How to comfort a broken heart

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The best way to support a friend with a broken heart is to acknowledge their pain without judgement. Encourage your friend to express their feelings and grieve in their own way. Check up on your friend frequently and offer to help with everyday tasks, like chores or errands. Help your friend move on by reminding them how strong they are and encouraging them to be independent. For advice from our Mental Health reviewer on how to help prevent destructive behavior, like obsessions, read on!

Part 1 Being There for Your Friend

  1. how to comfort a broken heart Encourage grieving.

    Your friend needs to deal with their emotions in order to get through this tough time, so encourage them to tackle them head-on. Remind them that they will never feel better if they are in denial about what has happened or ignores how they are feeling about it.

    • Let them know it’s okay to cry. Tears can help them heal!
    • If you feel like your friend is bottling their emotions up inside, explain to them that doing so can make it harder to get past the hurt.
    • The stages of grief typically include sadness, shock, remorse, withdrawal, and acceptance. Don’t be too alarmed if your friend experiences all of these, or if they go away and then come back.
    • Everyone grieves differently, so try not to be judgmental of your friend’s process. If, however, they seem to be paralyzed by their grief and do not seem to be getting any better, consider suggesting that they see a grief counselor.
    • If your friend has lost someone close to them, it may help them grieve if you help them plan a memorial of some kind.
  2. how to comfort a broken heart Listen.

    Sharing their feelings will help your friend heal their broken heart, so make sure they know you are there to listen to them whenever they need you. Be a good listener and let your friend talk for as long as they want.

    • Be sure to tell your friend that you are willing to listen. They may really want to talk, but be worried about burdening you.
    • Reach out to your friend as soon as you hear about what happened and let them know you’re thinking about them. You can let them know then that you are willing to listen, but don’t take offense if they don’t feel like talking yet.
    • Avoid giving advice unless your friend asks for it. Your friend may just feel like venting.
    • If your friend doesn’t want to talk, encourage them to write their thoughts down in a journal.
    • It’s okay to ask questions about what happened, especially if you are close friends. Doing so will help you understand what they are going through and how you can help.
  3. how to comfort a broken heart Be empathetic.

    Let your friend know that you care about their feelings and want to help them through this tough time. Instead of passing judgment, simply acknowledge their pain and tell them you are sorry that they have to experience it.

    • Always express simple condolences by saying something like, “I’m sorry for your loss.”
    • If your friend is going through a breakup, don’t feel like you need to say anything negative about their ex to make them feel better. Instead of saying something like, “They were a jerk and you’re better off without them,” just acknowledge the sense of loss your friend is feeling by saying, “It must be really hard to lose someone you cared about so much.”
    • It also typically does not help to try to show your friend the silver lining of their situation. Instead of saying, “Everything happens for a reason,” just say, “I’m sorry about what you’re going through. How can I help?”
    • Don’t tell your friend that whatever happened happened for a reason. You run the risk of trivializing their pain if you say something like this.
  4. how to comfort a broken heart Check up on your friend.

    Heartbreak can stick around for a long time, so don’t expect your friend to be fine after a day or two. Check in on them regularly and ask them how they are feeling. Always remind them that you are there to help and support them however they need.

    • Don’t wait for them to reach out to you. They may really need you, but they may not be feeling up to making contact.
    • Call your friend, text them, or leave them a note to let them know you’re thinking about them. Depending on how close the two of you are, you may want to do this every day or every few days until they seem to be feeling a little better.
    • Call at strategic times to show your friend that you are thinking about them. For example, if a loved one has just passed away, you shouldn’t call during the funeral, but it would be nice to call that evening or the next day to see how your friend is doing.
    • When you check in on your friend, be sure to remind them that you’re there for them if they feel like talking.
  5. how to comfort a broken heart Offer to help out with small things.

    If your friend is so down in the dumps that they have been neglecting everyday tasks, offer to help them out. For example, bring them some groceries or visit them to help out with math homework.

    • If your friend declines your help, let them know it’s an open invitation.
    • If you are close friends, consider surprising them with something unexpected, like having a pizza delivered to their house.
    • Consider inviting them over for a meal. This will help them get the nourishment they need and it will get them out of the house, which will probably be good for them.
  6. how to comfort a broken heart Don’t push it.

    While it’s great that you want to help your friend, there’s only so much you can do. You need to allow your friend to grieve in their own way and give them the time they need to get past their pain. Don’t expect them to bounce back right away or try to force them to get over it.

    • Remember that during this time your friend may seem a little selfish and may not be the best friend to you. Try to be understanding and look past this. They will be back to their old selves eventually.
    • Take small steps when encouraging your friend to be active. If they aren’t comfortable going to a party, ask them if they want to come over and watch a movie with you.

Part 2 Helping Your Friend Move On

  1. how to comfort a broken heart Tell your friend how strong they are.

    Your friend might not be feeling very good about themselves right now, so it will help to remind them how incredibly strong and wonderful they are. Tell your friend everything you admire about them and let them know that these qualities are just what they need to get through this tough time.

    • Consider making a list of your friend’s best qualities. This may be just what they need to cheer them up.
    • Offer specific examples of why you think your friend is strong. Remind them of other difficult things they have dealt with in their life and tell them you are proud of how they handled them.
  2. how to comfort a broken heart Help them be independent.

    If your friend was used to doing everything with someone who is no longer in their life, such as an ex, they may feel like they needs that person in their life in order to function. Help your friend realize that they are perfectly capable of living a satisfying life without this person by encouraging them to do things with friends and by themselves.

    • This may involve helping your friend find new hobbies that won’t remind them of their ex or even helping them make some new friends. If most of the people that they used to spend time with are friends with their ex, try introducing them to some new people who don’t even know the ex.
    • If your friend has hobbies or activities that they used to enjoy, make sure they stick with them. This will really help them get their mind off of the breakup.
  3. how to comfort a broken heart Be active together.

    Physical activities can do wonders for the spirit, so try to get your friend moving. Any kind of exercise, whether it’s an organized sport or just fooling around, will do them good.

    • Consider inviting them to an exercise class with you.
    • If you can’t convince them to do anything too strenuous, see if they will go for a walk with you.
  4. how to comfort a broken heart Encourage them to seek professional help.

    If your friend is having an especially hard time coping with their broken heart, encourage them to talk to a therapist. A professional may be able to offer your friend the kind of support and encouragement that their loved ones simply cannot.

    • This is especially important if your friend feel suicidal or has been engaging in self-destructive behavior like doing drugs or hurting themselves. Your friend needs help, so make sure they get it!
    • A support group may also be an option, depending on what kind of heartbreak your friend is dealing with. This will give them the opportunity to talk to other people who know exactly what they are going through.

Part 3 Preventing Destructive Behavior

  1. how to comfort a broken heart Suggest a technology timeout.

    If your friend is going through a breakup, they may be itching to badmouth their ex or rant about it on social media, but this really won’t do them any good. Try to convince them to take some time away from social media and to keep the details of their relationship private. This will also help them avoid seeing anything that their ex and/or friends may have posted about the breakup.

    • A technology timeout may be appropriate for other kinds of heartbreak as well, especially if they are being overwhelmed by people expressing their sympathy.
  2. how to comfort a broken heart Discourage obsessive behavior.

    Some activities will just make your friend’s pain worse, so try to identify destructive habits that get your friend upset and discourage them from doing those things. Let them know how you feel about this and encourage them to stop the behavior.

    • Make sure your friend is not harassing their ex after a breakup. If they keep calling their ex or asking everyone they know about what their ex is doing, let them know that you are concerned.
    • If your friend just lost their job, discourage them from reading (or posting) negative reviews about their former company online.
  3. how to comfort a broken heart Watch out for unhealthy habits.

    It can be easy to neglect your health when you’re going through a tough time, so make sure your friend is not doing this. If you notice that they are not getting enough sleep, not eating properly, or has started drinking or taking drugs, express your concern and encourage them to make healthier choices.

    • Sit your friend down for a one-on-one intervention if you notice any of this behavior. They may not even realize what they are doing to themselves.
    • If you are really concerned about your friend, talk to other people who can help you help your friend. This is especially important if your friend is a minor. Their parents need to know about their destructive behavior.
  4. how to comfort a broken heart View rebound relationships with caution.

    There are mixed views on whether or not it is a good idea to get into a new relationship right after a breakup. If your friend is jumping into a new relationship right after breaking up with someone else, it may be a good idea to talk to them about their reasons for wanting to find a new partner so quickly.

    • If they are trying to fill the void left by their ex by getting into a relationship with someone who they wouldn’t ordinarily be interested in, the rebound relationship will probably cause them (and the person they are dating) more harm than good.
    • If, on the other hand, they feel ready to get back out there and seem to have a good understanding of what they are looking for in a partner, a new relationship may be just what they need.

Community Q&A

  • I am dating a girl who had a terrible breakup. She was so hurt she told me she cannot love anybody else. How best can I help her love again?

    wikiHow Contributor

    Treat her with love. Joke around with her. Show you love her and that she is valuable.

  • My friend just experienced a horrible break up, her girlfriend was using her to test her sexuality. I want to talk to her ex and let her know how I feel about this, but how?

    wikiHow Contributor

    If you don’t personally know your friend’s ex, it may be best to stay out of it, even though you care and are concerned for your friend. You never really know what was going on in the ex’s mind. She could have genuinely been attracted to your friend and after trying things out, she decided it wasn’t her thing. (Nothing wrong with that really.) She may not have intended to hurt your friend, she just didn’t have the same feelings. People have to go on dates first to decide if they want to continue to pursue the relationship. Being dumped hurts. Being supportive to your friend is more important than confronting her ex because it won’t change the outcome. You are a good, caring friend though.

  • What if I’ve fallen in love with my friend’s ex? I don’t want to ruin the friendship, what should I do?

    wikiHow Contributor

    It depends on how long they’ve been broken up and why they broke up. If it’s been a while and the breakup was fairly amicable, like if they just weren’t right for each other, you should tell your friend how you feel about the ex and see how she feels about the situation. If it was a very ugly breakup and she’s still not over it, you may lose the friendship if you purse the ex, you’ll just have to decide if it’s worth it.

  • I’m a girl and my best guy friend just got dumped by his girlfriend. He’s been visibly depressed for a while, but won’t open up. It hurts me to see him like this. What should I do to help him?

    wikiHow Contributor

    All you can do is be there for him. Go to the movies or hang out. Accept that it might hurt him worse to talk about it at the moment, and try to be patient. If you’re around, he will talk to you when he’s ready.

  • My best friend is far away from his girlfriend. He cries about her practically all the time, and I want to make him happy, but there’s one problem: I love him. What do I do, help him or help me?

    wikiHow Contributor

    Real love is sacrificial. Set yourself aside for the moment and focus on how to be a genuinely good friend. WikiHow’s article on

    how to make someone happy

    would be a good place to start looking for ideas on how to help him through this.

  • My friend recently broke up with her girlfriend. She has been really sad because she thinks her mom doesn’t care about her and she’s only just stopped cutting, I don’t know what to do.

    wikiHow Contributor

    If your friend has been cutting herself, that is not okay. It sounds like you are worried your friend may try to hurt herself again because of the recent breakup, which could be a trigger. Self-harm/ cutting can be a sign of depression and can indicate a risk for suicide. It sounds like your friend needs counseling to deal with some emotional pain. If you are really worried about your friend’s safety, you should talk to an adult you can trust or a school counselor. I know it’s really awkward to bring this up to someone, but I lost a friend to suicide who might still be here if I would have raised the alarms and gotten him help. Help your friend get the help she needs.

  • How do I help someone whose crush is dating someone else? I feel really bad for her, and I’ve tried a lot of these things.

    wikiHow Contributor

    Tell her that maybe he isn’t as great as she thought. There are many guys out there and she probably has time to find “the one”. Crushes come and go. Try and distract her from thinking about him. Be as kind as you can when doing the suggested or it might seem like you want to do the opposite of helping her.

  • My good friend just stopped talking to her ex about a month ago. He left the country and is now getting married in his country to someone else. She is devastated. What do I do?

    wikiHow Contributor

    Going to parties or social events can take her mind off of him, you can certainly comfort her in her time of heartbreak. but I would avoid things that remind her of him. The best thing is to just be there for her and time will eventually heal her.

  • My friend sent me a text with broken heart emoji, how should I deal with the situation?

    Ask her how she is and what’s up and let her know you are there for her.

  • My best friend has a crush on this guy and she found out that he likes this other girl and the girl likes him back. She is heart broken. What should I do?

    wikiHow Contributor

    There’s not much you can do besides being there for her and listening to her if she wants to talk about it. Remind her that there will be other guys, and that she has a lot of things to feel grateful for in her life. Bring her ice cream!

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  • If your friend wants to talk, let them talk. Make sure that you are truly listening. Do not interrupt.
  • You might find yourself in a tough situation if your friend is going through a breakup and you are friends with the ex as well. It’s important to talk with your friends about their expectations so they won’t end up getting angry with you for for talking to their ex in the future.

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When you’re coping with heartbreak, you need warmth and simplicity. These words of comfort and simple tips on how to mend a broken heart will help you heal. Here, you’ll discover how to walk away from a relationship that you thought would always be there.

“My boyfriend is emotionally unavailable and struggles with alcoholism,” says Miranda on How to Let Go of Someone You Love. “Since the start it’s been a completely unhealthy relationship and I never felt loved or secure. But we have lots of history, we’ve known each other since we were young. He can be so nice and sweet and make me laugh more than anyone ever could. But I know it’s not enough. I know we need to break up but how do I stop crying? I feel like my life is slipping away and I’m getting nowhere so I have to let him go. What advice do you have about how to mend a broken heart?”

You have to hold on to your belief that this relationship had to end, even though it’s breaking your heart. Have faith that your life had to take this turn, and one day you will wake up with a lighter heart and softer spirit. Trust God that this breakup was exactly what you needed, and you may never learn exactly how to mend a broken heart…but you will survive. Because you are stronger than you think and wiser than you know.

How to Mend a Broken Heart

We have to go down before we can go up. So, know that:

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Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you’ll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let anything stand in your way.” – Janet Fitch.

Part of being human is having a broken heart. We all have holes in our souls, and there is no single comfort food or tip on how to mend a broken heart that will fix the angst that comes with simply being alive.

That’s depressing, isn’t it? But it’s the truth. There is a great deal of beauty and goodness in the world, and I am a joyful person. But I also believe that we all live with broken hearts. Being in a relationship might distract us, but only for a little while. Being in love is awesome, but love fades and changes.

Being broken-hearted is a temporary condition. Don’t let it stand in your way of being happy, healing, and whole. Don’t let your broken heart stop you from Blossoming into the woman God created you to be.

1. Stop thinking “if only I had…”

You may have tons of regrets.

“If only we didn’t break up, if only I felt better about myself, if only I had more money, if only I lived in Canada, if only I wasn’t 38, if only my mother didn’t do that…” You’re not alone – everyone has “if onlys.” I’ve got heaps of ‘em, and all they do is hold me back. Part of the grief process after a relationship ends is not allowing the “if onlys” to overtake your life.

“You basically have two choices: learn to like your current circumstances or change them,” writes Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Ph.D. in Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life. She explains that learning to like your circumstances involves changing your actions or thoughts to be happier. Or, change your circumstances by getting a new job, a new place to live, a new lifestyle, or new friends. In the aftermath of a breakup, learning how to mend a broken heart is about living with grief until you find the wisdom that comes with growth and healing.

2. Find healthy ways to comfort and console yourself

You’re wounded. You are sad and scared and bewildered. You can’t believe he broke up with you, and you think you’ll never get over him. Your heart is broken, your spirit crushed, your dreams shattered.

Give yourself time to grieve your loss. Don’t think about how to get over him or how to get him back. Just weep. Allow yourself to suffer. Something really bad happened to you – this breakup may be one of the hardest thing things you’ve ever faced. Don’t rush into healing or trying to get your ex-boyfriend back. Instead, just be sad. Comfort yourself like you would comfort a lonely little girl who was left out of a party. One of the best tips on how to heal from a broken heart is to be kind and gentle with yourself as you grieve.

3. Connect the only pure source of life, light, and love

Mending a Broken Heart

Whether you believe in God, Jesus, or a more abstract Guiding Force in the Universe – connect with your higher power. Stop fearing and cursing the darkness…and start lighting your candles. The grief process after a relationship ends will lighten if you start journaling, meditating, praying, and reading books about finding and expressing the healthiest part of yourself. This will help strengthen your connection to the voice within. Spiritual exercise is like physical exercise; it strengthens your body and your relationship with Something Greater Than Yourself – who wants the best for you.

“It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness,” said Eleanor Roosevelt. When you’re mending a broken heart, you mustn’t wish it didn’t happen. Instead, find ways to heal and grow.

4. Take a break from relationships

Give yourself time to learn how to mend a broken heart. You probably won’t find the answers you need in a single article on healing after a breakup or even a dozen books on getting over the loss of a relationship. It takes time and self-care to heal. And, one of the most important components of self-care is space and freedom.

“Avoid going from one love relationship to another too quickly. Take some time to mend your heart – which means no dating and no sex for a number of months,” says psychologist and relationship coach Jan Hoistad, author of Romance Rehab: 10 Steps to Rescue Your Relationship. “Take this opportunity to learn about yourself, your part in the breakup, and about healthy love relationships in general. We often learn the most when we are in great pain. A broken heart can motivate us toward change if we don’t wallow in it or in self-pity.”

5. Don’t jump to conclusions about yourself

Right now, you and he aren’t meant to be together. Something happened to end your relationship. It’s not your fault that your boyfriend or husband wants to move on; it’s just the way things are. It’s not about your appearance, personality, job, clothes, or life goals. You and he simply aren’t a good fit.

Think about that for a second…do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t think you’re the right one for him? No, of course you don’t. You are hurt, but deep down you know you can’t be with a guy who doesn’t love you. You deserve more than that. Don’t rush into critical judgments about yourself, your personality, your body. Instead, heal your broken heart by refusing to accept false conclusions about yourself.

6. Pay attention to your heart, but don’t take its advice

On my article about recovering from broken promises in a relationship, Tam says she listened to her treacherous heart for far too long. She didn’t think she’d ever get over her boyfriend, so she stayed with him. Actually, she broke up with him and then took him back even though she knew it wasn’t the right thing to do.

How to Mend a Broken Heart

“After four years, he cheated on me with a friend,” says Tam. “I ended the relationship, and he tried for four months to get back together. I took him back, even though everyone told me not to. Now, seven months later, I regret getting back with him. I still love him, but the trust is gone. I had a gut feeling he was cheating before, and I believe he’ll cheat again. But he is so convincing and manipulative that I stay.”

Tam said she wishes she would’ve stayed strong and not let her boyfriend work his way back into her life. But she got back together with him and she regrets it. She wishes she would’ve tried harder to learn how to mend a broken heart.

7. Avoid all contact with your ex

On 8 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore Linda says, “I want to get my ex boyfriend back and I can’t stay off his Facebook page. He told me he doesn’t want me in his life. How do I cope with this? It hurts so bad. How do I get over him?”

Social media sites like Facebook and Twitter will make it more difficult to mend a broken heart. For instance, I’m friends on Facebook with my niece and ex-brother-in-law, and they sometimes mention my sister (who stopped talking to me about 10 years ago). I feel rejected, sad, and bad about myself when I hear news of my sister – especially when I’m on Facebook at night. That’s when my defenses are down, I’m tired and have no emotional resources left.

Eventually I realized the connection between Facebook and feeling depressed…so I stopped going on Facebook at night. Now, I log on to Facebook once every couple of months – and I don’t miss it! It was a scab that I finally stopped picking, and I’m much happier not getting new information about a family member who hurt me so badly.

How to Let Go of Someone You Love

I wrote How to Let Go of Someone You Love after my sister stopped talking to me. I was in so much pain – I couldn’t seem to let her go – so I interviewed counselors and grief experts on how to mend a broken heart.

The best way to get through something like the pain of heartbreak is to refuse to go through it alone. Instead of continuing to fight your way through the brambles and dark patches, take my hand. Let’s walk each other home.

May you find healing and comfort from your loved ones, pets, healthy activities, and God. I pray for strength, faith, and hope that surpasses all grief and pain that your relationship is over. I pray you stop searching for tips on how to mend a broken heart because you finally feel comfortable accepting and surrendering to your life as it is.

I hope these thoughts have given you a different perspective on mending your broken heart. I shared ideas for comforting yourself, giving yourself time to think, and paying attention to – but not following – your treacherous heart.

What is one word that describes how you feel right now? Tell me in the comments section below; you can write more than a word if you’d like. Sometimes it’s helpful to just bundle all your feelings into a word. Feel free to share your thoughts on these simple ways to mend a broken heart, and even your memories of your relationship. I can’t offer advice, but you may find it helpful to write.

How have you coped with breakups and loss in the past? Remembering how you survived and healed can help you move forward. And remember: as terrible as you feel right now, you could be trapped in a relationship with a man who refuses to love you and refuses to let you go.

Your thoughts on how to mend a broken heart are welcome below.

xo

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how to comfort a broken heartWhen a couple goes through a breakup at least one person usually ends up with a broken heart. It isn’t that easy to just move on and pretend like the past relationship never happened. You are left thinking of what could have been; these thoughts can lead to frustration, anger and a deep sense of sadness.

Although it is quite difficult to avoid being broken hearted when you are surprised and don’t see the breakup coming, it is possible to put certain actions in place in order to quickly feel better. In this article we will provide you with a few tips to enable you to move on and overcome a broken heart.

Stay active and exercise

Feelings, emotions and our well-being are closely tied to how we feel physically. It is in fact possible to get rid of negative emotions through exercise and by being active. One does not need to prepare for a marathon in order to overcome a broken heart; however it is possible to contain stress and negativity by going to the gym or going for a jog. So when you start to get overwhelmed by your emotions don’t hesitate to be as active as possible and to go exercise in order to overcome a broken heart!

Fill your schedule and set weekly goals

It is of the utmost importance that you stay as busy as possible in the days and weeks following a breakup. Sadness can lead to inactivity which in turn can create anxiety and a feeling of depression. In order to ensure that you quickly overcome a broken heart you need to fill your schedule and have as little down time as possible. The goal once again is to be in a situation where you don’t overthink a given situation and lament yourself.

In order to be as structured as possible we often suggest that you set daily and weekly goals that can enable you to stay on track and quantify your growth. This process will ultimately help you to feel better about your current circumstances as you will be able to reap the rewards that come with accomplishing what you set out to do; there is magic in reaching a goal that you set for yourself.

Push your comfort zone and meet new people

Another way to quickly overcome a broken heart is to push the limits of your comfort zone as much as possible and also to meet new people. Meeting new people will enable you to bring new energies into your life and thus be in a new dynamic that enables positive changes. You will also be in a position to reinvent yourself and to approach new relationships that will be free of the emotional baggage linked to your past.

The idea of meeting new people falls under the principle of pushing your comfort zone. In order to overcome a broken heart it will take effort. Pushing your comfort zone will train you to put effort geared towards your own well-being. This will eventually become natural to you and will make it easier for you to do certain things in your everyday life that can contribute to you moving on quickly.

Go out with friends, especially of the opposite gender

It is very important to be surrounded by people and especially by friends that we trust following a breakup. We are social creatures who need to interact with others in order to fully exist. This is even truer after a breakup. By forcing yourself to go out or be with your friends you will unconsciously trigger a healing process; one that is put in place by the love, security and affection that you will get from interacting with friends.

To take this process further it would be good for you to go out with friends of the opposite gender; as well as with your friends’ friends. By doing so you will enlarge your network of acquaintances and you will go through a crash course of sorts by interacting with the other gender. It is a process that can do wonders when coming out of bad breakup or when looking to overcome a broken heart.

You don’t even need to be looking for a new relationship during this process; simply look to engage with others and be genuinely interested in learning more about them. At the same time you should look to fully open up yourself while meeting these new people and they will in turn unconsciously help you to overcome a broken heart!

Develop new hobbies

Staying on the idea of developing new hobbies, it can be very stimulating to learn new things. This is another terrific means to regenerate your soul, body and mind; you will challenge yourself and grow, meet new people and stay busy.

I am often asked for suggestions during coaching sessions so I will share a few with you: you can dance salsa, engage in community service for a cause that speaks to you with children or in hospitals for instance. By giving some of your time and love, you can quickly overcome a broken heart because such a process is very emotionally rewarding more often than not.

Spend time figuring out your life project

We often talk about developing a life project in our blog articles and during our coaching session. A life project refers to a long term goal or an aspiration that you seek to devote your life too. It equates to living with purpose; having a higher purpose or something that gets you out of bed in the morning. Perhaps you have already found what your life project is and if so we would suggest that you spend even more time and effort in making this dream possible.

If you have never thought about having a life goal, take some time to really think things through and to figure out what speaks to you. Thinking about your life project and the pursuit of accomplishing something that can be unattainable for the rest of your life can immediately give you the necessary perspective needed to move on to bigger and better things and ultimately overcome a broken heart!

Sign up on dating websites

If you are seeking to meet someone else don’t hesitate to join dating websites and to put yourself out there. Even if you don’t end up meeting your soul mate, putting yourself out there and having the willingness to look can only be beneficial to you. Having someone in sight or even simply looking to meet new people can lead you to stop thinking about your breakup and overcome a broken heart.

As you will have understood in order to quickly move on you need to stay active, to work out and to stretch your comfort zone while putting yourself out there and meeting new people! If you are able to carry out this advice you will be in the best possible position to overcome a broken heart. If you have any other advice or suggestions for other readers do not hesitate to leave your thoughts in the comments section below. The love coach team will answer every comment received!

Your coach to overcome a broken heart,

Adrian

www.withmyexagain.com

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