and is hoping that talking to you will make her feel better

my girlfriend is my life

When a couple has been in a relationship for a while, they usually end up doing most things together (e.g. hang out together on weekends, go out to eat together, go to the movies together, sleep in the same bed, watch TV together).

So, when a break up happens, their lifestyle also begins to change (i.e. having to find new things to do on the weekend, sleeping alone, watching TV alone).

In the same way, your ex girlfriend may suddenly have found herself with too much alone time on her hands and no-one to share it with.

She might have friends that she goes out with, but friends don’t spend all their spare time together.

As a result, she might be feeling bored without you and be missing the comfortable familiarity that you and her once shared.

To make herself feel better, she will ask you questions about your life as a way of filling up her alone time with distractions.

If this applies to your case, make sure that you are using the communication to actively make her feel sexually and romantically attracted to you, rather than just being friendly to her.

If you are only being friendly when texting her, she won’t feel drawn to you in a sexual or romantic way.

Before you know it, the texts will slow down or stop and you will find out that she is dating a new guy.

So, while she is texting you, make sure that you use it to make her feel attracted and drawn to you.

That way, you can get her back into a real relationship, rather than just being her text friend for a while.

Where some guys go wrong, is by thinking, “Hey, my ex girlfriend is asking me questions about my life. Maybe she still has some feelings for me. If I just hang around her and be her friend (or text her like a good friend), she might eventually change her mind about us being broken up and we can then get back together.”

Yet, if a guy isn’t actively creating a spark, a woman usually isn’t feeling it…especially when she has dumped him and doesn’t want to be with him anymore.

This is why you should act like just a friend when talking to her, or texting her.

You should literally talk to her as though she is a new girl that you’re attracting and picking up.

That’s what works.

By the way…

If your ex is asking questions about your life because she’s bored and wants someone familiar to talk to for a while, it doesn’t mean that she wants you back sexually and romantically.

To make her feel that way, you have to actively spark her feelings of respect, sexual attraction and romantic love for you again when you interact with her (e.g. via text, e-mail, social media and especially over the phone and in person).

If you just go with the flow and pretend to be a nice friend to her without actively making her feel respect and sexual attraction for you again, she will use you when she feels bored.

However, that won’t stop her from dating, having sex and falling in love with another guy if he comes along and sparks her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction.

So, make sure that you’re not making her feel neutral, friendly feelings for you when interacting with her.

If the communication between you is mostly friendly and neutral, there won’t be a strong enough reason for her to want to get back into a romantic relationship with you.

Instead of being neutral and friendly, make sure that you flirt with her to create sexual tension between you and her.

Another possible reason why your ex is asking you questions about your life is…

4. She’s trying to signal to you that she wants you back

Even if your ex still has feelings for you and wants you back, she won’t necessarily make it obvious by saying something like, “Hey, I know that we’ve broken up, but I still care about you and I’d really like for us to work things out. What do you say? Are you interested in getting back together again?”

It would be great if she did say that, but she most likely won’t.

Instead, she will drop subtle hints (i.e. asking you questions about your life) and wait to see if you have the confidence to get the relationship back together without her help.

She wants to know that you have the courage and confidence to make it happen without her help because she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with a guy that she has to carry throughout life.

Women are instinctively attracted to men who remain emotionally strong and confident and go after what they want in life (including an ex that they’re still in love with), regardless of what anyone else thinks, says or does.

So, if you want your ex girlfriend back, you just have to make it happen yourself, otherwise she will start thinking things like, “Oh well… I tried to give him an opening but he’s just not taking the bait. Either he’s not interested in me anymore, or he simply doesn’t have the confidence to get me back. Whatever the case, I’m just wasting my time anymore,” and she will then focus on moving on with a new guy.

Don’t let that happen to you and your girlfriend.

Get her back.


Show her (don’t tell her!) that you are now confident and emotionally strong enough to go after what you want in life, including her, regardless of how challenging or difficult it may seem.

The more that she experiences your new and improved confidence and masculinity (via the way you now talk, behave and interact with her), the more her guard will come down.

Another possible reason why your ex is asking you questions about your life is…

5. She wants to see if you’ve changed

Even when a woman breaks up with a guy, she will often hope that he can change the things about himself that turned her off, so they can then get back together again.

For example: A woman might break up with a guy because he’s got no plan for his future (e.g. no big goals, no plans to marry her, no big ambitions for his career, no long term plan to succeed and be safe in later years).

He’s too emotionally immature and behaves more like a teenager than like a grown man (e.g. he doesn’t have a stable job, he still lives at home with his parents, he parties too much and gets drunk often, he doesn’t want to be responsible about his life).

Yet, in many other ways he’s the perfect guy for her (e.g. he’s kind and generous, he treats her with respect, he has a great sense of humor, he satisfies her sexually).

After the break up, she will be thinking something like, “If he can only find a good job, set some goals in his life and then work towards achieving them, I could definitely see myself getting back with him. Unfortunately, I just don’t see that happening any time soon and I can’t afford to waste the best years of my life waiting for a guy to grow up and be a man. I need a man now. I need a guy who can be a man right away, not a boy who might grow up one day. I’m just so confused. I still care for him, but I also know that I can’t stay stuck in a dead-end relationship either.”

So, after the break up, she might stay in touch as a way of keeping tabs on him.

She will want to see if he’s changed and if he has, she can then go ahead and get back with him.

In the same way, your ex girlfriend might be asking you questions about your life to see if you’ve changed and improved some of the things that turned her off before.

For example: Some of the questions a woman will have about her ex include…

  • Is he more confident and emotionally independent now, or is he still needy and insecure?
  • Is he moving through the levels of life like a real man, or is he stuck in a rut in life, or still behaving like a teenage boy who won’t grow up?
  • Does he stand up for himself now when others (including her) try to push him around, or is he still easily picked on?
  • Can he make her feel feminine and girly in his presence by being more emotionally dominant than her, or does he still allow her to dominate him with her confident personality?
  • Has he embraced the idea of being a masculine man, or does he still think that it’s wrong to be masculine and right be soft and nice all the time?
  • Has he improved his understanding of what women really feel attracted to, or is he trying to re-attract his ex with the same old approach that got him dumped in the first place?
  • Can he make her feel sparks of sexual attraction for him by being emotionally masculine around her, or is he still too much of a neutral guy who makes her feel more like his friend or sister?

So, if your ex girlfriend is asking questions about your life, it may be because she wants to see if you’ve changed.

You need to show her (via the way you think, talk, behave, interact with her and respond to what she says and does) that what she’s hoping for is already there.

You really have changed.

You are a new and improved man.

The more she experiences that for herself, the more respect and attraction she will feel for you and the more she will want to give the relationship another chance.

Don’t waste time ignoring your ex or trying to convince her to give you another chance. This simple trick will change her mind and make her want you back today…

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