God help me to stop drinking

Alcohol and food are what I have used in my life as an anti-anxiety, antidepressant.

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And how well have pleasures put an end to your anxiety and depression? Making yourself feel nicer does not make our deep problems go away.

Will I lose my salvation if

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I think this can be a decoy question. Satan can want you to commit yourself to deciding there will be no hope for you if you do a certain thing; then he will drive you to do it, so then you will decide there is no hope for you.

Tomorrow I’ll ask forgiveness

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I understand that part of the package deal of forgiveness is how our Father expects us to forgive, also > the way He has so generously forgiven us

“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)

This does not mean only that we make ourselves “saved” by doing “works” of forgiving. This means we have trusted in Jesus (Ephesians 1:12) and now we are seeking our Father’s correction (Hebrews 12:4-11, James 4:7, Colossians 3:15) so He makes us loving like this, and in this love is His forgiveness. We truly benefit from His forgiveness by living in His love for any and all people > because God’s forgiveness lives in His love So, forgiveness includes how we are loving while we forgive!!!

Therefore, you need to deny yourself, and take up the cross of all-loving love, and not be concerned mainly or only about your own self > Luke 9:23-24.

DiscipleHeLovesToo said:

old things have passed away (2Cor 5:17), including the reasons that you are anxious and depressed.

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Yes, if I understand this right . . . God will change you out of what makes you deeply able to be anxious and depressed. God’s love makes us strong against fear and personality torments which are because of fear > 1 John 4:17-18 > so, we need to be corrected and grow in how to be in God’s love, caring about any and all people as ourselves, instead of being tormented mainly or only about me, myself, and I.

DiscipleHeLovesToo said:

if you were reborn in Christ, then you still are – but this doesn’t mean that your thinking and actions change automatically simply because you’ve received spiritual rebirth.

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“if” we are > Paul says for us to examine ourselves to make sure about if we are in the faith > 2 Corinthians 13:5 > and I trust this examination to our Heavenly Father who is more honest than we are, and He cares about us better than we care about our own selves. When I have messed-up in sin, I have offered myself to God to be the Judge of what to do with me. And I got peace with encouragement to love and forgive any and all others, and have compassion on them, and keep seeking His correction of my character so I become more genuinely loving and not so able to sin. He has had mercy on me, and now He expects me to have mercy on others, as He has had mercy on me.

DiscipleHeLovesToo said:

salvation is a life-long process where you overcome those things in this life that bind you and steal your life – such as drinking to excess to stop feelings of fear and depression. the way you overcome these things is by focusing on God’s word – renewing your mind with His words of life and peace will remove the fear and fill you with Joy – then the excessive drinking will stop as a side effect (Rom 2:1,2; 2Cor 10:3-6).

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Very good, I would say And as you grow in God’s way of loving, there will be other things . . . even things which are not actually wrong . . . which will drop away because they won’t mean so much to you as the loving you will be discovering with God and our Jesus family people and in caring for ones who need Jesus. Learning how to love is the most interesting and beneficial challenge and investment >

“‘Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'” (Matthew 11:28-29)

Note how Jesus calls to “all”, here > so, Jesus has hope for “all”, and this includes you

And learning takes time, “a life-long process” . . . like your mother and Disciple He Loves, Too have said; go God bless you and we are praying for you


Giving up alcohol is not easy, especially for someone who is a heavy drinker. The first step in the recovery from alcoholism is recognizing that there is a problem. The next step is figuring out how to overcome the dependence on alcoholic drinks. What is the best way to quit drinking? Many people with a drinking problem are not comfortable going to a support group such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Not everyone can afford professional help at an expensive rehab clinic. But there are alternative ways of giving up alcohol. It is possible to quit drinking alcohol, quietly, in the dignity of your own home. Some simple strategies can help a recovering alcoholic beat the bottle without spending a lot of money.

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Social Drinking versus Alcoholism: How to Tell the Difference

According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Association, there are nearly 140 million people in the United States who consume alcoholic beverages. Of these, about 17 million are heavy drinkers and have a problem with abuse. Excessive intake of alcoholic drinks is associated with a number of serious medical problems, including liver and brain damage, heart disease, and complications with the fetus in pregnant women. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that there are approximately 88,000 alcohol-related deaths in America each year. Binge drinkers, underage drinkers, and heavy drinkers are at highest risk.

People who drink often do not know whether they are social drinkers or there is a need for alcohol cessation. Some of the warning signs of dependence on alcoholic drinks are when a person:

  • begins to skip exercising
  • neglects to eat a healthy diet
  • drinks more than anyone in their family or social circle
  • cannot have fun without alcohol
  • needs a progressively greater number of drinks to feel high
  • misses important deadlines at school or work
  • does not meet social obligations
  • feels uncomfortable at the thought of not having access to alcohol
  • often ends up drinking more than intended
  • starts drinking in the morning
  • starts drinking alone
  • relies on alcohol as a form of stress relief
  • needs more drinks to feel high
  • has escalated the number of drinks since first starting to drink
  • suffers blackouts after drinking sessions

Admitting the Problem: The First Step in Alcoholism Recovery

The hardest part of getting sober is not the actual quitting, or even the withdrawal symptoms during rehab, it’s admitting there is a problem and making an attempt to do something about it. For many people who are struggling with alcohol abuse, denial is a substantial part of the addiction. Breaking out of this self-deception is the key to recovery. Some people hit rock bottom and get into financial and legal difficulties before they accept they have a problem. Others are lucky enough to realize they have an addiction before they reach a low point.

Is it simply social drinking or is it a dependency on alcoholic beverages? If someone drinks one light beer every day, is it alcoholism? Or is someone who binge drinks a few times a year at greater risk of dependency? Unfortunately, there is no black and white answer to this question. There is a large gray area between being a full-blown alcoholic and being well on the way to becoming one. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism recommends limiting alcohol use to 7-14 drinks per week in men and women, respectively. Some of the signs that there is a serious problem with the abuse of alcoholic drinks include:

  • Constantly thinking about alcoholism and wondering if there is a problem
  • Сomparing one’s drinking patterns to others
  • Taking online tests to find out whether there is a dependency

The one important question everyone must ask themselves is: Can I imagine life without alcohol? If the answer is no, it signals a problem.

How to Quit Alcohol: Simple Habits to Stop Drinking

Quitting alcohol does not have to involve an inpatient stay at a private clinic or endless sessions with a support group. For the majority of moderate drinkers, some simple changes in habits and lifestyle can help cut down the use of alcoholic beverages.

  • Do not make alcohol a major part of social life
  • Tell family and friends of the intent to reduce or quit drinking
  • Avoid going to places where it is habitual to drink (for example, bars, restaurants)
  • Socialize without alcohol, such as at group exercise classes or team sports
  • Avoid hanging out with friends or colleagues who are heavy drinkers
  • Identify triggers for alcohol use and develop strategies to cope
  • Learn relaxation techniques to deal with stress
  • Stop stocking alcoholic drinks at home
  • Talk to a trusted friend or family member when there is an urge to drink

Simple Techniques to Quit Drinking Without AA

Alcoholism is a disease and overcoming it takes a steadfast determination. Heavy drinkers develop a chemical dependence on alcoholic drinks which have an effect on the neurotransmitters in the brain. When there is excessive use of alcoholic beverages, over time, the brain is falsely lead to believe that it is not possible to survive without alcohol.

There is no one best way to stop drinking. Different strategies work for different people. However, some simple techniques can help people to quit drinking without AA or professional help. The four-step technique described below is an easy way to stop drinking.

  • Committing to abstinence:  Once a person understands that alcohol is not needed to survive, they need to make a commitment to quit for good. It is not unusual to feel angry, depressed, panicky, or uneasy when this decision is first made. For the first few days of abstinence, rest and sleep may be difficult to come by. In habitual drinkers, the brain develops a chemical dependency and must be rewired to operate without alcohol. Repeating the words “I will not drink again” and “I do not need alcoholic drinks to survive” can be helpful.
  • Objectifying the cravings:  When there is a craving, instead of pouring out a drink, the person attempting recovery should objectify the feeling. This can be achieved by repeating the words “my booze brain wants a drink but my body doesn’t need it.” The neurons in the brain become used to receiving the buzz from alcoholic beverages. It takes some time for them to calm down and return to a normal state. During this timeframe, it is important for the recovering alcoholic to divert the mind when there is the urge to reach for a beer or a glass of wine.
  • Responding to urges:  When someone is trying to quit drinking without Alcoholics Anonymous or other help, it is critical to respond to urges with a firm no. The key is to gain control of the brain instead of giving in. When friends offer a drink, respond with “No thanks, I’ve stopped drinking.” Over time, the number of urges reduce as the brain stops seeking drinks. It is a good idea for the recovering alcoholic to stay away from heavy drinkers in the social circle during this time.
  • Enjoying recovery from dependence:  For a person trying to overcome alcoholism, learning to enjoy life without the chemical buzz can be a challenge. It is vital not to sit at home and focus on how to quit drinking alcohol. The human brain needs to remain occupied. It is a good idea to rediscover forgotten hobbies, reignite lost friendships, and reinvest in getting healthier.

How to Stop Drinking Alcohol Safely

When a person quits cold turkey, the first 72 hours of abstinence from alcohol are the toughest. This is the most difficult part of recovery as the body tries to reestablish a chemical balance. This period of acute withdrawal can be unpleasant. Some people, especially heavy drinkers and people who have been drinking for a long time, require professional help to get through this phase of rehab.

It is not unusual to feel anxious, restless, excited, or shaky when quitting. For severe symptoms, such as high blood pressure, tremors, seizures, and signs suggestive of delirium tremens, it is imperative to seek medical attention. To safely detox at home, it is a good idea to enlist the support of family and friends and consider taking some time off work. It is also important at this time to focus on a balanced healthy diet and stay well hydrated.

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