Blessing for mother to be and baby

Compiled by Melanie Gray (TCM apprentice) and Kate Hogan, CPM, LM

A blessingway is a woman-centered celebration of the journey into motherhood. It is different from a baby shower in that it focuses on the femininity and power that comes through growing a baby and giving birth. The blessingway is often segmented into several ceremonies that have been adapted from the traditional Navajo’s sacred fertility rites. These ceremonies bring the women in attendance together through sharing blessings or poems for the mother, singing or chanting, and symbolic rites such as smudging the space with burnt herbs, a yarn ceremony where everyone is connected to the mother through yarn and then the yarn bracelet is worn until the baby is born, and a bead ceremony where every woman brings a bead that is strung together into a necklace or bracelet to remind the mother of all of her power and strength during labor and birth.

Looking for more ideas on what to include at a Blessingway? Check out our post on that very topic to learn more. 

This blog post is a compilation of several poems and readings that may be shared during the blessingway. A few of them we have had the honor of hearing recently at very special blessingways of two of our very own mamas-to-be!

This image, called “Blessings” was painted by Veronica Petrie, and is available through her Etsy shop, The Painted Forest. I think it is a beautiful image of the community and web of support that women build for each other at Blessingways. -Kate

Chant of the Pregnant Goddess

by Jana McCarthy I am the mother of the moon

sister of the stars
child of the light in your eyes.
I am powerful.
The geometry of my shape shifts
from gently curved lines
to expanding circles:
earth, moon, sun.
I am powerful.
I am strong.
The tempo of my vibration quickens,
increasing from
butterfly wings, to floundering fish,
to beating drum,
erupting volcano,
the rhythm as old and constant as
the cycles of the sun
and the turn of the tides.

I am powerful.
I am strong.
I am beautiful.

I hold the hope of my ancestors
the knowledge of my time
the fate of my future.

I am powerful.
I am strong.
I am beautiful.
I am mother.

Willow Tree

Anonymous

I am a willow tree,
Strong, yet fluid

graceful.

I can bend with the wind,
but my roots are tough,

indestructible.

Opening to birth my child
is flowing with the wind:

from a soft and gentle breeze
to a stormy gale
back to a soft and gentle breeze.

My body is strong, but flexible.
It is my friend, it knows how to open.
I am a friend to my body

eating well, walking, and loving myself.

I shall birth safely, freely, openly . . .

among my loved and trusted ones.

I am the willow, flexible

beautiful resilient
endowed with the power of surrender

to the wind rustling through my leaves,

my branches.

My roots reach deep into Mother Earth
Anchored in Her strength
I bring forth life

In joy!

The Candle

by Barbara Harper “Gentle Birth Choices” (Imagine that your pelvis is a candle with a flame in the middle)

As my contractions come, the flame burns brighter.
My body is the wax of the candle, warming and yielding to the flame.
The more I breathe, the brighter the candle burns.
The wax melts and drips with each contraction.
My body becomes looser and opens to the flame.
I see my pelvis becoming soft and warm and pliable.
I breathe. With each contraction, the candle becomes softer.
I melt with the candle.
My breath helps the candle burn brighter, melting quicker.
I remain soft, warm, and yielding.

A Prayer for One Who Comes to Choose This Life

by Danelia Wild May she know the welcome

of open arms and hearts
May she know she is loved
by many and by one
May she know the circle of friendship that gives
and receives love in all its forms
May she know and be known
in the heart of another
May she know the heart
that is this earth
reach for the stars and
call it home
And in the end
may she find everything
in her heart
and her heart
in everything

Mother Rising: The Blessingway Journey into Motherhood:
from talkbirth.me

Blessed be this gathering with the gifts of the East: communication of the heart, mind, and body; fresh beginnings with each rising of the sun; the knowledge of the growth found in sharing silences.

Blessed be this gathering with the gifts of the South: warmth of hearth and home; the heat of the heart’s passion; the light to illuminate the darkest of times.

Blessed be this gathering with the gifts of the West: the lake’s deep commitments; the river’s swift excitement; the sea’s breadth of knowing.

Blessed be this gathering with the gifts of the North: firm foundation on which to build; fertile fields to enrich our lives; a stable home to which we may always return.

Fear Release for Birth:

from talkbirth.me There goes all fear you hold about giving birth. The birth will be perfect.

There goes all fear you hold about healing. You will heal beautifully
There goes all fear you hold about not being a good mother. You will be enough.
There goes all fear of never being creative again. You have a deep well of creativity within your soul.
There goes the deepest, most private fears you have about giving birth. You will be enough.
You will be enough. You are strong enough.

Birth Blessing

by Natalie Evans Close your eyes and breathe deep

Breathe in peace, breathe out pain
Imagine your feet
Toes curling into dirt
Think of yourself as rooted
Think of your place in the earth
How did you come to be here?
Through generations of women named
A maternal lineage
That brought you to this place
Think of their birth stories
What you know, what you believe to be true
Realize that their births carry deep wisdom
Some may carry the memory of joy and transcendence
Each birth is a powerful experience
Each birth traces down to you.
Just as you pass this knowledge on to your baby
Understand that your birth is your own
It will be different from all others
Like the swirls in your thumb
Your birth will have a unique pattern
Unfolding with each contraction
Rising and falling like a newborn’s chest
This birth belongs to you
This birth is an opening
This birth is the end and a beginning
May this blessing of birth come to you without fear
May this blessing of birth come to you with great understanding
My this blessing of birth make your heart soar
May this blessing of birth bring shouts of delight to your lips
Blessings to you and your birth.

Blessingway Poem

written by Bridget Sabo, for her sister’s Blessingway Emily , sister, daughter, friend,

You are about to give birth not only to your baby but to another role for yourself: mother.
We extend our hands out to you, as strong, loving, patient and wise women,
to hold you and to bless you as you become a mother.
Hands are a mother’s primary tool.
They caress, clean, lift, tie, cook.
They can tell a fever with a touch.
They braid hair and bandage scrapes.
They offer comfort, peace, refuge.
We offer our hands now to both you and your baby.
May you feel held and supported by them as you labor to bring your baby into the world.
May you reach out for them in those first, hard, beautiful weeks of motherhood.
May you hold them in love and friendship and joy as we continue to walk this journey of life as women together.

A huge thanks to these next two beautiful poems from Brook Holmberg from Boreal Birth.

For A Mother-to-Be By John O’Donohue, from the book To Bless the Space Between Us.

Nothing could have prepared your heart to open like this.

From beyond the skies and the stars
This echo arrived inside of you and started to pulse with life
Each beat a tiny act of growth,
Traversing all our ancient shapes,
On its way home to itself.

Once it began, you were no longer your own.
A new, more courageous you, offering itself
In a new way to a presence you can sense
But you have not seen or known.

It has made you feel alone
In a way you never knew before;
Everyone else sees only from the outside
What you feel and feed
With every fiber of your being.

Never have you traveled farther inward
Where words and thoughts become half-light
unable to reach the fund of brightness
Strengthening inside the night of your womb.

Like some primeval moon,
Your soul brightens
The tides of essence
That flow to your child.

You know your life has changed forever,
For in all the days and years to come,
Distance will never be able to cut you off
From the one you now carry
For nine months under your heart.

May you be blessed with quiet confidence
That destiny will guide you and mind you.

May the emerging spirit of your child
Imbibe encouragement and joy
From the continuous music of your heart,
So that it can grow with ease,
Respectant of wonder and welcome when its form is fully filled

And it makes it journey out
To see you and settle at last
Relieved and glad in your arms.

For a New Father
By John O’Donohue, from the book To Bless the Space Between Us.

As the shimmer of dawn transforms the night
Into a blush of color futured with delight,
The eyes of your new child awaken in you
A brightness that surprises you life.

Since the first stir of its secret becoming,
The echo of your child has lived inside of you,
Strengthening through all its night of forming
Into a sure pulse of fostering music.

How quietly and gently that embryo-echo
Can womb in the bone of a man
And foster across the distance to the mother
A shadow-shelter around the fragile voyage.

Now as you behold your infant, you know
That this child has come from you and to you;
You feel the full force of a father’s desire
To protect and shelter.

Perhaps for the first time,
There awakens in you
A sense of your own mortality.

May your heart rest in the grace of the gift
And you sense how you have been called
Inside the dream of this new destiny.

May you be gentle and loving,
Clear and sure.

May you trust in the unseen providence
That has chosen you all to be a family.

May you stand sure on your ground
And know that every grace you need
Will unfold before you
Like all the mornings of your life.

A big thanks to Jess Helle-Morrissey of Metta Therapy for sharing these two gems with us.

Being Born

by Carl Sandburg

Being born is important
You who have stood at the bedposts
and seen a mother on her high harvest day,
the day of the most golden of harvest moons for her.

You who have seen the new wet child
dried behind the ears,
swaddled in soft fresh garments,
pursing its lips and sending a groping mouth
toward nipples where white milk is ready.

You who have seen this love’s payday
of wild toiling and sweet agonizing.

You know being born is important.
You know that nothing else was ever so important to you.
You understand that the payday of love is so old,
So involved, so traced with circles of the moon,
So cunning with the secrets of the salts of the blood.
It must be older than the moon, older than salt.

Ordinary Miracle

by Barbara Kingsolver

I have mourned lost days
When I accomplished nothing of importance.
But not lately.
Lately under the lunar tide
Of a woman’s ocean, I work
My own sea-change:
Turning grains of sand to human eyes.
I daydream after breakfast
While the spirit of egg and toast
Knits together a length of bone
As fine as a wheatstalk.
Later, as I postpone weeding the garden
I will make two hands
That may tend a hundred gardens.

I need ten full moons exactly
For keeping the animal promise.
I offer myself up: unsaintly, but
Transmuted anyway
By the most ordinary miracle.
I am nothing in this world beyond the things one woman does.
But here are eyes that once were pearls.
And here is a second chance where there was none.

Birth Poems
Check out these gorgeous birth poems on the TCM blog.

Blooma Love Notes
I also have to add this amazing collection of quotes and love notes from Blooma that would be a great addition to any blessingway.

We would love to continue adding to our compilation of blessingway poems and blessings. Please share your favorites below!

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The best baby food ever made is Breast Milk of mother, nothing can beat breast milk be it best nutritious food/ diet or formula milk. Breast feeding is an excellent medicine for newly born babies because of it immunological and psychological benefits.

It not only benefits the baby but the  feeding mother also gets the benefits from breast feeding, because the joy of feeding your baby makes the baby-mother bond stronger.. Moreover the breast milk is cost effective and perfectly nutritious in its contents.

Breast feeding is a learned skill not an acquired one so you need to learn it patiently and efficiently, so that they baby gets the best from the mother. Learning to breastfeed might sometimes get irritating and uncomfortable due to many problems, but do not lose patience and devote time on you and baby and rest will follow naturally.

Breast feeding first of all saves you from all the hassles of making milk, washing and sterilising milk bottles; it is always available without any effort.
Mothers’ milk is the best medicine for the baby to develop immune factors enzymes, white blood cells and antibodies and make immunity system strong.

If a breast feeding mother suffers from any illness then she passes antibodies to fight the germs also to the baby thus baby develops immunity towards ear infections, diarrhoea, vomiting, certain type of spinal meningitis and urinary tract infections.

Children who drink formula milk are prone to childhood acute leukaemia than the babies who are breastfed. Doctors also suggest babies with eczema and allergies in family history to be breastfed as the antibodies to fight them get developed in babies from childhood through mother’s milk.

Researches suggest that breastfed babies have less risk of becoming obese later and breastfed girls have lower risk of developing breast cancer in later stages. Breastfed kids have higher OIQ level than formula fed. The breastfed child will have 5-10 points more IQ than formula milk fed child.

Moreover breast feeding, mothers tend to lose weight and burn calories as a result of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding also helps in shrinking of the uterus thus reducing the risk of developing premenopausal cancer, ovarian cancer or uterine cancer.

The best part of breast milk is that it is best suited to every child without any alterations or additions. Moreover we do not have to worry about its freshness, infection or temperature. It can be easily stored also.

Breast feeding saves your child from acute myeloid leukaemia and acute lymphoblastic leukaemia, research is still on about the link between breast milk and childhood cancers. Breastfeeding is an antidote against Type I Diabetes or insulin dependent diabetes in babies who are fed with breast milk for 6 months continuously.

A child can be protected from the risk of developing food or respiratory allergies by feeding breast milk for first 6 months. Breast milk also makes a child strong enough to fight Asthma by the age of 6.

Except for these physical benefits the best part of breastfeeding is the closeness mother and the baby share which develops a strong emotional bond for lifelong amongst them.

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Whether you decide to host an actual Mother Blessing (Blessingway), or just use these ideas for your baby shower, here are some activity suggestions. The host and the expecting mother should pick the ones that appeal the most and that will fit into the allotted time for the celebration. This is only a partial list and you certainly are welcome to adapt these suggestions and make up your own rituals!

Ideas For Mother Blessing Rituals

• A Birthing Necklace
• Birthing Wreath or Basket
• Foot Bath
• Hair Grooming
• Belly Casting
• Belly Painting
• Wrist Binding
• Meditation Stones

Mother Blessing Ritual: Birthing Necklace

The birthing necklace is the cornerstone of the Mother Blessing. It is intended for the mother to wear during labor to bring strength and all of the positive energy the trinkets in the necklace symbolize. If the mom-to-be does not think she will actually use or wear a birthing necklace, you can alternately create a birthing wreath or basket to have near her while she is in labor.

You will need:

• Guests who have brought beads or trinkets
• Leather, hemp, or cotton cord, from craft or bead supply store, at least 2 feet long (you can cut it to fit after all trinkets have been strung)
• Jewelry needle to thread beads onto necklace
• Small rings, craft wire, embroidery floss or ribbons to attach odd-sized beads or trinkets to necklace, from craft or beading supply store

How To Make A Birthing Necklace

On the invitation, ask each guest to bring a small trinket or bead that symbolizes their wish for the mother and baby in labor and birth. Emphasize that it will be used to make a necklace for the mother to wear during labor.

Before the Mother Blessing begins, cut a length of coated beading wire to make a full-length necklace and either tie a knot in one end, or

add a crimping bead or necklace clasp to the end. Thread the other end through a beading needle to make it easy to place the beads on it. Place the prepared necklace into a small bowl or basket so it can be passed easily around the room.

At the Mother Blessing, going clockwise around the circle, have each guest explain the significance of their bead as they place their bead on the necklace. Alternately, you can have everyone present their beads to the mother and place them in a bowl for someone string them on the necklace after the presentations. The result is a necklace full of good wishes for the mother to wear and focus on while she is in labor.

Make sure you finish the necklace with a knot or clasp before you place around the expecting mother’s neck.

Tips:

• Be prepared for people to bring very small, very large and odd shaped trinkets that may or may not have a hole which you can attach to the necklace with. For this purpose, have some small, keyring style rings to place any small beads or odd-sized trinkets on the necklace. You may also have to get creative with some beading thread, ribbons or craft wire to attach certain beads or trinkets. Just keep in mind that it is supposed to be worn, so make sure that there are no sharp wires sticking out anywhere. Mom will be in enough pain from the labor contractions!
• Emphasize on the invitation that the Birthing Necklace is meant to be worn during labor. I thought I had made that clear on my invitation, but our guests were surprised to learn that, yes, indeed, we were making an actual necklace to wear during labor. Some of them had brought some very well-intentioned pieces that just didn’t work on a necklace — especially one to be worn during the thrashing about of child labor! Emphasis on the “necklace to be worn during labor” may help reduce the number of odd-shaped and cumbersome-sized pieces. If you do receive some odd trinkets, put them on the necklace anyway. You do not want to break the chain of positive energy!

Mother Blessing Ritual: Birthing Wreath or Basket

Mother Blessing Birthing Wreath with Trinkets

The creation of a birthing wreath or basket can be done in place of the Birthing Necklace or in addition to it. You can either make your own wreath or buy one from a craft store. If you choose to do a basket, you most likely will want to buy one. Whether it is a basket or wreath, it should be made from natural materials, ideally.

You will need:

• Guests who have brought beads or trinkets OR
• Small slips of paper nice paper (such as scrapbook paper) and pens
• A natural fiber wreath or basket, from craft supply store
• Craft wire, beading thread or ribbons to attach trinkets or wishes to wreath or basket

How To Make A Birthing Wreath or Basket

Mother Blessing Birthing Wreath with Wishes

If you wish to decorate the wreath with trinkets, on the invitation, ask each guest to bring a small trinket or bead that symbolizes their

wish for the mother and baby in labor and birth. If you are already doing a birthing necklace and do not want guests to have to bring two trinkets, you can simply have guests write their wishes on a slip of paper and attach that to the wreath. You can always have some paper and ribbons on hand so that if any guests forget to bring a trinket they can still participate in this activity.

At the Mother Blessing, going clockwise around the circle, have each guest explain the significance of their bead or share their wish they have written on paper and then attach the trinket or paper to the wreath. The result is a wreath or basket full of good wishes for the mother to focus on while she is in labor. A wreath should be hung in the room where the mother plans to do most of her laboring, in a spot where she will easily be able to view it.

Tips:

• If the expecting mother is planning to give birth at a hospital or birthing center, a basket may be more practical as it can be carried more easily and be set down on a table or chair (the hospital probably isn’t going to let you hang a wreath in the labor room!). A basket can also be packed with other labor easing items such as aromatherapy misters and labor-friendly aromatherapy essential oils to bring to the hospital.
• You can decorate the wreath or basket with beads and trinkets that your guests have brought OR you can have them write a wish for the mother’s labor on a small slip of paper (with a hole punched in it) and tie those to the basket or wreath with a ribbon.
• If you are using paper wishes, as you have your guests write their wishes on paper, make sure you point out that they will be expected to read their wish aloud to the group.

Help mom relax with a foot bath from you and anyone who wants to help out. This can be done as a group or off to the side while guests eat or engage in other Mother Blessing activities.

You will need:

• Dishpan Tub of warm water
• Flower petals or essential oil for water:
  • rose petals, lavender buds, calendula, mint, lemon balm
  • rose essential oil, lavender essential oil
• Towels
• Nail clippers
• Pumice stone or salt glow scrub
• Mild Soap
• Unscented Massage oil
• Cornmeal (optional)
• Mild moisturizer

How To Give A Foot Bath

1. Fill a dishpan basin with warm water and fragrance the water with flower petals
2. To start the foot bath first let both feet soak in the warm water for a minute or so. As you work through the foot bath, remember to work on one foot and let the other one continue to soak.
3. Lather up the bar of soap and work on one foot while the other foot continues to soak.
4. Place the first foot back in the water and wash the second foot
5. Make sure both feet are completely rinsed off
6. If mom has been having trouble reaching her toe nails, grab some nail clippers and trim them for her
7. Massage each foot with some gentle pregnancy-friendly massage oil. Do one foot at a time while the other one soaks in the water.
   1. Rub a little oil onto your hands and very gently, begin at the heel (or even her calf) and slowly work your way to her toes in small circles.
   2. Massage each toe individually.
   3. Stroke your finger along each toe bone from her ankle to her toes
   4. Do the same thing for the spaces between her toe bones, ending at the spaces between toes and separating the toes
   5. Then do some nice long strokes with both hands from her calf to her toes
   6. If she has any requests, follow them, but remember to be very gentle
8. Next, exfoliate the feet with some bath crystals, salt glow scrub or even a pumice stone. Rub gently in small circles giving extra attention to the heels and any other rough skin spots.
9. After exfoliation, rinse both feet thoroughly and take both feet out of the water.
10. You can dry each foot with a towel or use cornmeal to dry the feet. Drying the feet with cornmeal will impart a nice glow that is symbolic of luck and protection as she walks along her path.
11. Moisturize each foot

Any extra supplies would make a great gift to the expecting mom — make sure her partner knows how to use them!

Notes:

• Keep in mind that not all herbs and essential oils used in grooming products are suitable for pregnancy. It is safest to err on the side of using unscented products, although lavender and rose are generally considered safe for the third trimester of pregnancy. If the mother to-be is having any complications OR if you plan to use any products that contain herbs and essential oils other than rose or lavender, make sure you discuss the foot bath and the products you intend to use with her doctor or midwife first.
• Mention your intention to give a foot bath ahead of time so the expecting mom knows not to wear panty hose or tights!

Mother Blessing Hair Grooming Ritual

Hair grooming is another cornerstone of the Mother Blessing tradition. Get out a nice natural bristle hair brush and give the new mom a relaxing hair brushing. You can finish it off by decorating her hair with flowers.

You will need:

• (Natural Bristle) Hair Brush
• If you like, you can put a couple drops of rose or lavender essential oil on the brush for an aromatherpay effect
• Optional Hair Decorations:
  • Fresh picked flowers
  • Hair pins, hair combs, ribbons, etc

What to do

I hope this is as self-explanatory as it sounds!  Fully brush her hair, massage her temples, stimulate her scalp. You can leave her hair down, put it up, or style it according to her wishes. Then decorate her hair with flowers, ribbons, hair combs or even a crown of flowers. If you have two or more people who want to be part of the grooming rituals, you can have one or more people groom her hair while others give her a foot bath.

You can make a crown of flowers by starting with crafting or florist wire.  Braid three strands of crafting wire leaving spaces in the braids for the flowers. Fashion the braid into a circle that will fit the mother’s head comfortably. Tie ends together with a ribbon. Then insert the flowers into the braids of wire. Or, for a simpler crown that probably won’t last as long, you can simply cut a small slit in the flower stems and chain them together, as in a daisy chain.

Make A Belly Cast for your Mother Blessing

Belly casting is an excellent way to preserve your pregnant belly in 3D and once the cast is set, you can decorate it! I am writing this editorial based on my own experience making a belly cast and from tips from friends who have done it too. There are many resources online where you can purchase a Belly Casting Kit, or even hire an artist to help you. Since belly casting requires bearing most of your torso, this may be best done in a small Mother Blessing. You can also make the cast ahead of time and decorate it at the Mother Blessing.

If a kit or artist sounds expensive, all you really need is:

• impregnated plaster of paris strips (from a craft or art supply store) — at least two packages
• some petroleum jelly or cocoa butter (to lubricate mom’s skin)
• a bucket or bin of water
• a big tarp, plastic sheet or old bed sheet

How To Make A Belly Cast

1. Cut the Plaster of Paris Strips
   Unroll the impregnated plaster of paris strips and cut them into lengths that will cover the expecting mother’s belly. You will also need some strips for her sides and to criss-cross between her breasts (assuming you are including her breasts in the cast)
2. Prepare the Casting Area
   A garage or basement is probably the ideal place to do a belly cast, unless you like cleaning plaster of paris out of your carpet. Lay down a tarp, plastic sheet, old bed sheet or layers of newspaper. Place a comfortable, but not fancy or expensive, chair in the center. If you like, cover the chair with a sheet too. Fill the bucket with warm water and place it near the chair. Have the cut plaster of paris strips nearby. Also, prepare an area where you will be able to leave the fresh cast to set overnight.
3. Prepare the Pregnant Lady
   If she is modest, you should create the cast before the Mother Blessing. To get a good cast of the entire belly, she really should only wear an old pair of underwear (as in ready to be thrown away anyway) to keep plaster of paris out of her pubic region. Use a generous amount of petroleum jelly or cocoa butter moisturizer to lubricate her belly and chest and any other body parts you want to include in the cast (but don’t use too much as the plaster of paris strips may slip off). Don’t forget to get under her belly too. Get her comfortable in the chair and use another sheet to cover her legs and shoulders that aren’t being cast. You are welcome to get artistic about the position to make a belly cast in, but remember that the subject is pregnant and will have to remain comfortably in that position until the cast has set.
4. The Goopy Mess
   Following the impregnated plastic of paris strips package directions, dip the plaster of paris strips into the bucket of water and apply them to the expecting mother. I recommend starting by placing two strips vertically from her arm pits to her hips as side bars for the cast. Then, criss-cross at least two strips between her breasts (or across them if she is large breasted). Next, apply the strips around her belly, making sure to overlap them sufficiently. Start at the bottom of her belly and continue up until you have covered her belly and breasts. Dip your hands in the water and spread the plaster evenly around her belly, smoothing out the strips. Repeat for a second layer. Mom will start to feel the inside of the cast drying, so work quickly to keep the first layer from drying too much before you get the second layer going. To finish ,neatly tuck in the sides and edges, making sure they will be smooth when the cast is removed. Dip your hands in the water and smooth the plaster over the strips once again, making sure that everything is nice and smooth over her belly and breasts.
5. The long wait
   Now wash your hands and go get mom a nice cup of water with a straw so she can relax while you wait for the cast to harden. If you are her birthing partner, this will be good practice for remembering to keep her hydrated while she is in labor and putting up with her being cranky even though you are being really nice to her. Read the plaster of paris strips package directions as to how long it will take for the cast to set before it can be removed. When it is time, carefully pull the cast away from mom’s body — now we will find out how good of a job lubricating her belly you did!
6. Running for the shower
   Lay the fresh cast down on newspaper to harden somewhere where it won’t get bothered by pets or other children. At this point, you should lay it down, “belly up”, and not try to display it. Tuck in or cut off any rough edges. Follow package directions for time to let it set.Now that you have the fresh cast set aside, help mom out of the chair. Get an old towel wet and try to get as much of the plaster off her as you can while she is still standing on the tarp or plastic sheet. Help her remove the old panties and throw them out. Help mom get to the shower without dripping too much plaster all over the place.
7. Decorating
   Even a plain old belly cast is still astonishing, so you do not have to go any further. But if you like you can paint it with acrylic paints or decorate it with flowers, stones, shells, beads and even lacquer it for extra protection. This can make a fun Mother Blessing activity that doesn’t compromise the modesty of the expecting mom. If you use varnish around pregnant people, make sure it is in a well ventilated area or even outdoors.

Good luck and have fun!

Mother Blessing Ritual: Belly Painting

Belly painting can be a fun way to celebrate momma’s big belly without going to the hassle of making full-blown belly cast at a Mother Blessing. Traditionally, henna has been used to decorate a pregnant woman’s belly to distract her while she is in labor — so give her something fun to look at!

You will need:

• Non-toxic body paints* OR
• Natural Henna “tattoo” kit*
• A Camera
• Comfy chair for mom to sit in while everyone paints her belly

How to paint a belly:

I hope this is pretty self explanatory. Read and follow the package directions for either the body paints or henna. Use stencils or go free hand … you can decide on a theme or just let everyone decorate!

Decorating suggestions include:

• sun
• stars
• moon
• sky
• flowers
• animals
• Asian or middle east characters or symbols
• female symbol
• fetus in utero
• plus spirals & art deco flourishes.

Make sure you take a picture to preserve your temporary work of art!

Notes:

• *Please do a patch test at least 24 hours before the Mother Blessing to make sure mom isn’t sensitive to body paints and/or henna.
• Make sure you mention your intention to do a belly painting to the expecting mother so she knows to wear a separate top & bottom (skirt or pants). Dresses are not conducive to exposing that pregnant belly and decorating it!

Mother Blessing Ritual: Wrist Binding

This ritual is tremendously powerful. I find that it makes a nice conclusion to the main part of a Mother Blessing as everyone is joined together and then cut apart.

You will need:

• A new package of cotton or hemp jewelry cord or yarn
  • You will need one long, unbroken piece of cord
  • You will need about 10 feet or more if you have a lot of guests
  • If you have a nice long piece of jewelry cord left over from making a birthing necklace, it will do nicely!
  • However, do not use anything too strong as you will need to be able to cut it using one hand and you want it to be comfortable to wear.
• Scissors

How To Perform the Wrist Binding Ritual

Have everyone, including the expecting mother, stand in a tight circle.  Each guest should wrap the cord around the wrist of the person to their left and say “From women we are born into this circle, From women we are born into this world.” When everyone is linked together, everyone should hold hands and make a wish for an easy birth. You can also sing a song here. After the wishes and songs, pass a pair of scissors around the circle and have each person cut the person to their left enough of the cord to keep wrapped around their wrist, plus enough to tie it. If the cord is made of natural fibers (wool, hemp or cotton), make sure you leave the bracelet loose as it will shrink when you wash your hands and shower. Everyone should be instructed to keep making their wish whenever they look down at their bracelet and keep wearing the bracelets until the baby is born.

Tips:

• Since you will have one hand “tied” in the circle, have the scissors handy near where you will make the circle. We once had to waddle as a group over to a pair of scissors!
• If any of your guests have occupations where they cannot wear jewelry or other “distractions” on their hands or wrists, it is OK for them to move the cord to their ankle and wear it there.
• I would not recommend using embroidery floss or any type of light string. If the baby is late, the floss will get really tattered and even fall apart.

Mother Blessing Ritual: Meditation Stones

Have each guest decorate a stone with their wish for the mother while she is in labor. After they dry, each guest can present her stone to the expecting mother and explain her wish. The mom-to-be can use the stones to concentrate on and find strength from the wishes they represent while she is in labor.

You will need:

• Palm sized flat stones (from rock bed or craft store)
• Paints & brushes (from craft or art supply store)
• Spray Varnish (from craft store)
• A box or basket to hold the stones
• A table or area for painting and an area where the paint can dry undisturbed

What to do

Everyone should pick a stone and paint it with a word or symbol that represents their wish for the expecting mother while she is in labor.  Allow the painted stones to air dry and, if time permits, use a spray varnish or other protective layer to keep the paints from chipping off. Make sure you do this in a well ventilated area, away from any pregnant people!

If you like, you can have each person present their stone to the expecting mother and explain what their wish is.

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Blessingway with my daughter, January 2011

My group of friends have a wonderful, long-standing tradition of holding mother blessing, or blessingway, ceremonies for each other when we’re pregnant. Our local tradition began in the 1980’s with my own mother’s group of friends and has carried down into the next generation and our childbearing years.

On this page, I’ve brought together all of my previous posts and resources about mother blessings. Here you can find many ideas and resources for blessingways and women’s ceremonies. Enjoy!

• Blessingways and the role of ritual
• Ceremonial Bath and Sealing Ceremony
• Mother Blessings and the Power of Ritual

Mother blessing with my youngest, September 2014.

• A birth blessing
• Mother Blessing Quotes
• Blessingway Readings & Chants
• Virtual Blessingway, part 2
• Ceremonial Bathing
• Honoring, Sealing, & Postpartum Care
• New Baby Ritual
• Women’s Retreat Recipe
• If birth were a temple
• Midwife’s Invocation
• Birth Spiral Chakra Blessing
• Birth Labyrinth
• Birth Blessings, Life, and Community
• Blessingway Poem: A Prayer for One Who Comes to Choose This Life
• The Blessingway Connection
• My own Mother Blessing Ceremony
• Poem: Celebrate the Woman Pregnant

  Salt bowl ceremony, September 2014

• Full moon poem
• Courage reading
• Fear release for birth
• Birth warrior affirmation
• Two birth poems
• Birthing poem
• Lento Tempo
• A Mother’s Nest
• More Readings for Women’s Programs

• Moon Salutation Yoga Series for Blessingway or Women’s Gathering
• The Blessingway Connection
• Poem: Woman & Nature
• Responsive Readings for Women’s Rituals
• Mother Blessing Gifts
• Ceremony Kits

Here is a handout of the chants we often use at mother blessings. It is formatted with the chants in two columns so it can be cut in half to distribute during a ceremony.

I am also the author of a 68 page digital Ritual Recipe Kit that includes detailed instructions for a mother blessing ceremony as well as scripts for several other types of ceremonies for women.

This 68 page digital ritual recipe kit includes general information about planning and facilitating rituals. It includes “ritual recipes” for maiden, mother, and crone ceremonies as well as a bonus new baby naming ritual and a family full moon ritual. Each ritual contains a complete ritual script as well as suggested supplies, an actual recipe relevant to the ritual such as cocoa butter belly balm for a mother blessing, handouts, readings, songs and more.

via Ritual Recipe Kit for Women’s Ceremonies digital by BrigidsGrove.

And, we’ve also developed a digital version of our Mother Blessing Facilitator Kit.

For women interested in facilitating Red Tent Circles, I’m pleased to offer a bundled collection of resources in a Red Tent Kit.

Restoring Women to Ceremony: The Red Tent Resource Kit, was written exclusively as part of a rich collection of resources for Red Tent Circles. In this collection of essays and ritual resources, you will find complete Red Tent “recipes,” circle leadership basics, moontime musings, and readings, quotes, and poems to help you facilitate a rich, inviting, welcoming, creative space for the women of your community.

I’m also excited to offer a Red Tent Initiation Program online with the next class beginning on March 21.In 2015, I released a book of earth-based poetry that is full of beautiful readings perfect for women’s programs:

Come join the free Creative Spirit Circle for resources, monthly freebies, courses + mini books, and art announcements.

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